Category: Respect

Act Great!

What is the key
To untie the knot of your mind’s suffering?

Is the esoteric secret
To slay the crazed one whom each of us
Did wed

And who can ruin
Our heart’s and eye’s exquisite tender

Hafiz has found
Two emerald words that

That I now cling to as I would sacred
Tresses of my Beloved’s

Act great.
My dear, always act great.

What is the key
To untie the know of the mind’s suffering?

Benevolent thought, sound
And movement.

— Hafiz

Self-Depricating Humor Is Not Funny

It has been said by many that to be able to laugh at oneself is a sign of maturity and confidence. It has also been said that self-deprecating humor is one way we can laugh at ourselves and fulfill that edict of it causing us to have maturity and confidence in ourselves because we can laugh at our mistakes, missteps, failures, and foibles.

I think that this is pure crap.

Any form–I mean ANY form of self-deprecation–is a tragedy. What is needed is self-congratulatory. What is needed is celebrating ourselves, our value, our relationships, our love, and so much more. Belittling ourselves so that others might think we're funny is not really funny. It is belittling ourselves, making us less than, putting ourselves down so others can feel good about themselves, and so on. Why should we ever put ourselves down for any reason? Pure junk.

It's time to celebrate every single day. No matter what. Celebrate the experience of living. Celebrate the love that we have in our lives and the love that we feel for others. Let go completely of the need to make ourselves less so that someone else can feel better. We rock! We are. We matter. Regardless of who else is around us and regardless of their position or title in life, we matter. Celebrate!

Now, I do agree that we need not take ourselves too seriously. Our ego wants to be in charge of that, for sure. However, we need to appreciate ourselves more because we are all valuable. We need to celebrate ourselves more because we are all deserving. We need to love ourselves more because we all deserve to be loved.

Rather than laugh at ourselves or each other by finding fault, let us love and respect each other and ourselves as we see the love and joy in each other on our journey in this life we share.

The Pedestal Has Left The Building

“Admiration, praise, and appreciation of another
must not be at the expense of ourselves.”

— Albert K Strong

[Classic post from 9-25-12]

When we can celebrate people and their accomplishments without putting them on a pedestal, or ourselves in a pit, what a beautiful, empowered, and joyful place this is.

It’s always been easy to see famous people, or people with a certain authority, title, or position as greater than myself. Things might go through my mind such as, ‘they can do that because they are great, and I will never be able to do that,’ or, ‘they were in the right place at the right time,’ or, ‘they got all the breaks and went to Harvard, and I didn’t have any such luck,’ and so on. It’s easy to put people on a pedestal and it is also easy and somewhat typical for us to see ourselves as so much less than that, thereby putting ourselves so far below in a pit.

We’re happy to praise them, lift them up, but when it is at the expense of our own self-worth or worthiness, it is damaging to both parties because we are not giving them the true joy we feel, but some odd sort of worship, and we are feeling less than them, or lacking at the same time. Yet, that is often how I felt about all those many people who were cooler, more popular, seemed to succeed without trying, and more. Fortunately, I’ve learned how to let most all that go and am feeling so much more alive as a result.

Now when I see someone doing so well, I am in awe of their skill and ability without taking anything from myself in the process. Because of that, I find that my joy for them is far exceeding what it ever was in the past. At the same time, I am uplifted in myself because deep down, we are all connected and I’ve come to realize that I am actually part of the whole instead of being outside looking in.

In this, I have risen above my ego so to speak. Another way to say it is that I follow my bliss. It seems to me I’ve heard that somewhere. . . and it is so applicable (thanks, Joseph Campbell). As I focus on that, I find more and more bliss. Whereas in the past I thought there was a limited storehouse, I have now found a truly unlimited supply.

Bon Appetit.

Spread Some Joy Today–Relax, you’re soaking in it. . .

A Love That Frees

“The promises of this world are, 
for the most part, vain phantoms; 
and to confide in one’s self, 
and become something of worth and value 
is the best and safest course.” 

— Michelangelo 


“The value of a man 
should be seen
in what he gives 
and not in what
he is able to receive.” 

— Albert Einstein 

[Classic post from 2-21-17]

I’m going to share a dream from early this morning. It was so powerful that I woke up and had to write part of it down.

I was friends with a man named Bob Mopi, who was such a special friend. I remember reading a quote by Thich Nhat Hanh the other day which matches this man’s love and friendship perfectly: “You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.” I felt completely and totally loved and free whenever I even thought of Bob Mopi, and I did nothing to hold him from being equally loved and free.

Bob was an expert at numbers, investing, and managing money. He was in the highest demand, and yet he chose as he chose not paying any attention to the grandness of the offers. He was his own man and did as he pleased; did what pleased him the most.

I was friends with several board members of a mid-sized company and they really needed a treasurer, but more like a CFO; someone who could guide the company financially out of the chaos that it had landed in, but they couldn’t pay the big bucks and so they were wondering where this magic person would come from.

I said, “what about Bob?” I didn’t even say his last name, and they all knew exactly who I was talking about. They all instantly said, Bob Mopi. Yes, that’s who we want. But, will he be available to us? That’s the question. I said that I would speak to him.

Now this board was made up of the finest men and women one could know. They were smart and full of integrity, and yet, they found themselves in need of some financial help. Well, a lot of financial help.

I talked with Bob and he instantly agreed to do it, not even asking about any compensation. The only thing he stipulated is that he must have the freedom to not be tied to this job. He must be able to get the work done in whatever little time it might take and then have the freedom to do other things in the meantime. It was agreed.

Afterward, back in the big office with that board, everyone was chatting it up and I spoke out (and this is what I wrote down early this morning): “I know what is so special about Bob. He doesn’t not like anyone. Everyone is important to him. He doesn’t know how people he interacts with will be of value to him or he to them, but he knows there is value in all relationships, however brief or exalted.”

I thought, wow! If someone were to say that about me, that would be the greatest compliment I could ever be paid. It is love. It is love as a noun, and also a verb. It is love in action. It is unconditional love. It doesn’t matter how the other is expressed physically, Bob loves them as they are inside–as they truly are, and he loves them with such freedom that the other feels no ties that bind, with no expectations, with no requirements.

Imagine The Possibilities Of This In Your Life And Your World. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by seeing beyond the surface to see that in which we all are the same in love and freedom.

Everybody Is A Genius

“Everybody is a genius.
But, if you judge a fish
by its ability to climb a tree,
it will spend its whole life
believing that it is stupid.”

— Albert Einstein

I love this quote from my friend, Albert. I believe that everyone is a genius and each of us has very special talents, abilities, and value. I think it is part of our life work to find what special talents, abilities, and value we have to offer, for I know that in the offering, is a life worth living. At the same time, I think we are all challenged equally to find those things in others and help them see their genius for themselves. I think in that offering, we enhance them and inspire ourselves.

Spread Some Joy Today–Start by celebrating your genius, then celebrate it in others. It will be non-stop joydom.

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