Category: Trust

The Benefits Of Change

“Change brings opportunity.” 

— Nido Qubein 

[Classic post from 8-27-14]

I was thinking about change and how often we might feel that we don’t like change much unless of course, it is fully to our benefit and perfectly timed. Good luck with that.

What I was realizing is that without change, nothing moves, and nothing happens. Change is necessary. It is desired when we realize that we cannot live without it. Aristotle said, “Change in all things is sweet.” He had it down pat.

Sometimes we might think that we need to change for the better because of what is or has been being less than perfect. I don’t think that has anything to do with it, except that whatever decisions we make are always made in the hopes of feeling better.

It is more about expansion than anything. We are expanding beings, the Universe is expanding, and that is what we want: expansion. Some might call it growth, but I like the word expansion better. We cannot help but expand and change is the only way it can come about.

So many of the quotes I’ve reviewed about change put change in a positive light and that it is necessary and good. I agree. It’s when we are in a rut, or doing the same things over and over without even thinking about it that things get dull. That contrast leads to a desire for a change. We can only sleep so long and then we just have to get up and get going.

Movement is life. Change is movement. When I understand the value of a change in this way, I look forward to the change and the opportunities.

“Change Alone Is Eternal, Perpetual, Immortal.” — Arthur Schopenhauer 

Spread Some Joy Today–by building on your list of positive aspects daily. A great way to start is at the top of the page, write “I love. . .” and then fill in the blank lines. Call it a joy-builder and a life-enhancer.

The Ways

“It's not that some people
have willpower and some don't…
It's that some people are ready
to change and others are not.”

— James Gordon

[Classic post from 2-21-13]

I see it all around me–people that need to change. Sue Grafton said it in an interesting way: “You can't save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don't appreciate your interfering with the drama they've created. They want your poor-sweet-baby sympathy, but they don't want to change.” Then, there's that very old phrase I've used many times, “you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink.”

No matter what I think, people will change when they decide they want or need to change. The best I can do is to attempt to inspire them, remind them, and even sometimes guide them, and the rest is totally up to them.

This is as it should be. As I live my life, I find things that work and incorporate them into my life, with that change, I may share my experience and others will do as they will with that. One of the things that I have to constantly remind myself of is that there are so many ways of doing a thing, and whatever I have chosen is a way. I remind myself as often as necessary that there is no way, there is your way, my way, and their way, and they are all ways.

As a result of reminding myself about the ways, I see Sue's comment, which I've agreed with many times, and I see in it that as we say “those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives,” is entirely judgmental and not in a positive way. It's true that “they don't appreciate your interfering with the drama they've created,” because those are their choices and the drama is their payoff probably. So be it. And, they often want sympathy. So be it. However, we can let them choose their way, and choose our own by walking away.

One last perspective. I so enjoy hearing others share their “way” and what they've learned. I especially love their passion when I hear it and see it.

There Is Plenty Of Room For Each And Every Way.

Spread Some Joy Today–If you can, take a break and find a place with people around and just watch them, see the different ways they act, clothes they wear, shapes of their bodies, voices, everything. It is so fascinating.

My Concerns Have Little Effect

“Such concerns had little effect.” 

— David McCullough
from The Wright Brothers book 

[Classic post from 12-30-15]

I'm nearly finished with my latest audiobook, The Wright Brothers by David McCullough, and what an absolutely fascinating story this is. What I learned in high school about The Wright Brothers and their flying machine is so sad compared to what I've learned 'reading' this book. And to hear that familiar voice of David McCullough reading his book to me personally is a delight to say it mildly.

It cracks me up how when reading or listening to a book how a phrase just leaps out at me. It also cracks me up what those phrases are. In the early portion of this book, the quote above totally got my attention: “Such concerns had little effect.” I had to stop and write it down and ponder it further: “Such concerns had little effect.”

In the book, David was talking about the new bicycle craze that hit the country in the early 1890s. The Wright brothers and their sister Katherine joined the craze and were taking long outings on their bicycles and having a wonderful time. David wrote that “the bicycle was proclaimed a boon to all mankind, a thing of beauty, good for the spirits, good for health and vitality, indeed one's whole outlook on life.”

In the next paragraph, he stated that “Voices were raised in protest. Bicycles were proclaimed morally hazardous. Until now children and youth were unable to stray very far from home on foot. Now, one magazine warned, fifteen minutes could put them miles away.” He went on with other reported concerns about this new bicycle craze with warnings attempting to scare people away from owning or riding bicycles.

Then he writes, “Such concerns had little effect. Everybody was riding bicycles, men, women, all ages and from all walks of life.” And, it was in the spring of 1893 that Wilbur and Orville Wright opened their own small bicycle business and in a short time began designing and manufacturing bicycles as the Wright Cycle Company.

As I pondered that phrase, “such concerns had little effect,” I thought of how many times in history in general, and in our own history in particular, that we have had concerns about something going on somewhere outside, or even within our lives that we have unfounded concerns about. In fact, a very high percentage of the news in a newspaper and even a higher percentage of the news online and on the television expresses concerns about events and especially potential events. It seems that the controversy is what drives the ratings.

The most popular blogs are popular because of their choices in controversial subjects. Everyone is seemingly concerned about all manner of things that may happen, especially those that are based on current events, whether accurately portrayed or not, and as in all of history based on my own learning, they are so often portrayed inaccurately.

To think that all of our own concerns and those of millions of others might have little effect is to give hope to all. It seems that we worry and concern ourselves with so many things that never come to be. Isn't that true with worry in general? Being concerned about something that might happen is a complete waste of time and energy, yet it is a popular activity.

Today, when you feel worried or concerned about something, say this phrase aloud or to yourself: “Such concerns will have little effect. Almost all of my concerns will have little effect. I choose to let this go now. I choose to trust instead.”

In All Of My Life, All Of My Concerns Have Had Little Effect. I Am Dropping The Rope. Now. 

Spread Some Joy Today–There is no joy in concerns and worry. Yet, as we let go of them, we instantly rise to a better emotional place.

Words Do Not Teach. Experience Does.

“It is one thing to hear a concept
and feel the resonance of it when you hear it,
and it's another thing altogether
to practice it until you own it, to be it.”

— Abraham, Esther Hicks 

[Classic post from 4-19-18]

It is so easy and goes down so smoothly to read or hear about unconditional love and feel good about the idea of that, and yet, it is a whole other thing to actually practice it in our lives. We get it. The idea of it resonates with us because it is truly in alignment with our inner knowing, our God within. Actually living that is another thing altogether.

This is true with a lot of learning perhaps even the majority of the things that we learn in concept, speak of, write of. So many things we can discuss in a lot of detail, but when it comes to actually living it, well, we become forgetful.

Abraham, Esther Hicks is famous for saying, “words do not teach. It is experience that teaches.” Of course, that is true. And so, I continue to choose to engage in practice so that it becomes my experience. Victor Hugo is famous for saying, “There is nothing more powerful than an idea whose time has come.” And, as powerful as that is, it is anemic in comparison to executing that idea through action and thereby becoming experience. We learn by doing more than we learn by thinking or receiving information.

Anyone who has read these Daily Inspirations for any length of time knows that I write about love more than anything else and though I write of it that often, I am more famous for practicing it. I learn about love by loving. I learn about unconditional love by loving without condition. I don't simply share platitudes, but ideas and thoughts that when they become active in our lives change our lives for the better.

This is where practice comes in. With our historical perspective, and seeing popular movies, video games, television shows, and watching people in real life around us, it is easy to see the need for practice and it is easy to see that there isn't much going on in the way of practice but a continuing repetition of the past, adjusted perhaps, but not really different. Jim Rohn is famous for saying, “for things to change, you must change.” I prefer to put that in the first person and say, for things to change, I must change, and change will require practice, especially considering my habitual patterns from history and viewing the history in action that I see all around me.

It is said that practice makes perfect and that is a great truism, yet practice is simply turning an idea into action. As we look around, we can see the manifestation of ideas turned into action and much of that action is based on ideas that were meant to control us and not serve us. The idea of right and wrong, good and bad, sinful and saintly, falling in and out of love, and more. It can be quite a challenge to find a movie that is not about killing or falling in and out of love, broken relationships, greed, revenge, etc. Uplifting movies is not the norm, but what if they were? Loving without condition is not even seen in movies generally, but what if it was?

Yesterday I mentioned a quote from the Paul Selig books that we are not independent of our environment. What that means to me is that whatever environment that I want, I must choose it. I must practice it. If I want to see more unconditional love in the world, then I must learn to practice loving without condition. Mahatma Gandhi is famous for saying, “you must be the change you wish to see in the world.” Again, to put it in the first person and accept the idea, I must be the change I wish to see in the world. Accepting the idea is fine, but for the change to come about, I must practice being the change.

I Am Not Independent Of My Environment. I Am My Environment.

Spread Some Joy Today–by deciding to practice what you want to see in the world.

Enthusiasm And Love

“Enthusiasm is the divine particle in our composition:
with it we are great, generous, and true;
without it, we are little, false, and mean.”

 — Letitia Landon

[Classic post from 10-11-13]

I think of the word enthusiasm as being the same as the word, loving. If you have enthusiasm for what you do, you are loving what you do. If you have enthusiasm for your life, you are loving your life. From the original Greek, it also means to be inspired, and with God, which is a good reason that we feel so good when we are enthused, inspired, and in the action of loving.

It is good and helpful to listen to our own talk sometimes in order to hear the tone in how we say what we say as well as the content. Sharing complaints with others is a sure sign of lack of enthusiasm. As Steve Jobs said, and I paraphrase slightly, “too many days of that and I need to reconsider what I am doing.”

I'll never forget hiring an experienced salesman when I was a young sales manager. He was somewhat older and had been in the business for a number of years. Within a couple of days, I could overhear him complaining about the dealership out on the showroom floor. I immediately called him into the office and fired him on the spot. The last thing I needed was someone bringing that mood and tone into my organization. He was shocked, but I'm sure it was temporary and I don't think it changed him, but I wasn't going to allow him to change us.

My grandmother used to tell me, “if you can't say anything nice, better to say nothing at all.” As good as that statement is, it is not the best answer. The best answer is to do what pleases you. If life is anything, it is to be enjoyed. What is the point of going to work in an industry you don't like, a job you don't want to do, and then complain about what your situation is? If you don't like a part of it, perhaps you can sell off that part, hire someone to do that part, renegotiate so you don't have to do that part anymore. If it can't be parted out (car talk), then something new is appropriate and in order.

Life is way too short to do what you have to. Do what you want to. Find a way. There is always a way when you make the decision to move toward what you love.

Be Enthusiastic. Enjoy Your Time On This Wonderful Planet. It May Not Seem This Way, But It Is Always Your Choice To Choose.

Spread Some Joy Today–Enthusiasm is so contagious.

The Spirit of Opulence

This wonderful piece has such a marvelous message and is worth reading every so often to renew our spirit and re-realize our own power. Injoy!

“It is quite a mistake to suppose that we must restrict and stint ourselves in order to develop greater power or usefulness. This is to form the conception of the Divine Power as so limited that the best use we can make of it is by a policy of self-starvation, whether material or mental. Of course, if we believe that some form of self-starvation is necessary to our producing good work, then so long as we entertain this belief the fact actually is so for us. “Whatsoever is not of faith”—that is, not in accordance with our honest belief—“is sin”; and by acting contrary to what we really believe we bring in a suggestion of opposition to the Divine Spirit, which must necessarily paralyze our efforts, and surround us with a murky atmosphere of distrust and want of joy.

But all this exists in, and is produced by, our belief; and when we come to examine the grounds of this belief we shall find that it rests upon an entire misapprehension of the nature of our own power. If we clearly realize that the creative power in ourselves is unlimited, then there is no reason for limiting the extent to which we may enjoy what we can create by means of it. Where we are drawing from the infinite we need never be afraid of taking more than our share. That is not where the danger lies. The danger is in not sufficiently realizing our own richness, and in looking upon the externalized products of our creative power as being the true riches instead of the creative power of spirit itself.

If we avoid this error, there is no need to limit ourselves in taking what we will from the infinite storehouse: “All things are yours.” And the way to avoid this error is by realizing that the true wealth is in identifying ourselves with the spirit of opulence. We must be opulent in our thought. Do not “think money,” as such, for it is only one means of opulence; but think opulence, that is, largely, generously, liberally, and you will find that the means of realizing this thought will flow to you from all quarters, whether as money or as a hundred other things not to be reckoned in cash.

We must not make ourselves dependent on any particular form of wealth, or insist on its coming to us through some particular channel—that is at once to impose a limitation, and to shut out other forms of wealth and to close other channels, but we must enter into the spirit of it. Now the spirit is Life, and throughout the universe Life ultimately consists in circulation, whether within the physical body of the individual or on the scale of the entire solar system; and circulation means a continual flowing around, and the spirit of opulence is no exception to this universal law of all life.

When once this principle becomes clear to us we shall see that our attention should be directed rather to the giving than the receiving. We must look upon ourselves, not as misers’ chests to be kept locked for our own benefit, but as centers of distribution; and the better we fulfill our function as such centers the greater will be the corresponding inflow. If we choke the outlet the current must slacken, and a full and free flow can be obtained only by keeping it open. The spirit of opulence—the opulent mode of thought, that is—consists in cultivating the feeling that we possess all sorts of riches which we can bestow upon others, and which we can bestow liberally because by this very action we open the way for still greater supplies to flow in. But you say, “I am short of money, I hardly know how to pay for necessaries. What have I to give?”

The answer is that we must always start from the point where we are; and if your wealth at the present moment is not abundant on the material plane, you need not trouble to start on that plane. There are other sorts of wealth, still more valuable, on the spiritual and intellectual planes, which you can give; and you can start from this point and practice the spirit of opulence, even though your balance at the bank may be nil. And then the universal law of attraction will begin to assert itself. You will not only begin to experience an inflow on the spiritual and intellectual planes, but it will extend itself to the material plane also.

If you have realized the spirit of opulence you cannot help drawing to yourself material good, as well as that higher wealth which is not to be measured by a money standard; and because you truly understand the spirit of opulence you will neither affect to despise this form of good, nor will you attribute to it a value that does not belong to it; but you will co-ordinate it with your other more interior forms of wealth so as to make it the material instrument in smoothing the way for their more perfect expression. Used thus, with understanding of the relation which it bears to spiritual and intellectual wealth, material wealth become one with them, and is no more to be shunned and feared than it is to be sought for its own sake.

It is not money, but the love of money, that is the root of all evil; and the spirit of opulence is precisely the attitude of mind which is furthest removed from the love of money for its own sake. It does not believe in money. What it does believe in is the generous feeling which is the intuitive recognition of the great law of circulation, which does not in any undertaking make its first question, How much am I going to get by it? But, How much am I going to do by it? And making this the first question, the getting will flow in with a generous profusion, and with a spontaneousness and rightness of direction that are absent when our first thought is of receiving only.

We are not called upon to give what we have not yet got and to run into debt; but we are to give liberally of what we have, with the knowledge that by so doing we are setting the law of circulation to work, and as this law brings us greater and greater inflows of every kind of good, so our out-giving will increase, not by depriving ourselves of any expansion of our own life that we may desire, but by finding that every expansion makes us the more powerful instruments for expanding the life of others. “Live and let live” is the motto of the true opulence.”

–Thomas Troward,
Hidden Power and Other Papers Upon Mental Science

Everything Can Be Seen In A Positive Way

“You cannot get–cannot get!–
a negative result from a positive application.”

— Bashar, Darryl Anka

[Classic post from 2-23-16]

I was re-reading a short bit from Bashar: Blueprint For Change, and this stood apart for me from page 162:

“You have created convenient compartments in which you can place things that for some reason you have been taught are dangerous to look at. . . Why? It's only a portion of you. There is absolutely nothing! you could ever! discover about yourself that cannot be applied in a positive way. Oh yes, you can discover many things and apply all of them in negative ways, but is that what you prefer? Yes or no?

If it's no, then why not assume you have just as much power to decide how to apply what you discover about yourself, just as much power to decide to do that in a positive way, as you have always had in a negative way. You can apply anything you discover in a negative or a positive way. Why not choose to understand that you only prefer to apply it in a positive way; and that you will therefore only get a positive result out of that application. You cannot get–cannot get!–a negative result from a positive application.”

He adds this reinforcement: “Let me say again: you cannot experience any reality of which you are not the vibration. If you have a reality you don't prefer, then it's because you are buying into a belief system that supports that reality. It's as plain and simple as that. You have a saying for it: “What you put out is what you get back. What goes in is what comes out.” You cannot get the opposite effect; you can only get an equal, corresponding reaction. If you put a positive idea out, positive preferential trust, you can only get a positive reality back. If you put a negative idea out, which you call doubt, you can only get hesitation, guilt, frustration, and all the other symbols your society has created to represent negative trust.”

Wow. That is worth reading a few times…

What You See Is What You Get. . . . But, Embracing It Is Totally Up To Us. We Get To See As We Choose, As Long As We Choose.

Spread Some Joy Today–by enjoying yourself.

The Gift Of The Moment

“What sweetness you feel when you are touched at the heart level by the beauty of a piece of music and understand what this means. From Andrew Lloyd Weber’s The Phantom of the Opera, the song “All I Ask of You” brings tears to the eyes of lovers. Their hearts are moved and informed by the knowledge of the preciousness of the other person, the fragility of life and their appreciation of this moment in time.

Love brings to the moment its gift of blessing, and in that moment is a knowing beyond knowing, an eternal knowing. This is a glimpse of God’s kingdom on earth. The tender sweetness a mother feels when she holds her newborn child, knowing its preciousness, its innocence, and its vulnerability, is a glimpse of God’s heaven on earth. Honoring the preciousness of another is a heart-knowing act, a moment of God’s informing us of the meaning of love in God’s heaven.

God gently urges us to grow in this love, that we might live more and more in the kingdom of love. This is our highest good. To feel the tenderness of the heart is to recognize the preciousness of the other, and to experience the conscious awareness of this as blessing is to integrate the mind and heart in loving. Gradually, the Holy Spirit grows and strengthens the heart that it may know more and more holy moments in Divine Love.

But lest we become lazy and let time slip by, we should remember the words of William Blake:

We are here for only a little while
to learn to bear the beams of love.

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart
(Reflection 105)

Shifting Into Neutral

“You simply cannot get
to where you want to be
by controlling
or eliminating
the unwanted.”

— Abraham, Esther Hicks

[Classic post from 5-28-17]

I was reading some bits from some books this morning surrounding the idea that happiness is experiencing what is wanted and unhappiness is what is not wanted.

Abraham shared a little that I have come to understand with joy and it has completely changed all my relationships:

“The best thing you could do for anyone that you love, is be happy! And the very worst thing that you could do for anyone that you love, is be unhappy, and then ask them to try to change it, when there is nothing that anybody else can do that will make you happy.”

In the movies and as we have learned in many ways, we think that another, and especially in a close relationship can cause us to be happy or unhappy. We may even work hard at trying to see that the other is happy so that we can feel good, and when they are not, we feel bad. But, that is too much to ask of another person. Only I can make myself happy or unhappy. It is a choice. The movies make it seem like it is a stimulus and response, but what it really is would be stimulus and choice.

Then I found this delightful little story from Bashar in the book, Bashar: Blueprint For Change, that adds so much to this discussion:

“It is not so much that experience gives rise to meaning; it is that meaning gives rise to experience. . . All circumstances are neutral. The meaning you choose to believe; the meaning you choose to create in life, about your life, is what generates the particular types of circumstances you experience. These reinforce, reflect and represent the meanings you are creating. Giving meaning is the actual act of creation itself! To give meaning to something is to create it into existence in your particular experiential realm.”

“Now, to illustrate this idea, let’s say you are on your way to the train station to catch a train. You arrive at the station; the train has just left. That is the neutral situation. There is no meaning in it: you are standing on the platform; the train is moving; you are not on it. Period.”

“Now the old you might have had a negative reaction. “Oh gosh, oh darn,” you might say. “I have done something wrong. This is very bad; I am now very angry. Those train people! They were too early. I was not late; no, no, no. They were too early. I will now go and complain to someone.” All right. Your choice.”

“Or again: the new person, the person you now know you have changed into, is going for the train. You arrive at the platform; the train has left. Once again, the neutral situation: you are on the platform; the train is moving; you are not on it. But now you know you are different. You know that everything in your life is there for a positive reason; it does not matter that the symbol is the same. Because you now trust that and do not go stomping off to complain, your anger no longer blinds you to the fact that having just stepped off that train is a friend you haven’t seen in ten years. If you had reacted in the old way, walking off in anger, you would not have met her. But you will now discover, in the course of subsequent events, that you did need to meet her at that time, and for positive reasons.”

This is not only a great story and illustration, but it is also telling of how one choice closes off other things, and how as we choose our previous trained reactions, we are blinded by that to the best that could have come from the event. As we allow ourselves to realize that things are happening not at random, but in a chorus supporting our point of view, we will make better choices and have more harmonious outcomes.

The Meaning Is Not Put Upon Us, But The Other Way Around. In That, We Create Our Own Reality. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by allowing your life to flow and to find the meaning that creates the best result by your own choosing.

The Mule Got Drunk And Lost In Heaven

The
Mind is ever a tourist
Then toss them into an already
Filled closet.

So I craft my words into those guides
That will offer you something fresh
From the Hidden’s Tavern.

Few things are stronger than
The mind’s need for diverse
Experience.

I am glad
Not many men or women can remain
Faithful lovers to the unreal.

There is a kind of adultery
That God encourages:

Your spirit needs to leave the bed
Of fear.

The gross, the subtle, the mental worlds
Become as a worthless husband.

Women need
To utilize their superior intelligence
About love

So that their hour’s legacy
Can make us all stronger and more clement.

Sometimes a poem happens like this one:

The mule I sit on while I recite
Starts off in one direction
But then gets drunk

And lost in
Heaven.

— Hafiz

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