Category: Radiance

You May Be Far More Successful Than You Think

“A handful of pine seed will cover mountains
with the green majesty of forests. I too will set
my face to the wind and throw my handful of seed on high.”
 
— Fiona MacLeod (William Sharp)
 
 
“There may be more to life than having everything.”
 
— Maurice Sendak
 
 
 
[Classic post from 4-6-11]
 
Success is such a broad concept and so much of the talk and writing about it revolves around accomplishment and money. Having everything, or more commonly stated, having it all, is like the ultimate accomplishment.
 
I have a friend that I’ve now known for over 20 years. He is somewhat younger and so I’ve had the delight to watch him go from his young twenties into his forties. I hired him as a salesman when we first met and he listened to most of what I tried to teach and so has done very well. He’s done well not because of me, but himself. All I did was encourage him basically. I had the easy part.
 
We worked together for some years and have not for many more and in his job he is in a similar place to where he was then. It is just that he’s been doing it longer and has had some experiences to put in his bag of gathered knowledge and skills. I would say he is and has been a success at his job and career, but it isn’t the kind of success that is talked about and written about where large growth happens or larger financial success.
 
Yet, the thing that I respect and admire about him the most is the part that he is a superstar success in and that is as a father to his children and a loving husband to his wife. His career has always taken a second seat to that–except when I first met him, he had no wife or children.
 
He has always had a demanding job–demanding his time and focus and the pressure of needing to perform, but he has always taken that with ease as if it was no big deal. It was easy for him and a good part of his success at work was that with this ease, he was able to do his job, perform, AND schedule time for his family. He created a flexible environment where most in that work position would have become workaholics.
 
He went to school events, coached baseball for many years, and had two of his sons playing as well. Two and two. Two wonderful boys and two beautiful girls. He found ways to be there and to be part and to participate in growing up with them. They are in their teens now and I know that would have been so different had he not participated throughout the earlier years.
 
He’s a people person and loves his family and extended family and is active and a part of each and every one. He loves his customers as well and anyone who doesn’t love him just doesn’t know him at all. I’m so proud to call him a friend and we rarely see each other living some miles apart. Yet, I think loving thoughts of him and his wonderful family all the time.
 
To me, he is the epitome of success. He’s never had all the answers, but he is thoughtful and concerned, and caring. He’s a lover. He just loves people–all the people he ever comes in contact with. I think he really does have it all.
 
 
You May Be Far More Successful Than You Think.
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Become a lover today. Love everyone you see just for the fun of it. You might find it is worth doing every day.

The Playhouse Of Our Mind

 “This is where you will win the battle–
in the playhouse of your mind.”
 
— Maxwell Maltz
 
 
“All the significant battles are waged within the self.”
 
— Sheldon Kopp
 
 
 
[Classic post from 4-3-11]
 
You know, most of what I share in these Daily Inspirations is what I have recently learned from study and life, along with what I find myself going through on the way toward a more self-directed life. I always say that I am practicing, for I don't want to make it seem as if I'm any more an expert than you are, but I do want to share some important things I'm learning that is making a tremendous difference in how I feel, and how I feel is joyful more every day and I'm honored by the comments I receive from some very loyal readers. Thank you for allowing me to share insights, philosophy, and my travels with you.
 
Today's quotes hit squarely on what is the most significant key to change and improvement: our own thinking. From a practical sense, that means how I feel about things, how I react to circumstances and events, how I talk to myself and whether I am building myself up or semi-consciously tearing myself down. I say semi-consciously because I wasn't aware I was doing it, and certainly unknowledgeable about the accumulated effects, and at the same time, I could hear myself saying it. I'm thinking you might know what I am trying to say about that.
 
So, here's to awareness. It's like opening the door and looking in and actually seeing what is inside and getting a good idea of what is going on in there. I've awakened. No, certainly not “there” yet, and not sure I will ever completely arrive; however, I now firmly know because I've tested it pretty thoroughly, that I can make a dramatic difference in my own happiness, or how I feel, by paying attention to my own thoughts and changing them to better suit what I want. I pay attention to them mainly by paying attention to how I am feeling. When I feel good about something, I get excited and when I feel lousy or off about something, I instantly realize that I need to step in and take charge of the direction my thoughts are taking me.
 
And, it is working by practice. Every day I get a little bit better at it, and the bottom line is I am a far happier person as a result.
 
 
Practice Makes Perfect. Or At Least Much Better.
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Practice feeling good today. No point in letting anything get you down. It's really good to learn that we are all in charge of that. What power!

The Spirit Of Love

“Love is the evolutionary hope
for humankind.
Gradually, humankind will learn
that as a human heart
is consecrated by Divine Love,
reborn in the Spirit of Love
and nurtured into full life
by cooperating and trusting
the God of Love in its flowering,
God's dream and human hope
will become a reality.”

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

Finding Fault In The Mirror

“We don't see things as they are,
we see them as we are.”

— Anais Nin

If you're overweight, maybe this will sound familiar: you go to the bathroom to take a shower and you undress and see yourself in the mirror and think that you've just got to lose this weight. You think it looks terrible. You hardly recognize yourself. You weigh yourself every day and pride yourself on losing half of a pound and chastise yourself for gaining an ounce, with vows to exercise, eat less, eat less fatty foods, and a very long list of excuses and justifications.

It's perfectly normal to look in that mirror and pick out all your physical faults–your lines, your sags, your spots, your hair, your posture, excess fat, whatever. The closer you look, the more faults are exposed.

I thought about the fat on my body and I started thinking about it being perfect. And, you know what? It is! The body is a work of perfection. You take in quantities of fuel (food) that is more than the body needs, and it becomes like a squirrel storing it up for the winter or another time when it may be needed. Its design stores that extra all over the body with an emphasis in certain areas near the stomach and intestines where it can be readily used quickly when needed. It is not flawed–it is operating perfectly.

This perspective filled me with new thoughts of praise. I began being thankful for the way I looked and how perfectly my body was dealing with the environment I gave it. 

Begin your day appreciating yourself and how perfect you are. That joy will rub off on everyone you encounter all day.

Dreams Are Beyond Limitations

“It's good to take a longer view and think,
What would I really like to do
if I had no limitations whatsoever?”

— Laurie Anderson

“There are no limitations to the mind
except those we acknowledge.”

— Napoleon Hill

Dreaming is a tool to open possibilities. The key I've found is to forget about any limitations and just dream. In dreams you can be anything, anyone, achieve anything, do anything. It is a limitless universe. The more that this is sprinkled into our reality, the more our reality takes on some of those limitless ideas.

Letting reality have a place, but not the whole place allows us to learn how to soar. Indeed, any limitations that we think we have are beliefs we have, and beliefs are just thoughts we keep thinking.

Shining Our Light Boldly

“As we let our light shine, we consciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence actually liberates others.”

— Marianne Williamson

As we grow, we allow and encourage others to do the same. As we experience and share our joy, we allow and encourage others to have joy. By the act of doing, we encourage others to do the same.

Go shine your lights boldly!

We Lead By Example. Be One.

Turning Criticism Into Growth

“Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming
that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.”

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“It ain't what they call you, it's what you answer to.”

— W. C. Fields

It doesn't matter what others think about what I do or do not do. It is my own thinking about what I do or do not do that matters. If I approve of me, that is all that is needed. If others approve too, the more the merrier, and if they don't, that's okay too. I'll celebrate their way for them. It is so empowering and comforting to be an allower.

Finding Out Who You Have

 “Coming together is a beginning;
keeping together is progress;
working together is success.”
 
— Henry Ford
 
 
 
[Classic post from 5-15-11]
 
I've seen this quote many times and then all of a sudden, today, it took on new meaning. I think it describes our relationships extremely well. I think it even describes an excellent marriage. I've seen so many that never get to the last part, but think the middle is the key. And, of course, everyone remembers the beginning!
 
It also describes business relationships and the successful ones, or lasting ones are always based on the working together part. The beginnings are all so easy, and staying together presents challenges and this is where most dabble and depart. The good news about that is finding out who your partners are and who they are not.
 
Any relationship that gets to the working together part is special and valuable. I know in my life, those are the ones that I value the most, whether I see them often or not.
 
 
Friendship. Love. Working Together.
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Make sure those relationships you value know it.

Reinventing Ourselves At Will

 “When I started,
I knew I was no actor
and I went to work on this Wayne thing.
It was as deliberate a projection as you'll ever see.
I figured I needed a gimmick,
so I dreamed up the drawl,
the squint and a way of moving
that meant to suggest
I wasn't looking for trouble,
but would just as soon
throw a bottle at your head as not.
I practiced in front of a mirror.”
 
— John Wayne
 
 
“I used to tremble from nerves so badly
that the only way
I could hold my head steady
was to lower my chin
practically to my chest
and look up at Bogie.
That was the beginning of The Look.”
 
— Lauren Bacall
 
 
 
 
[Classic post from 5-16-11]
 
It is easy to idolize famous people, especially when you've watched just about every movie they've ever made or every song they've ever sung and so on. We see all the success of their trade usually without the knowledge of the beginning part, or the times they missed the mark.
 
I love reading the quote above by John Wayne because he just invented his persona out of thin air and then rehearsed it so often that it became him. He also said, “I play John Wayne in every part regardless of the character.” That gave him a lot of practice.
 
Trying something new and unknown can be a fearful adventure or an interesting challenge. It is clear that for John Wayne and Lauren Bacall, it appears to have been both.
 
Often we might think that other people just get all the breaks and success, while we struggle for whatever we get. When we look a little deeper though, we find that they put their pants on one leg at a time, just being human like us.
 
If we sort of forget about the way things are supposed to be, or be who we think we ought to be, and instead, think about the way we want to be and let that come out, we will be so much better off. We can reinvent ourselves anytime we choose to.
 
 
People Do It All The Time…
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Is it time to reinvent a bit of yourself? What fun!

Practicing Owning My Own Feelings

“Own your own feelings. Nobody else does.
Accept that you don’t own the other person’s feelings.”

— Deepak Chopra

This quote is the single most profound personal help I ever learned. I learned it in my twenties back in the mid-1970s. I’ve never forgotten it and I have done my best to put it to good use in my life. However, there have been many, many times that after having this profound knowledge, decided to ignore it and blame others for my feelings while even being fully aware of that fact. I did it anyway.

Does that sound familiar? How many things that I learn that are so helpful that I also choose to ignore is interesting. And, here’s the best answer to that I have ever found:

“Practice is nine-tenths.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

As I practice on purpose what I have learned, it has a better chance of having a positive impact and influence on me and my behavior. So, if there is any work to learning, it is the constant internal nudging to put it into practice and practice it until it is known; until it becomes me.

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