I’ve heard many people (including myself!) who have said things like, “He/she pissed me off!”, or “That just pisses me off.” or, “Who the hell do they think they are treating me like that?”, and a long list of angry reactions to some stimulus from another.
But, it is never the other that is causing the reaction. That’s the excuse we use because it puts blame away from us. Our ego loves to blame everything except ourselves. Yet, it is ourselves. The stimulus is only an opportunity for us to express what is already inside.
As Wayne Dyer has remarked (my paraphrase), when you squeeze an orange, orange juice comes out, and when you squeeze a person, what is inside them comes out. The stimuli will allow us to release a reaction and that reaction contains what is already inside of us. That might be anger, hatred, disgust, prejudice, revenge, jealousy, guilt, or any number of volatile thought-based negative emotions.
It could also be different. Instead of a reaction, it could be simply awareness. Or, it could release compassion, tenderness, understanding, unconditional love, or any number of thought-based positive emotions.
In all cases–all cases–it is our thoughts within ourselves that are creating the emotions or feelings we are having, and all of that dictates a reaction, a response, or simply an awareness. We are totally in control at all times. And, because we are in control, we are choosing to think those thoughts and follow through with whatever actions or lack of action we are choosing. People can only push our buttons and get a reaction when we allow that to happen. They have no power over us except that which we give them.
Next time you read something, see something, or hear something that pisses you off, remember that this reaction is from you, not them or it. Remember that it is what is inside you. Ask yourself if that is what you want inside you? Ask yourself if this is the person you want to be? Acceptance of that is fine, but blaming others or conditions for that is not because it isn’t true. If that is not what you want, only you can change it, and you have the power within you to do so at any time.
One last bit from Abraham, Esther Hicks: “You can be happy or sad, it doesn’t matter. You get to choose. You can go this way or that way. You get to choose. Figure it all out as you go. There’s not one right path. There are many right paths. Do anything you can do–which means think it or speak it or do it–that makes you feel a little better.”
How Does It Feel? Do You Want To Feel Worse, Or Do You Want To Feel Better? Hmmmm. Good Choice!
Spread Some Joy Today–by letting all that upsetedness go. Reach for a better feeling thought. Joy is in that direction.