“That's how love works.
It can't be forced, manipulated, or coerced.
It always leaves room for the other to decide.”
— Rob Bell
It is impossible to not be loved. However, it is certainly possible to feel unloved. Feeling unloved has nothing to do with actually being loved. It has to do with fear, ego, habitual thinking, or learned patterns of thinking. Rest assured that you are loved. I love you. Anyone who knows me knows this to be true, and what is even greater, God loves you. In fact, God adores you. This is unconditional love. It cannot be forced. It cannot be manipulated. It cannot be coerced. This is because it is given without any thought of getting anything back. I know this to be true because only God is the ultimate allower. We are given free will. Have you ever really thought about this free will? Free will is the ultimate definition of unconditional love. Indeed, there could be no such thing as free will without it. They are the same thing, not two different things.
I hope that you don't have one, but if you do, next time you have an unloved feeling, close your eyes and open yourself to the depth of the love that God has for you. Pretend you're in a rowboat and the stream is moving smoothly downstream and you have been rowing and rowing and rowing trying to get upstream to where you think you want or need to go. Now, trust me on this, put the oars in the boat and relax and trust. Feel what that feels like to trust and to feel that you are going with the flow and all is well. Feel the boat being guided without any effort or thought on your part. You are being cared for and guided with the greatest skill and all that lay ahead is given freely and lovingly to you. All you need to do is release any resistance. That is all. That is what trust is–a releasing of resistance. Allow the joy of this experience to wash over you.
When you know truly how loved and adored you are, there is only one thing that you can do to show your delight and gratitude for this radiant light. You simply share this love until you are that love. Enjoy your journey!