“Prejudice is to prejudge.
It means that we judge before we know.
We choose or accept a point of view
without care or concern,
and we do that out of fear."
— Albert K. Strong
One of the more important things to me that I learned from Paul Selig's books expands on the Bible's teaching about judging not lest ye be judged. The sentence that brought this powerfully home to me was this: “You don't know why they came here or what they chose to learn." That may be slightly paraphrased, but I thought, “wow! that is for sure and for certain."
In Paul's book, The Book of Love and Creation, that I have so marked up you would laugh if you saw it, here is how he expands on this:
“The moment you understand that you are not the one in authority here in terms of judgment, you can begin to liberate the self. What this means, very simply, is humility. Are you in your humility? Who are you to judge your fellow man for their behavior? Do you know what they have come here to learn? Do you know what their choices are? What pain they have experienced? Or what light may be there for them at the end of their lesson? You do not know. How can you pretend to know at that level? If you are judging them, we promise you this: You do not know. You are in your illusion and in your self-congratulatory-ness, you have given yourself a nice dose of separation from your own knowing and from the flow of the love of the Creator that would work through you."
Since learning this in this way, I have never forgotten it. When I find myself judging which is a reckless act of the ego, I am in my awareness and will stop pretty quickly now. I realize that I am judging and I do not want to judge anyone else. We have grown up making all manner of judgments about others and we do not know.
Unconditional love is what allows others to be as they are without any need to satisfy me or comply with my beliefs, rules, or imaginings. That is not like getting on that horse and riding like a champion. It is a practice. Falling off the horse from time to time keeps me in my humility and is a welcome reminder to mind my own business. I am a handful by myself.