“Rule A: Don’t. Rule A1: Rule A doesn’t exist. Rule A2: Do not discuss the existence or non-existence of Rules A, A1 or A2.”
— R. D. Laing
“If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun.”
— Katharine Hepburn
“I define nothing. Not beauty, not patriotism. I take each thing as it is, without prior rules about what it should be.”
— Bob Dylan
The word ‘should’ is a word that I have tried fiercely to remove from my vocabulary. It is a highly parental-oriented word to me and it is used so frivolously by so many to indicate rules about behavior and events. You should do this, you should do that, is all so distasteful to me, and it is used to indicate that there is an old, wise authority that has laid down rules that must be followed in order to remain in sync with the norm. It’s all a bunch of hooey (I like that word, hooey. . . it’s so lame!).
Rules for this, rules for that, rules for everything. Katherine Hepburn is right. There is no fun in rules. Who reads rules anyway? Ever read the list of rules at the public swimming hole? Of course, don’t pee in the pool, is a pretty good rule, but rules never really stopped anyone anyway. Remember that old saying, ‘rules are made to be broken’? I like the way Douglas MacArthur said it: “Rules are mostly made to be broken and are too often for the lazy to hide behind.” Easy for him to say. . .
Check your list of rules and regulations. Check your ‘should’ list. See if you can lighten the load. Maybe reduce it to one rule: breathe. As long as you follow that one, you’re good to go. Everything else is pure experience.
Others Rules Are Not Meant To Help, But To Control. Heck With That! You’re In Control! You Rock!
Spread Some Joy Today–Live today rule free. Give all the shoulds back to your parents. Let them be the should keepers. Say, ‘I AM!’