“Own your own feelings. Nobody else does.
Accept that you don’t own the other person’s feelings."
— Deepak Chopra
This quote is the single most profound personal help I ever learned. I learned it in my twenties back in the mid-1970s. I’ve never forgotten it and I have done my best to put it to good use in my life. However, there have been many, many times that after having this profound knowledge, decided to ignore it and blame others for my feelings while even being fully aware of that fact. I did it anyway.
Does that sound familiar? How many things that I learn that are so helpful that I also choose to ignore is interesting. And, here’s the best answer to that I have ever found:
“Practice is nine-tenths." — Ralph Waldo Emerson
As I practice on purpose what I have learned, it has a better chance of having a positive impact and influence on me and my behavior. So, if there is any work to learning, it is the constant internal nudging to put it into practice and practice it until it is known; until it becomes me.