“When you judge another,
you do not define them,
you define yourself."
— Wayne Dyer
My ego used to be in charge of my judgment. I would very easily judge harshly of another or something for a wide variety of justifiable reasons. My ego loves justifying all of its actions, thoughts, and feelings. Sometime back, in an ongoing process, I became aware that I am not my ego and that I can be in control. I still judge. It cannot be helped. I have an immediate opinion. What has changed is that I almost immediately, and closer to immediately every day, take the helm of my thought, and choose loving and accepting thoughts. Even now if I see something that I definitely do not like, I choose to accept and allow that my way is not the way. There is no way. There is your way, my way, their way, and they are all ways. This allows me to love regardless.
As with patience, and happiness, and gratitude, how we judge is a practice. I am practicing non-judgment as much as I can, as often as I can. Periodically, I need to remind myself that I am in practice and that there will be no end to the practice as long as I am in this physical time-space reality and hanging out with my ego. It is in the lining up with my Inner Spirit that is my strongest desire. In that alignment, I feel accepted and loved, as I also love and accept.