“True freedom is the absence of resistance; true freedom is the presence of alignment–true freedom is the way you feel when you are no longer disallowing your complete alignment, or blending, with the Broader Non-Physical part of you. Therefore, it is not possible to be in the act of pushing against something unwanted and be blended with who-you-really-are and what you want at the same time.
You cannot be in the state of pushing against what you do not want and be in harmony with what you do want at the same time. And so, you will never get to a better-feeling state by trying to control others, no matter how well-meaning you believe your motives to be."
— Abraham, Esther Hicks