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The Values Of Doing A Thing

“Nothing stops 
 without something else beginning.” 
 
— Alan Cohen 
 

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[Classic post from 7-11-15]

Somewhere along our travels, most of us have picked up expectations of how things should work. For example, how long should a marriage last? Until death do you part, right? Well, for sure for some and surely not for others. A better answer to the question might be until we choose otherwise.

Once I start my business, how long should it stay in business? Forever? Answer: Until is doesn't any longer. I grew up thinking Macy's was a forever store, then they went out of business. Well, let's say it is still there but it ain't the same.

I opened a musical instrument store and had it for a year and a half. Does that mean it failed? That could certainly be an assumption, but that would not be the truth. It didn't fail. I no longer had the desire for it. I had a desire for something different. So, I stopped one and started another. As far as I was and am concerned, it was a huge success. If nothing else, it was a grand educational experience which is useful in my life and that of others 35 years after the fact.

We have all manner of expectations that have been handed down to us, but you know, the only thing that really matters is our own experience and how we choose to view that experience. So, what might be some of the values of a short-lived enterprise or relationship?

  • Creation. We take nothing more (which is really everything) than an idea and then take that thought and breathe life into it (it was already alive there) and cause it to be created in our reality. In other words, it went from the non-physical into the physical.
  • Co-Creation. We did it with others. It was not a single person's creation, but all who participated helped shape the outcome.
  • The economy moved. Money changed hands. Funds were raised, expended.
  • Education. We learned. There is much to learn every single day.
  • Change. We changed. Others changed. Nothing is static.
  • Difference. We made a difference. What we did mattered. What kind of difference may not be measurable from our own perspective. We cannot do anything and not make a difference.
  • Improvement. We made some improvements. However small or large they may be, improvements are a given.
  • Benefit. We provided a benefit, or many benefits to the community, to others, to the world.
  • Friends. We find new friends. Maybe even lifetime friends.
  • Passion. Beginnings are so often about passion.
  • Love. We get to share our love. We get to expand and enrich our own love. 

This is just a shortlist, and this process of thinking about things in this way is very helpful. Everything we do is a choice. We choose here, choose that, choose an idea, choose participants, convince others, promote our ideas, all choices. We choose to begin, to continue for a time, and then we choose to let go. If it continues to float on its own for a time, so be it, and if it doesn't, it is done for now, and on to another choice.

The most important choice we have is how we want to feel about our experiences. It is as easy to feel joy in having done something as it is to feel sad that it is no longer. Time is such a poor concept on the judgment of our experiences, and time is only an idea. Our living is always this moment, this moment, this moment. How we choose to feel is this moment, this moment, this moment.

I have found from a lifetime of study that to find ways to appreciate, love, and celebrate enhances our experience immeasurably. We all get to choose that or choose otherwise.

“In A Gentle Way, You Can Shake The World.” — Mahatma Gandhi 

Spread Some Joy Today–by making it your choice to do so.

Joyful Participation And Acceptance

“Participate joyfully in the sorrows of the world.
We cannot cure the world of sorrows,
but we can choose to live in joy.”

 — Joseph Campbell

[Classic post from 6-21-13]

I would not have understood this quote just a few short years ago, maybe not even two years ago, but I embrace it today.

I have come to believe that we are all perfect creators and that we create our lives, often by default, or without clear intention. To think that someone would create disease instead of ease is hard to understand sometimes, yet I am convinced it is done nonetheless. We don’t like to imagine that we create many things, preferring to think them created upon us by bad luck, wrong place, genetics, accidental acts, crime, germs, and such. Though we often take credit for creating the positive attributes and circumstances, we abhor the idea of creating the other.

Once I walked through this door of acceptance, I can no longer see what I used to see. I think that the thing that has set me free more than anything else is accepting that I am a creator and accepting whatever it is that I have created without pushing it off on others. Certainly, I have co-creators at work with me, but accepting all of it is incredibly empowering.

Now, I might ask myself why in the world I created that scenario or situation. I might wonder at it, but I will accept it as my creation. I often create on purpose, and sometimes without intention, but I am always creating my own world. What is most empowering about this is the lack of blame. Blame has no more purpose. It used to be my favorite tool and explanation. It was always some kind of justification and always intended to exonerate me from responsibility.

Now I accept the responsibility for my thinking, actions, decisions, including those made without paying attention, along with the results in circumstance and manifestation. This allows me to find joy in living my life, laughing at the interesting choices I’ve made from time to time, and find joy with others in the same way.

Participate Joyfully In All Creation.

Spread Some Joy Today–Allow others to choose to be or do as they will, loving them as creators, and joyful in all they are while accepting yourself in the same exact way.

How Can There Be Anything Else But Love?

“When you understand now, today, that you are comprised of energy, and the man next to you, and the man next to you, and the man next to you are all comprised of the Creator in frequency, how can there be anything else but love? How can there be anything else but goodness manifested?”

— Paul Selig
The Book of Love and Creation

The Gift Of Life – Part 2

There once was a moment when time ceased, when all the heavens rejoiced. This was a moment beyond all moments, a moment that had never existed before in this time and space, a moment exalted by the celestial bodies, a moment so auspicious that the world would never be the same again. A chord on the harp of life had been stroked, and the thrill was felt throughout Creation.

New life is born. Rejoice! A heavenly choir sings in exaltation for the infant seed of life. Hope, faith, and joy herald your birth. Hope is for the blossoming of the seed, faith is for the beauty of its love and joy is for the eternal song of life. There is rapture in the heavens.

Tiny and helpless though you are, you hold within your being the most powerful force of the universe. You breathe the breath of God! Your essence is the spark of life. The light of the universal God flows and illuminates you. You are of greatest value, the most precious gift of God. Your power is the energy of Creation. With this power, you will move mountains, build dreams, and touch stars.

You are given the divine Gift of Life, but for this gift to be realized and to have meaning, you must accept it. This gift, the essence of life, is a sacred trust from the Lord God. Humility and reverence come when you accept the gift as a covenant of love from the Giver, and you glorify the Giver by the full expression of the gift.

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

[Note: The bold italic of the last line is mine. I think that this is such a powerful and insightful thought and I absolutely love how it is crafted. We have no need to glorify God so to speak, but we glorify God as we are the expression of the Gift of Life.]

The Paradigm Of Love: Wealth Of The Heart

Once I knew a person of great heart wealth. She was ninety-two, a little bent from time. Her hair was white, her wrinkles deep, her eyes radiated light and love. She was beautiful, and she was one of my great teachers. Although we only spent one hour together, she changed my life.

Mary Hadley lived in a small room in a complex for the elderly in Pasadena, California. Her material possessions were the pictures on the walls and the teapot from which she poured our tea.

I, a stranger making a ministerial visit, knocked on her door. After a long moment, she opened the door, and I explained my being there. Suddenly her eyes lit up, and she explained, “Every day I ask, ‘Lord, what miracles do you have for me today?’ And here you are!” She thought I was a miracle, and this was the first time I felt like a miracle.

Such Divine-Human Love radiated from this small weathered being that I felt immersed in radiant light. When I was leaving the complex, someone told me, “Everyone loves Mary Hadley.” What is this love that can embrace a stranger and recognize another as a miracle?

Can the wealth of Mary Hadley be counted?

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

Heaven On Earth

Heaven on Earth is
not “the Heaven of Heavens,”
not the eternal kingdom,
not the perfect place.

For in Heaven on Earth
are the tears
for another’s pain,
for the wounded souls,
for God’s violated gifts.

Heartbreak abounds in
Heaven on Earth,
yet also are there tears
of joy in spring’s blooming,
of rapture in a setting sun,
of wonder in a child’s smile.

Heaven on Earth
cannot be found
by “doubt” or “disbelief,”
is denied the worldly wise,
is unknown to human pride.

For in Heaven on Earth
heart touches heart;
gentleness holds the frightened;
joy sees the other and dances,
and the newborn pine rises out of ashes.

Heaven on Earth is lived
in a moment of “Light,”
in a moment of knowing,
in a moment of deep tenderness,
in a moment of kneeling.

For Heaven on Earth
is Love’s dwelling place
known to all
who open to Love.

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

I Create My Emotions With My Thoughts, Not The Other Way Around

“Why does a dog wag its tail? 
 Because a dog is smarter than its tail. 
 If the tail were smarter, 
 the tail would wag the dog.” 

 — From the movie, Wag the Dog 

[Classic post from 3-13-14]

Albert K Strong wisely said, “Our emotions don’t tell us what to think. Our emotions tell us what we are thinking.” I have dealt with some powerful emotions over the years–even to the point that some would call depression.

Mostly my clear memory of those times tells me I was mainly feeling sorry for myself and hoping others would join me. It was clear to me that my emotions were ruling my life. This is as the quote above where the tail is wagging the dog. There was a lot of dog wagging going on in my life for a long time. And, to make it more normal, everyone I knew around me was experiencing similar things. We attract people that way.

I learned a lot about the power of emotions and about what they mean in my studies in the last ten years. Once I accepted the premise that my emotions were an indicator of where my thinking was and that if I were to change my thinking, my emotion would change, everything began to change for me.

Three books and a seminar with time separation between was all I needed to be changed in this. The seminar was an Anthony Robbins weekend event that began with a Friday evening walking on hot coals action. The rest of the weekend was equally powerful. The books are Awaken the Giant Within, by Anthony Robbins, Love Is Letting Go Of Fear by Gerald Jampolsky, and The Astonishing Power Of Emotions by Esther and Jerry Hicks. One of these is powerful enough, but all three left no doubt whatsoever.

Everything we do, we do because we think we will feel better. Often, we make a choice that doesn’t match that idea and we don’t feel very good. That is an indication of needing a different choice. The goal is always to feel good, or joy. One of my favorite books is so appropriate in its title: Joy Is My Compass by Alan Cohen. It is my compass now. And, I have so much joy every single day and I keep wanting even more.

If I find myself thinking something that feels fearful, worrisome, or otherwise attached to an emotion that doesn’t feel good, I now know to choose a better feeling thought right away and stay on that track. Sometimes, I find myself going back and forth a lot in a short time, and most of that is old tapes and habit, but I know full well that I am in charge of my tail, not the other way around. With that attitude, feeling poorly hasn’t got a chance.

All I need to ever do is choose a better feeling thought, and then a better feeling thought and a better feeling thought. I can’t normally go from depression to joy in one step, so I just keep choosing better feeling thoughts and then I feel better, and better, and better.

Here’s how Abraham via Esther Hicks says it best: “No matter what the issue is, don’t try to justify why to don’t feel good. And don’t try to justify why you should feel differently. Don’t try to blame whatever it is you think the reason is that’s keeping you from feeling good. All of that is wasted effort. Just try to feel better right now.”

I Am In Charge Of My Tail. When It Is Wagging, I Am On The Right Track.

Spread Some Joy Today–by choosing better feeling thoughts throughout the day.

Who Taught Me?

Below is a poetic phrase that touched me deeply and really stood apart from the rest of the poem. The whole poem is excellent, and I so enjoyed this piece of it that I wanted to share that insight with you in case you may have a similar sense. I am very clear now in my life that happiness is indeed in the heart and not in the world. Now the one line that stood miles apart for me is this: [Who taught me] “that my true self is beyond me?” I know now that it is not beyond me as I allow my alignment with it and with the unconditional love that my true self embodies. Equally enlightening was the first two phrases: “Who taught me that getting is taking?” Wow! What a fascinating thought. I hope you enjoy this poem today.

Who taught me
that getting is taking,
not giving;
that happiness is in the world
not in the heart;
that my true self
is beyond me?

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When?

When did I become
and ego, not a truth
surrendering my divinity
for the world?

How did I become
someone I’m not,
a hollow person caught
in a misled crowd
moving to the worldly tune,
competing for the worthless prize?

Who taught me
that getting is taking,
not giving;
that happiness is in the world
not in the heart;
that my true self
is beyond me?

Who is this me
acting on the stage of life?
Who is this one
who can smile
while the heart cries,
who can make the
meaningless meaningful,
who can pretend that all is right
when it isn’t?

Who is this me
who has learned
my lines as an actor in a play
but doesn’t know why
the words are hollow?
Who is this me
who turns away from rainbows
and forgets the roses?

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

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