There is only love; however, we can choose to be in love or we may choose to experience “not love,” or lack of love, or feel unloved. All that is not love, is some version of fear. Fear is not real; however, as we choose not love, we make it seem real. Fear is not the opposite of love as love has no opposite. Fear is simply choosing not love, to be away or detached from love. This choice and action is what fear is, and that is all it is.
The fact that we may have chosen not love, even for a long time is not important. What is important is our awareness of what we are choosing, and we will know this when we own our feelings or recognize how our emotions are explaining to us and everyone else what we are choosing and therefore what we are thinking.
We always have the power of choice and so we may at any time choose love or not love. We are the only chooser. We are all the power all the time.