Category: Respect

Trends For 2021 and Beyond

This is an article I wrote that was just published in the FordPros Magazine, of which I've had the honor to be a part of since 2007. Happy New Year!

I’ve got my tinfoil hat on and I’m feeling the energy transfer bringing me magnificent wisdom for the coming year. Here it is: We have to accept and acclimate to the New Normal. That statement should bring some giggles at least. I really don’t know what the New Normal is because I don’t even know what the Old Normal was or what Normal is. I think we just make this stuff up as we go along. There is no such thing because there is one thing that we can bet the farm on: Change is a given! Change is constant. If this is true, how could there be a normal? I’m betting on constant change and not on some version of normal.

So, the trends for next year and beyond is that people and companies will try to determine normal and the New Normal and miss every single time. Predicting change isn’t any easier; however, since change will be unavoidable, it seems to me that finding a way to embrace that is the key to dealing with it in a healthy way.

Here’s some ideas to ponder. Let us all as people and as companies learn how to express rather than to try to impress. Let’s leave our egos in the closet at home and allow our genuine expression to rule. Let us constantly remember that being of service to our customers, the market, our employees, and each other is one of our most important core values. This is another way to express rather than impress. Let us be more kind to everyone including ourselves. Let us learn to drop the rope of resistance. That rope is nothing but stress and a host of negative emotions. It is easier than we could imagine releasing that stress: open hands, let the rope fall to the ground. Next step: Don’t pick it back up! Let us build the best products while paying attention and caring for all who help to make that possible. Let us respect and admire our customers and potential customers by helping them receive the best value and service possible. Let us learn that love in business is not an oxymoron. Let us then bring our love to work and back home again renewed and expanded. Let us release the resistance of fear and fully accept the joy of love. Love will be our highest expression with no need whatsoever to impress anyone.

We can see the room after we’ve turned on the dark switch or we can see the room after we’ve turned on the light. It is always a choice. We are the choosers. We try to see normal where normal is a completely made-up idea, or we can learn to not only embrace change but get excited about it and how we can apply innovation and excellence to meet any and all challenges. Personally, I see a future so bright that it is blinding. I’ll get my sunglasses and join you in the light!

Relationships

Everything about living or being alive is about relationships. Even if we were to imagine ourselves as alone and the only person alive on the planet, it would still be true that it is all about relationships. If I am alone, I still have the single most important relationship we ever have which I can choose to ignore but cannot forsake. That is my relationship with my inner being, or my higher self, or the God within, my soul, or any of the hundreds of ways to view that connection and my relationship to it and in it.

This scenario helps to solidify the idea that as I am in alignment within my primary relationship, I may be beneficial and be benefited by relationships with other people.

As I am choosing (it is always a choice) to align within myself to my higher self, I feel the resonating vibration that indicates that alignment, and my emotional state of feeling good also helps indicate I am aligned within. As I choose to be out of alignment for whatever reason I am choosing, I feel the discord of that choice and it is reflected in my emotional state of feeling bad, off, or any of a long list of negative feelings such as frustration, anger, resentment, melancholy, depression, powerlessness, and more.

As we are feeling, or a more accurate way to say that is vibrating, we are attracting more of the same from within ourselves first and then from others outside of ourselves. The Law of Attraction is unerring in its help in drawing like vibrations to us. This applies equally and without prejudice to lower vibrations of disharmony and higher vibrations of complete alignment.

The old saying that the rich get richer and the poor get poorer is a perfect example of how the Law of Attraction aids in the expansion of the choice of mindset. Indeed, rich and poor are simply mindsets, or ideas and are reflected in feelings. Rich is not a condition, it is a state of mind, just as poor is not a condition but a state of mind. We may not have money, but that condition is not being poor. We may have a lot of money but that doesn’t cause us to be rich. Money is an object and being rich is an idea, or a thought, train of thought, mindset. Rich is then a choice or attitude as is being poor.

Whatever the status of alignment in our primary relationship, we will experience those attributes in all our other relationships. This is why people who have had unsatisfactory relationships and then leave that relationship in search of something more satisfying will attract very similar attributes of the relationship they thought they left behind. They haven’t yet come into alignment within so the without cannot change either. The very old wisdom, as within, so without is always true and will always be the wisest advice. Want the outside to change? We must change the inside first. It doesn’t matter if it is a husband and wife or the world order. The solution is always the same: As within, so without.

How You May Know Anyone

“To mandate somebody be who they once were to you will claim yourself in a relationship to history. But to decide who they should be now will do the very same thing. How you may know anyone is in the moment you sit in.

To be in the present moment is to re-know anyone in a higher accord because the Divine expresses there.”

— Paul Selig

It Happens All The Time In Heaven

It happens all the time in heaven, and someday
it will begin to happen again on earth–

that men and women who are married, and
men and men who are lovers,

and women and women who give each other
light,

often will get down on their knees, and while
so tenderly holding their lover’s hand, with

tear-filled eyes, will sincerely say, “My dear,
how can I be more loving to you; my darling,

how can I be more kind?”

— Hafiz

Changing Lemons Into Lemonade

“The best way to destroy an enemy
is to make him a friend.”

— Abraham Lincoln

[Classic post from 9-17-12]

Wouldn’t you love to have a friend around with the wisdom and common sense of Abraham Lincoln? I think it would be so interesting hearing his famous quips in real life.

I am grateful for them now because most that I read are so timeless. Wisdom has a way of being that way.

This quote above is one of my personal favorites, and I’ve taken it to heart in my life more and more as I’ve grown. I don’t see any sense whatsoever in having enemies of any kind. Struggle and fighting do not achieve long term objectives. The best use of our skills would be to turn the tables on a potential enemy and make them a friend. What a difference that makes for all concerned.

There Is No Need For Enemies. One Enemy Is Too Many, And You Can Never Have Too Many Friends.

Spread Some Joy Today–If you have any so-called enemies, today is the best day to change them to friends. Start now.

Being The Example Of Love

“Know that you cannot change anything out there; you can only allow other people and situations to change. If you wish to see anything in your world change, change yourself! Then the other changes. Then you will be being a representative example to everyone else of what kind of unconditionally loving being they can also be–by allowing them to see the example you are setting, regardless of what they are choosing. If you are buying into their reality, and becoming frustrated and hateful and so on, because they are choosing to be frustrated and hateful and so on, you are only reinforcing the reality they are already living. You are not giving them an example; you are not giving them a chance to see any other way.

Trust. Be the life you wish to be. Act as if you are that way. We are not suggesting you ignore the fact that other people are choosing to suffer. But the way to assist them best is to first and foremost be the being that at least shows them there is another way to be. Otherwise they cannot see an example of how they could also choose to be: loving to themselves.”

— Bashar, Darryl Anka

True Love Is Beyond Fear

Here are some bits of wisdom from Paul Selig's latest book, Alchemy that touched me deeply.

“Each individuated expression of humanity is a perfect imprint of God… Happy or sad, high or low, she cannot be seen as other than perfect in the eyes of God. As these become your eyes, you love in agreement to who another is. You don't make them other. You claim them as they truly are. And they are gifted by this, as you are gifted by their presence.

To agree to the essence of another is to comprehend who they are outside of their fear… To comprehend another as who they are outside of their fear is to know them in love. It is nothing other than the agreement to truth that claims you in accord with your fellows.

To love another, to truly love another, is to love them for all time… True love expresses throughout time, because true love is not bound by time. If true love is God in expression, it is eternal… true love must always be present, just as God must always be present even when you cannot see it or feel it.”

These short passages touched me deeply because I have become a practicing unconditional lover of all. This has nothing to do with right and wrong and other such historical labels that tend to color everything we see. It is to see beyond all of that white noise to see the essence of the divine in all people and all things.

This place that I have come to is pure joy for me and it requires zero effort as it is completely natural. The work is trying to maintain the facades that we have been trained to display. Releasing this is the no effort natural choice once the decision is made to walk this path. I often call that dropping the rope of resistance because it visually demonstrates how little effort is involved to change. Holding on to the rope is where all the work and stress is. Letting go is where all the joy, peace, and love is.

Making Peace

“We encourage you to make peace with everyone who opposes you and with everyone whom you oppose, not only because you cannot insist on their yielding to your perspective but because their opposing perspective is of tremendous benefit to you.

You see, because of your exposure to what you perceive as their wrong or bad or unwanted behavior or perspective—you have given birth to an improved situation. And just as they helped the problem side of the equation to come into focus, they helped the solution side of the equation to come into focus, also; and that solution waits for you in your Vortex of Creation.

When you make peace with those who differ in desire and belief and behavior from your ideas of what is appropriate, you do not perpetuate what you consider to be wrong. Instead, you align with the solution side of the equation that has been waiting for you in your Vortex of Creation.”

— Abraham, Esther Hicks

Book Of Positive Aspects

In yesterday’s post, I referred to a notebook I’ve been carrying for a lot of years that I call My Book of Positive Aspects. I mentioned that I got the idea from Abraham, Esther Hicks and I shared two lists that were in this book.

The main reason for the book is to expand my awareness of all the wonderful things and people in my life and to find greater appreciation and love for the people and for the events and situations in my life.

I had several pages of what I saw as positive aspects of my wife, my business partner, special friends. One of the best sections to have is celebrating and recognizing the positive aspects of ourselves.

As I said, it is fascinating to see things you write down 5, 10, 15 years or more later. I found that when I made these notes and added to them from time to time that I would see things in other people, and even those very close to me, that I perhaps wouldn’t have thought of without this little exercise. It helps expand our view, our love, our appreciation.

Here are a few I wrote about my business partner, Ryan, who is 30 years younger than I am and we have been in business together for 13 years:

Ryan makes me laugh. He is very funny. I feel much younger around him.

Ryan is smart and quick with very intelligent ideas and views.

Ryan can see the pieces to the puzzle.

Ryan is a bundle of enthusiasm.

Here are a few that I wrote about myself:

I love people everywhere I go. That is the true and clear message of Jesus. As I release more resistance each day, I love more each day.

I love looking at how things are made–especially buildings. I have a large appreciation of architecture and design.

I have the courage to try things, to step out, and do.

I think I have a great way of looking at things, especially globally.

The book contains other topics as well. One list is “I want… I would love to…” In looking at this list, I’ve crossed off all but about five that I had listed as completed since I wrote the list. That’s fascinating.

One of the best things about the Book of Positive Aspects is to find things to appreciate in people or things that you may not have cared for or perhaps even disliked intensely. Nothing is ever only negative, or positive for that matter, but a mix. Allowing ourselves to see beyond the mask so to speak can really help us to learn to appreciate everyone and everything. We don’t need to appreciate everything about them or that thing, but finding things we can appreciate is a very powerful and empowering exercise.

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