Once we are in our awareness, we only need to remember. The trouble in recall is often how distracting the drama is. It is very easy to get caught up in the day-to-day, minute-to-minute noise going on around us. Like a deer in the headlights, we are drawn to the light and noise of the drama in our lives. We always have and always have had the power to discern where we are and what is going on, but that need to remember initially requires conscious choice and some focus. Once practiced sufficiently we will more easily awaken and make corrections to keep our primary and secondary relationships as healthy as they can be.