“If there is anything that we wish to change in the child,
we should first examine it and see whether it is not
something that could better be changed in ourselves.”
— Carl Jung
I love this quote, and I especially love it when you change the word child, like this: “If there is anything that we wish to change in another, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves.”
As I contemplate this, it speaks such power of control in our own lives; of how we can choose how we will look at a situation, and thereby how we will respond, react, and feel about it, and the other person who we at first think needs changing.
If there is something that we don’t like about another person that we think they should change, by immediately changing from looking at them to looking at ourselves and what we can do is telling and helpful. Though we continue to challenge ourselves to think there is someway that we can change others, we cannot. We only have that power toward ourselves in how we look at people and situations.
It is so easy to see the faults in others and to like people that are more like we are. It is when people are different that we have a grand opportunity to grow and love. Maybe we need more patience, a more open mind, a change in the way we view right and wrong, whether we even live the ideals that we claim to uphold so fiercely.
This is an acquired skill. I know it is worth the practice and determination of acquisition, and that it will benefit us like nothing else. We can even learn to appreciate those differences and celebrate them.
What We See In Others Is In Ourselves. What Do You WANT To See?
Spread Some Joy Today–Relax all your prejudices today. The easy way to do that is to look at each person around you today and find things to appreciate. Focus on those things and prejudice melts away.