Category: Thoughts

Getting Out Of Drama Class

The drama triangle (Victim, Persecutor, Rescuer) is in action all around us and most of us don’t recognize it. Everyone’s favorite position is playing the Victim and moving from Victim To Persecutor and back again. There are many facets to this game of acting out. This unawareness continues the game as long as we remain ignorant of the game and that we are in the game. Once awareness of the game is in place, it is easy enough to stop playing the game by moving to the center and out of those dramatic roles. Habitual patterns are strong, but with awareness comes new strength.

There is no joy in the drama game; however, joy is always available to us any time we choose joy by moving into the peace, love, and harmony that exists outside of the drama triangle. We are the choosers.

Alternative Views

Alternate facts is a fascinating phrase and idea. To me, alternate facts is like experiencing a blinding snowstorm while laying on a sunny tropical beach. It can be distracting, to say the least.

Alternative truth. This is also fascinating. This is to say that truth does not exist, or perhaps that it is completely and totally malleable as to not even be what it was first thought to be. Truth is or is not. Otherwise, truth may only be a personal viewpoint, as in a truth and my truth. If there is really truth, it would be truth and anything other would be not truth. This would make alternative truth a misnomer.

Alternative reality. Reality is or is not. Yet reality is not one of those things that can be absolute. All reality, including so-called alternate reality would be the reality of the source of the recognition of that reality.

Emotions Are Guides Not Dictators

Let your emotions be your guide to your current thinking rather than letting your emotions rule your thinking. Abraham, Esther Hicks has so brilliantly introduced this concept of a powerfully effective and efficient way of navigating our human lives in our everyday world.

Emotions don’t create thinking. Thinking creates emotions. They are created in order for us to recognize that we are either in alignment with our Inner Knowing, or Higher Self, that part of us that is connected to Source Energy, or we are out of alignment. I like to use the view of being in tune or out of tune, in harmony, or in discordance. When a guitar or any other instrument is tuned to the right note, they resonate and become one. Until then, they are in discordance, or out of tune to the desired note. Our emotions are the perfect guide for us to navigate life with ease and clarity.

We have so many thoughts going on all day long, even tens of thousands of them each day. This amount of mental activity is not something that is easy to regulate or control even if it is desired. However, by paying attention to how we are feeling, we can then pay attention to our current thinking that is causing this emotion to come to the surface. As we are feeling bad or not good, we can understand that this guidance is telling us that we are out of tune, out of alignment with our Higher Self or Inner Being. Something is not right. It feels off.

This understanding, then, can help inspire us to see what thoughts are in our minds at the moment. In this case, we are thinking or seeing something that is not to our liking, not what we want, and such. It may be something coming up from our history or something new that is being related to our history. In any case, the bad feeling is our clue that we are experiencing something in our thoughts that we really do not want. Some may say it is negative thinking, but that is too big a category to deal with effectively. It is simply our thoughts about ourselves, another, or about some situation and our bad feeling emotion is simply and clearly letting us know that we are experiencing something we do not really want.

We can attach ourselves to that emotion and then the Law of Attraction will help find more thoughts that match the discordance for as long as we want to do this. Some people might do this for hours, or a day, or far longer. This is how depression is expressed. We are stuck in discordance because we are stuck in a loop of our thinking that is causing us to experience bad-feeling emotions because those thoughts are out of alignment with our Inner Knowing, and the Law of Attraction is bringing us more to match the vibration that we are emitting. It can be like flipping on a dark switch in a well-lit room.

Or, we can be in our awareness of this guidance that we are experiencing something we do not want and then make a decision to consider what it is that we do want. It may be as straightforward and simple as we want to feel better. And, this is the key to feeling better: Find some bit of relief by choosing a thought that feels just a little better. Then again, and again, and then we are soon feeling better and better until we are feeling good again. The fastest way to do this in my experience is to find anything at all to appreciate, then something else to appreciate, and so on. And, the best part of all this is that we are now living deliberately, choosing deliberately, expanding our lives deliberately because we now understand our emotional guidance system and how to make use of it and make use of the power of the Law of Attraction for our benefit rather than our detriment.

Focus. What We Give Our Attention To.

“There are those who believe that the world is getting more and more desperate. We are here to tell you that the world is getting better and better, and better, and that every experience you have causes you to launch rockets of desires, and Source comes in response to those rockets. And the best thing about your birth and death is that the resistant ones die and the allowing ones are born. And with this combination of contrast that keeps you launching new and new desires, it’s no wonder that the Universe is expanding in this marvelous way and that life is getting better, in every day – and in this moment – for everyone who insists on focusing there.”

— Abraham, Esther Hicks

Lousy At Math

Once a group of thieves stole a rare diamond
Larger than a goose egg.

Its value could have easily bought
One thousand horses

And two thousand acres
Of the most fertile land in Shiraz.

The thieves got drunk that night
To celebrate their great haul,

But during the course of the evening
The effects of the liquor
And their mistrust of each other grew to such
An extent

They decided to divide the stone into pieces.
Of course then the Priceless became lost.

Most everyone is lousy at math
And does that to God–

Dissects the Indivisible One,

By thinking, saying,
“This is my Beloved, he looks like this
And acts like that,

How could that moron over there
Really
Be
God.”

— Hafiz

Who’s Listening To Our Self-Talk?

“Be very careful what you say to yourself
because someone very important is listening…
YOU!”

— John Assaraf

It’s easy to change what we say out of our mouths to others if we are trying to change to be more positive and upbeat. It’s another thing to make that same commitment on the inside. You’ve heard the phrase, ‘they are their own worst enemy,’ and this is the place that the so-called enemy can rule if we let that happen.

Better to be so cognizant of what we are saying to ourselves that we know in an instant when it is appropriate to shift gears and find better feeling thoughts.

Awareness + Adversity = Breakthrough

“A man who is a master of patience
is master of everything.”

— George Savile

[Classic post from 9-9-12]

Consider this equation that popped into my head today: Awareness + Adversity = Breakthrough.

I’ve talked several times of late about my desire to and practice in becoming a much more patient person. It is working so well that I get these ‘ah-ha’ moments realizing that I am actually exercising considerable, if not extreme patience in a normally stressful or irritating situation. Tonight there were more than one and it is so interesting to become aware that I am aware of seeing myself being more and more patient.

It also struck me tonight that adversity plays a major role in the process. Without adversity, there would be no need to learn, nothing to change, overcome, or make peace with. So, based on that, once we become aware, we may feel the desire to change or to feel better. Then we will be making changes in our thought process to respond to the adversity rather than to react to it. Without awareness, we would just keep repeating the same old reactionary patterns from the past, or as Einstein said how we think the same thoughts and hope for things to change which was his definition of insanity.

Consequently, I began to actually get excited about the idea of adversity being in the mix and playing a part in my growth to the point of having gratitude for it being there. Again, without the adverse situation, it would not be possible to change, nor would there be a need to.

A breakthrough, of course, is that “ah-ha” moment. It is the realization that we have come through and are actually doing that which we hoped to achieve, which is to purposely and consciously be patient with life as it unfolds which can be the most natural response.

So, to put it together, as I become more aware and meet adverse or irritating situations or things, I have the opportunity to practice my patience, and in so doing achieve breakthroughs that strengthen, encourage, and excite me to continue to grow into more patience. Because I really do believe that he who is a master of patience is a master of everything else.

Bring It! I’m Eager For The Practice! And, So Enjoying The Change.

Spread Some Joy Today–What upsets you? How can you soothe that?

Learning About Impatience

“Impatience is not a time issue
or a mark of selfishness.
It is a trust issue
and a statement of fear.”

— Alan Cohen

[Classic post from 9-16-12]

I downloaded a book on my Kindle a few weeks back and I got about 15% into it, and tonight I opened it back up and started reading more. The book title is Enough Already: The Power of Radical Contentment by Alan Cohen. So, as I’m back reading, he is talking about having patience and how many people he knows and coaches are type ‘A’ people who are always having to ‘do’ something, and stopping for a bit of peace is not on the agenda–in fact, it isn’t even on their radar.

That reading caused me to remember a meeting I had a couple of days ago with two men. One was very easy going and enthusiastic and quite interested. He was engaged and asked questions, and really wanted to understand the whole picture as much as he could in a relatively short meeting. The other gentleman was obvious in his impatience. He wanted different answers. In fact, I believe he just wanted a miracle to appear right in the room, and then he wouldn’t have to deal with it. Yet, he persevered in allowing the other gentleman to ask questions and receive answers.

At the end of the meeting, the curious one asked yet another question and then started into a story. As we were standing and I was listening, I couldn’t help but notice the other gentleman was looking more aggravated than impatient, so I suggested we move out of the office and end the meeting. We did.

And then, tonight, I read the quote above as part of the text in the book and I was amazed how powerfully it is stated and how true it seems to be. Impatience is not normally stated as fear, but, of course, that is exactly what it is. Yet it is even more in that the one who is impatient is not present. They are somewhere else. They are way ahead and the rest of us are holding up the way just like an impatient driver following on your tail. Indeed, they want to be somewhere else, get different answers, and more. It is resistance and not conducive to success.

Alan says in the book that “Things happen when they are ripe–not before or after. If you try to force something before it is ready, it won’t work.” So true. We still think otherwise as is often taught in that we have to ‘make things happen.’ A better route is to allow things to happen, and this requires patience.

He also quoted a Bible verse from James 1:4, which says, “And let patience have its perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, lacking in nothing.”

I am amazed in the last few months of the volume and depth of things I am learning about patience and in so doing, applying them in my business and my life and amazed again at how successful that application really is.

“Patience Is Natural To Those Who Trust”
— A Course in Miracles

Spread Some Joy Today–Find your patience. It is only for you to control.

You Will Enjoy It All

“A key to regaining your wonderful feeling of personal empowerment and control is to decide, right now, no matter how good or how bad you are feeling, that you are going to do your best to make the best of it. Reach for the best-feeling thought that you have access to right now; and as you do that again and again, in a short period of time you will find yourself in a very good-feeling place. That is just the way it works!

Once you are in control of the way you feel, you will enjoy it all: You will feel relief as doubts slip away and as the secure feelings of Well-Being replace them.

Once you are in control of the way you feel, you will enjoy it all: You will revel in the conscious awareness that you have deliberately molded your desires into being in as real a way as if you had created a statue with the clay in your own hands.”

— Abraham, Esther Hicks

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