is an act of far greater power
than defending or hanging on.”
Perseverance can be an important tool to help us get through some tough spots and help us get through to a successful conclusion. It can also be a great stumbling block and keep us on a path that is likely not to succeed no matter how much we want it to.
A friend knows I read a lot and suggested a book that he found interesting and helpful. The title is Necessary Endings by Henry Cloud. I read a good part of it and it reinforced much of what I have learned in my own life. Like the song, The Gambler made popular by Kenny Rogers said, “you’ve got to know when to hold ’em, know when to fold ’em,” Henry Cloud makes a case about the possibility that not giving into perseverance is a good strategy from time to time.
We’re so often taught that sticktoitivness is a virtue, that perseverance is a virtue and that only the strong survive and many other popular ideas of overcoming is the best thing we can do and that when we fail to do these things, we risk being “three feet from the gold” in failure. This is such a strong thing that is taught us that we are repelled by the idea that to give in can be a good thing.
I know in my life that there are times when I have persevered and it paid off and I also know there were times when I let it go before it was done and it was the right thing to do. We are the only judge of that. It doesn’t matter what others say (and remember they are probably enamored with the perseverance and hero ideals) about what we do. We need to make our own choices, have the courage to make them and then act in faith that we are our own best judge.
Quitting Is Not Necessarily A Bad Thing After All.
Spread Some Joy Today–Good on you for the choices you make. Keep making them!