Mistakes Are Only Stepping Stones Of Progress

“No matter how many mistakes you make 
or how slow you progress, 
you're still way ahead of everyone 
who isn't trying.” 
— Tony Robbins 

[Classic post from 1-26-16]

As Yoda said so perfectly, “Do or do not. There is no try,” whatever gets done, gets done by doing. And, what does it matter how long it takes. It's not a race unless that is the way you choose to imagine it. It is simply a journey–a journey of our own choosing, to a destination that is of our own creation, and our pace is not an issue unless we choose to make it so. Truly, it isn't even the destination either. It is simply the decision to do and the doing that matters in the end.

Even if we stop anywhere along that journey, choose something else and focus on it, the previous doing becomes a stepping stone on the much grander journey that we call life. There is no place or time that we need to be, only choices from desires of what we think we want. And, because that is in a constant state of flux, enjoying our life is tantamount to enjoying the doing. We call that living. 

Sometimes we get so hung up on where we think we should be, and the only reason we may think this is in comparison to another or others. Comparing ourselves to others is a waste of time and energy, and has a tendency to depersonalize the journey. Focusing on what we want is in our best interest. That is our journey and by that focus, it is the best it can be. As to the others, we thrive by blessing them where they are, inviting some to come along should they have a similar desire, and turn our remaining focus to enjoying the trip.

It's all good. Enjoy your journey. Enjoy your doing. Enjoy yourself. Enjoy your life.

Don't Forget To Breathe Deeply. You Might Put That On A Sticky Note As A Reminder. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by loving your life as it is on your way to wherever you may be going.

Choose. Choose Again.

“There is no need to accept 
when we can choose.” 
— Albert K. Strong 

[Classic post from 2-15-16]

Rumi said, “Come, come, whoever you are. Wanderer, worshiper, lover of leaving. It doesn't matter. Ours is not a caravan of despair. Come even if you have broken your vows a thousand times. Come, yet again. Come, come.”

No matter what our situation–no matter what–we need not accept it because we always have the ability to choose. We always, always have the ability to choose a thought, and consequently how we will feel at any given time. It doesn't matter if the world is crumbling around us, we can still choose. It doesn't matter how many times we've failed to do what we thought we wanted to do, or what someone else thought we should do. It just doesn't matter. We can choose again. And again. And again. And again.

Of course, accepting is okay. If that is what we choose, and we know many who do, it is just fine. But, we need not accept just because that situation is what it is right now. We don't have to accept illness, poverty, despair, powerlessness, depression, grief, discouragement. When we have the ability to choose, we can choose these, and we can also choose otherwise.

The world has a long list of those who have chosen again and succeeded, changed their circumstances–even dire circumstances for the better. It's all in allowing ourselves to choose again. Edison chose again 10,000 times it has been said. I smoked cigarettes for 38 years and quit thousands of times, then I chose again and it stuck at age 52 and now it has been 14 years of freedom. It just doesn't matter how many times it didn't work. The next time can. There is no good reason to accept things the way they are except one: Because that is the way you choose it to be–that you desire it, want it. Otherwise, choose again.

You're In Good Company! 

Spread Some Joy Today–Whether you're working the President's Day Sale, or having that coveted three-day weekend relaxing, unwinding, having fun, your joy is within not without. Enjoy yourself!

Celebrating Change Influencers

“No matter how much fault 
you find with another, 
it will not change you.” 
— Wayne Dyer 

[Classic post from 1-22-16]

In my life's past, I spent a stupid amount of time finding fault in others. It might have been people at work, slowpokes in front of me when I was in a hurry, things breaking or going wrong. It didn't much matter who or what, but something or someone other than me had to be blamed for my circumstances. Even if I did a silly thing, I would find ways to justify my actions and choices to exonerate me from blame. I never got the quote above and its truth until the last ten years, and even then it has been a journey of personal change. 

What I finally learned was that none of those people, what they did or didn't do, said or failed to say, or the situations where things were not to my liking, were the real culprit; the reason for my ill feelings. It was me.

As I look back with clarity now, I see that it was 100% me. Essentially, I created it all because all of the hurt feelings, unhappiness, and poor situations were thoughts in my head. And, my ego, who loves to mix it up and always win was having a field day with all of it, stirring it up and swooshing it around, keeping it alive.

There were many factors that came into play to help guide me out of that morass. One book opened the door and began the slow change by encouraging in a very simple and easy way, a fresh point of view for me. This book was published in the 1970s and is still a strong seller today: Love is Letting Go of Fear by Gerald Jampolsky. I've given several hundred copies away and always have many copies in my office for that purpose when the opportunity arises. It is such an easy read, and can be read in about an hour, but is full of power and wisdom.

I think it is important to celebrate the people, or books, or whatever came onto your path that causes a significant change in thinking that helps lead you to a better life. They might be a protagonist or even an antagonist. Sometimes it is a strong negative situation that causes a strong desire to move toward a more positive situation. Quite often it is a decision that is made, and then from that decision, the Law of Attraction lines up other things, people, and situations that cause even more growth and desired change. It may even be difficult to pinpoint who and when, as there may be a host of people or things that are guiding us.

So, I was thinking this morning that, for me at least, and I encourage you just for the joy in it, to take a bit of time today to think of the people and situations that have been significant in a guiding role in your life. They may have been someone who pissed you off to the extent that you finally said, no more! Or it might be someone who just brought such unconditional love to you that you could not resist its benefit.

Whatever, whomever, and how many ever there were, only you know them and how they helped you move on, move forward or get over. Let us celebrate them today. Write some things down, tell the story, let it roll around in your head and heart for a while today. That joy will so brighten your day, and through the ether, those who helped, currently dead or alive will feel you expressing your delight, and it will be of benefit all around. 

Today Is Change Celebration Friday! 

Spread Some Joy Today–by your celebration of your helpers.

Thinking Makes It So

“There is nothing either good or bad 
but thinking makes it so.” 
“There is no darkness but ignorance.” 
— William Shakespeare

[Classic post from 2-18-16]

This morning I was reading on the subject of homelessness and watching a portion of a video of the Mayor of Seattle calling a state of emergency to help deal with the problems in their city surrounding this subject. Many things were itemized, and the most basic cause was ignored.

This is true in all of us to one degree or another. Maybe not to the point of causing homelessness, but certainly affecting us in other ways where we end up with less than we desire.

As I have come to see it from my armchair, the problem begins with thinking. It is nurtured and grown in thought, which becomes thought-form, then manifestation. No matter how much money we may have, none of us is very far from the feelings of powerlessness, helplessness, hopelessness, despair, depression, unworthiness, guilt, insecurity, grief, and fear to name a few. These might be considered the bottom of the emotional scale. Many of us have even visited these places from time to time, yet we found solace in a timely manner that led us out of despair and into hopefulness, then on to optimism, positive expectation, and even back to happiness and joy.

As in the message in Seattle, I know that in my own life, and I can see it in others I meet, I have often sought solutions that is like going to the Doctor's office where they treat the symptoms, and the cause often goes unnoticed and unaddressed. It is often not even looked at. I think this is mainly because we think that thoughts are not things, whereas the things that we treat are physical things. Nonetheless, sometimes treating the symptoms helps us to feel better and we heal even though the cause wasn't touched.

In other words, we seek and utilize action first and thinking goes along for the ride. And, even though thinking was the cause, we cannot seem to relate to its power as being real. But it is very real. Often it is so real that the symptoms come again and again though they may look different. As an example, someone gets ill, the symptoms are treated and they 'come down with' or 'catch' another illness, and another.

We're not surprised when we trust that things will not work out that they don't, but we may rarely trust that things will work out and believe it as it would be so. In both cases in this dichotomy, we believe our action will prevail if anything will. That is a statement of our belief and our trust. Paul Coelho (and many, many others) said, “when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” Yet because we don't see that, or sense the action of it, we put little or no belief in it. But what if it were absolutely true?

It comes down to our focus, which is our trust. When we focus on what we want, and completely, or as completely as possible ignore what we don't want, this opens the communication line to the Universe to help bring it to us. When we continually try to address the problem, we are not focused on the solution as we think we are, but on creating more of the problem.

At the crosswalk, how many times is it necessary to press the button to engage the crosswalk light? Once. How many times need we ask for what we want to begin the process of it coming to us? Once. Pressing the crosswalk button multiple times, not only has no added effect, but it is a sure indicator of lack of trust. The same is true when we ask for what we want and then by continually asking for it, we are acknowledging a lack of trust that it is coming, and we keep starting over.

There are so many ways that we do this in our lives. We keep pressing the button without effect. We demonstrate our lack of trust. We don't believe that the Universe conspires to help us, but believe in our own will and power to make it happen. How interesting it would be to believe and trust and allow. And how much easier too. To ask once, then focus and trust by seeing it as already accomplished, finding joy in the feeling of that, is allowing all of our desire, perhaps even better than imagined to come true.

Such Is The Power Of Thought. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by allowing your joy to flow freely by trusting your joy has no shortages. It is ever-flowing as it is allowed to flow.

Everything To Do With Character

“Character is that which can do without success.” 
— Ralph Waldo Emerson 

[Classic post from 3-7-16]

I think that sometimes we might think that achievement or a certain stature within a place has everything to do with character. It may have to do with a certain success in the way of accomplishment, but I think it has little or nothing to do with character.

I view character as that which we are; the accumulation of all that we are; that which we are when no other person is within sight or sound of ourselves. Achievement is not that which we are, as stature is not who we have become or from where we may have come in terms of lineage. Instead, character has no desire for success, or achievement, or stature. It is simply and perfectly that which we are this moment.

In That, We Are All Of Sufficient Character. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by relaxing in yourself, whom you have become to date, and with anticipation of all that you will be.

They Pay You To Learn!

“They pay you to learn.” 
— Garry Marshall 

[Classic post from 3-10-16]

In the last month or so, I've listened to the unabridged autobiography audiobooks of several famous comedy writers, movie directors, TV producers, such as Carl Reiner, famous as the producer of the Dick Van Dyke Show among many other endeavors, Norman Lear, most famous for TV sitcoms, All in the Family, The Jeffersons, One Day At a Time, and more, Garry Marshall, great movie director of such films as Pretty Woman and TV producer of Happy Days, Laverne and Shirley, to name a few, Penny Marshall, sister to Garry and a movie director of movies such as Big, A League of Their Own, and many others.

All of these people had fascinating histories, and all of them had one thing in common. They were willing and eager to try things they had never done and acted with a certain amount of confidence in their abilities to have it turn out well. They were all on a path where many have said, the Universe conspired to help them succeed, even in spite of their lack of knowledge or specific skill set. 

Although I'm not famous as they, in looking back, I did the same kinds of things in order to move into positions and businesses that I didn't have any experience in.

Sometimes, I hear people complain that because they have no experience, they are not given opportunities, but that is just noise. They just like complaining. And, it is also true. They are blocked, but not by others. They are blocked by their own thinking.

They might make up all manner of excuses, such as needing a college education, a certain college degree from a certain type of college, or that in general, they need to learn a whole lot more before they can get started. My long-time mentor Jim Rohn talks of that as a builder who is going to build a tall building and keeps bringing materials to the site but never seems to get started building, always needing more materials, more preparedness, more, more, more. Alas, if the building will get built, we must begin building and have confidence in what will be needed will be there when we need it.

The quote above came from the audiobook I just finished by Penny Marshall where her brother, Garry Marshall was encouraging her to direct a movie even though she had never directed a movie. She had directed several TV shows. He said to her that they pay you to learn. That is so true.

They paid me to learn.

They paid me to learn how to be a good sales manager having never been one, paid me to manage tens of millions of dollars of inventory having never done that, start several businesses, having never done that, and more. It's so interesting to look back and see how little I knew and yet figured it out as I went.

So, the message here is to make a decision and get moving. Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” I'm pretty sure, no one ever sees the whole staircase ahead of moving forward on it. And, even if they imagined that they did, the Universe would probably guide them in such a way that they could not have seen anyway. So, what the heck? Let's get started! Who knows what wonderful adventures will come?

First Step: Decision. Second Step: MOVE! 

Spread Some Joy Today–by letting go of any tension. Relax. It's all good.

Impatience Is An Illusion Of Benefit

“Impatience is an illusion of benefit, 
for it knows not success.” 
— Albert K. Strong 

[Classic post from 2-5-16]

Once again the other day, I saw a guy at an intersection pushing the crosswalk button 14 times. He would most likely have pushed it and heard it beep a hundred times, but he was very close to the sequence and the light changed for him. I asked the question one time before, what is the optimal number of times to press the crosswalk button? Well, I think I know the answer. It is once. That is all that is required. All the rest have zero added value.

It occurred to me yesterday that when we want something, as in a desire, or a goal, what is the optimal number of times to ask for it? I think the answer is the same: once. Yet some people will continually ask, write them down, carry them around with them, and so on. But wanting impatiently has a tendency to work in a way we didn't anticipate. It keeps us on track for wanting. Not for getting. Once we know what we want, we only need ask once, and then turn toward receiving.

According to Abraham, Esther Hicks, when we ask, it is always given, and that Source Energy begins the process of helping that wanted thing to come to you, but they also say that we get what we think about, and even more appropriately, what we feel about.

“You get what you think about, whether you want it or not. By the powerful Universal Law of Attraction, you draw to you the essence of whatever you are predominantly thinking about.” When we are thinking that we are wanting this thing or situation over and over again, the Law of Attraction will keep reinforcing the concept of wanting. Continual wanting is an affirmation of continually not having. Not having is reinforcing the wanting and it goes in a circle around and around and around like an endless loop.

I realized yesterday, that once we ask, we stop asking and turn away from the idea of wanting something that we do not have toward belief by seeing it in our mind's eye as already accomplished. Another way to say that is to trust that Source Energy, The Universe, God, is true to always say yes to a request, and knowing there is always some kind of time delay to it's actually showing up, we turn toward what is our job of focusing on receiving.

Think of it like the crosswalk button. How many times do we need to push that button for the crosswalk light to say 'walk'? The optimal number is once. It is the same with our desires or wants. Continually asking is purely impatience, but it is also an affirmation of not having, and continual thoughts of not having, attracts more not having. Simple.

So yesterday, I sat down and wrote out a long list of things and situations that I want, many I have wanted for a long time. Then I burned it. Then I let it go. Now I am focused on receiving and seeing in my mind's eye those things as if they are already accomplished. As I was out for a walk with Charlie, I was laughing with joy at all the images of those things flashing in my brain. It was delightful. And it feels so much better than wanting.

Trust Is An Amazing Tool. 

Spread Some Joy Today–I'll bet you find a lot of joy in seeing those things that you want as if they are already here. I know I am.

How Would You Know?

“You’re not given your resume
with your birth certificate. 
You create your life 
and you can recreate it.” 
— Ken Robinson 

[Classic post from 1-20-16]

Last weekend, I reread via audiobook, The Element by Ken Robinson. I love his voice and first met him on his 2006 YouTube viral TED video. Then yesterday, I read the sequel to The Element, titled, Finding Your Element. Both books were read by Ken Robinson, and I have to say that they are both fascinating about how people find what they do best by finding that personal something that causes them to be in their ‘element.’ There are such great stories of how people found that special thing that they were meant to do, so to speak. Some found it early in life, and others nearer the end, and yet each was like an epiphany when found.

Early in the book, Finding Your Element, Ken talks about there being Three Elemental Principles. One is that each of our lives is unique. Number two is that we create our own lives. This is where the above quote came from, and he added this: “As the psychologist George Kelly says, “No one needs to be a victim of their own biography.” Or, as Carl Jung puts it, “I am not what has happened to me, I am what I choose to become.”

Principle #3 is that life is not linear, it is organic. He says, “My life, like yours, is a constant process of improvisation between my interests and personality on the one hand and the circumstances and opportunities on the other. The one affects the other. Many of the opportunities you have in your life are generated by the energy you create around you.” (That last line is worth rereading a few times!)

I love how he goes on to say, “Of course, the whole process can seem very different when you come to write your resume. You then impose a linear narrative on your life, to make it look as if it was all planned and deliberate. You organize your story around key dates and achievements with headings in bold and italic, to give the impression that your life has been unfolding according to a sensible, premeditated scheme. You do this to encourage yourself and to avoid giving the prospective employers the impression that your life has been the uncertain process of tacking and weaving that most lives really are.”

It’s All Good. How Would You Know Until You Tried?

Spread Some Joy Today–by releasing the seriousness of it all.

Success Is…

“I couldn't wait for success, 
so I went ahead without it.” 
— Jonathan Winters 

[Classic post from 1-2-16]

Success is such a strange word and has such a wide range of meanings that it is really hard to use with authority. I guess the simplest definition of success would be that things work out. But, I think that less than an end result, success is more like life in that it is a journey, and it is the journey that matters most.

Here are some words on success from Abraham, Esther Hicks to ponder for this brand new year, and for whatever value you may find in them:

“Life will always be working out for me… 

I like understanding that things are always evolving, and while there are many things that could be better where I am, it is not really a problem because “where I am” is constantly changing to something better. I like knowing that as I look for the best things around me where I am, those things become more prevalent in my experience. 

It is fun to know that things are always working out for me, and as I watch for the evidence of that. . . I see more evidence of that every day.” 

What A Great Attitude To Make Use Of, Don't You Think? 

Spread Some Joy Today–by loving yourself.

Difficult. Easy. Great. Small. Everything Is Perception!

“All difficult things have their origin in that which is easy,
and great things in that which is small.”

— Lau Tzu
[Classic post from 2-12-12]
A highrise office building, a house, a shed, a chair, a table, are all things that are difficult and easy. Which ones are which? They are both easy and difficult. The main difference as to which they are is based predominantly on how I choose to think about them. The largeness of smallness of a project is not the issue. Walking 10 feet or 10 miles is both walking. Building a table is like building a house or an office building in the same kind of comparison.
Much of the time we consider that something physically large is more difficult, or that a larger idea is more difficult and so we have a tendency to get hung up on the perceived difficulty of something and find reasons to avoid it, put it off, delegate it, or other methods of avoidance. If, however, we thought about it as easy, we would have no issue with getting going on the project, while fully understanding that something larger may have a tendency to take more time or more help. That doesn't make it difficult unless we consider it so.
So, as we look at opportunities that may come up in our lives, we often bring this big and small thinking along with us and it affects our decisions and certainly our activity and/or commitment levels.
Why not choose to look at all these things as easy? They certainly can be. The possibilities that change in thinking will open up are larger than the highrise office building and can be as easy as the table. 

I Am Coming To The Conclusion That EVERYTHING Is Perception. How Empowering!

Spread Some Joy Today–Make a choice that everything will be easy today. Get your easy button out and punch it whenever you feel the urge. I love my easy button! (Staples.com about $5 and way fun.)
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