“I’ve made mistakes, and I know why I made them,
but I made that choice. Nobody’s ever made a choice for me.”
— Sandra Bullock
I used to call it PMA (Positive Mental Attitude), and positive thinking. It’s what I was learning in my mid-twenties from motivational speakers and books I was reading, but I wasn’t getting it really. Oh, I could repeat it, but I wasn’t living it. Know what I mean? It has taken so many more years to come back to it and then to live it and even understand it more.
Part of what is so cool about getting to this point is accepting responsibility for my choices. I did my share of blaming the economy, the current administration, the boss, and that list could go on for days. Now that I have accepted this responsibility, I need only look in the mirror if I was seeking excuses or people to blame.
It was a hard idea to really grasp for a while because when I was thinking about positive thinking, I was thinking about the inside out and when things would happen that weren’t really so much fun, I would think from the outside in–as if something outside was attacking me, wreaking havoc with my life. Then, I would muster all the positive thinking I could to think my way through it.
It is a different and so much more effective thing to accept everything that I get and be fully responsible for it with no excuses, and no circumstantial evidence to try to convince others or myself that I am an innocent victim.
So, in the end, it isn’t about positive thinking at all. It is about realizing that I create my own world. Realizing this fully and accepting the role of creator allows me to do more than positive thinking ever could.
I Am A Victim No More! And, It’s A Sweet Victory!
Spread Some Joy Today–There is so much joy in the realization that you have more control than you thought you did. Accept the responsibility that you are in charge.