“In order to experience peace instead of conflict,
it is necessary to shift our perception.
Instead of seeing others as attacking us,
we can see them as fearful.”
— Gerald G. Jampolsky
Love Is Letting Go Of Fear
This quote from one of my all-time favorite books is so powerful that it is worth reading again and again until our perception shifts. As we think someone or perhaps several are attacking us, the trained response would be to go into defensive mode. We judge the attacker and we fantasize about their intentions and motives. We sound the alarm inside and as we think about defending ourselves, our honor, our territory, we go into war mode. What is that old adage about the battle? The best defense is a good offense. We become the attacker also. On and on it goes expanding and spreading like cancer that is taking over our body.
Yet as we are willing to not become attached to the attack and give it no energy, we can take the wonderful choice to see the attacker as not an attacker but someone who is fearful and perhaps even taken over by fear. Fear is where all battles exist. They cannot exist in love. Once we can see what is going on as a choice between love and fear, we can choose love. We can see that the one in fear is really calling for help and is, therefore, a request for love.
When we choose to see through the eyes of love, we cannot react habitually as we might have before. Now, we see the fear in the other and we choose not to be fearful and because we see with the eyes of love, we love them regardless of what they seem to be projecting. The title of Gerald’s book is a succinct and powerful phrase. Love really is letting go of fear. It is a choice. We can choose love. We all can.