Category: Peace

Forgiveness Is Inseparable From Peace And Love

“Forgiveness never meant much to me,
until I realized, that if it was truly forgiveness,
it was inseparable from peace and love.” 

— Terry Minion 

[Classic post from 9-7-16]

Learning about true forgiveness has been a lengthy journey, and once I accepted the fullness of the idea, the main journey has been in the practice of it.

A Course in Miracles, says much about forgiveness, and here is just a little of that: “Forgiveness recognizes what you thought your brother did to you has not occurred. It does not pardon sins and make them real. It sees there was no sin. . . An unforgiving thought is one which makes a judgment that it will not raise to doubt, although it is not true. The mind is closed and will not release. . . Forgiveness, on the other hand, is still, and quietly does nothing. . . It merely looks, and waits, and judges not.” 

And here is a very enlightening aspect to add to that, also from the Course: “As you condemn only yourself, so do you forgive only yourself.” Forgiveness is not to release another, it is to release ourselves, for as we are unforgiving, we are binding ourselves to that which has not occurred to us, or by us. I have to add one more sentence from the Course: “God is the Love in which I forgive.” 

I was trying to remember where I began this journey of learning about forgiveness. I think it was in the early 1980s after I bought and read the book, Love Is Letting Go of Fear, by Gerald Jampolsky. This little book that can be read completely in less than an hour is easily in the top five books I have ever read in terms of its power in my life. I always have plenty of copies on hand in my office, and I’ve given several hundred away, planting seeds of peace, love, and forgiveness to any who are willing to open the book and read and consider for themselves.

I still struggled with my past thoughts and trying to make my way in the world so to speak. For so many years, I would learn a little more, and then I finally began earnestly practicing forgiveness, along with the idea of unconditional love.

Forgiveness is so attached to unconditional love, for in a love without conditions, there is only peace and forgiveness, and again, the idea of forgiveness is a matter of realizing that there is really only love–that there is nothing to forgive, that in this love, I am completely at peace.

To Forgive Is Like It Never Happened. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by for-giving yourself the love and joy you deserve. It was just an illusion. Smile! You’re bathed in unconditional love!

Love And Marriage

“‘Til death do you (us, we) part.” 

— an interesting phrase that is
is common in marriage ceremonies. 

[Classic post from 9-1-16]

I wonder how many marriage ceremonies I’ve seen on television and in movies. It must be several thousand. In addition, the many different types of marriage vows made were also interesting, and, of course, full of challenging expectations of each other, as well as devoid of real-life experience, claiming an imaginary duration and outcome.

I’m not being negative about marriage, even though, according to statistics, only about half survive without divorce. Frankly, having been married twice myself, I’m amazed that the divorce rate is not higher, especially if we compared that to the unreal expectations at the marriage ceremony.

It’s interesting how things just pop into my head, and when I’m awake and alert, I might even write them down. This morning, as I was considering this Daily Inspiration among several hundred other thoughts, I wrote down a marriage vow that made sense to me from my experience, and from my gained wisdom of living into my sixties. Here it is, for what it’s worth:

“I am me. I have likes and dislikes. I lean toward the likes and away from the dislikes. Where our likes intersect, we can experience a sense of oneness. Where they do not intersect, yet are similar in nature, we can be in harmony. Where they are not complimentary, we may enjoy periodic cooperation, or where they are not, we can enjoy mutual freedom and respect. In all, within and without, I am now, and will be loving without condition, secure in myself in peace.” 

That works perfectly for me and I think it would work equally well for others. If we can say that to each other and have it come from the heart, there is nothing but love, regardless of the longevity. Divorce would only mean a change in focus and temporary location.

I grew up with two nasty divorces. The divorces weren’t a bad thing, but I saw the nastiness as completely unnecessary and foreign to my psyche. I vowed it would never happen that way to me. It hasn’t. It won’t. It could never be.

Why? Because I learned one of the most valuable lessons that have guided my life: Love is not really love if it can be something other than love. In other words, love could never turn into hate. Love is the equivalent vibration of freedom, empowerment, joy, and appreciation. It vibrates there. Anger, hate, distrust, powerlessness vibrate at a much different frequency. They are incompatible. If you love, you love. If you love, you forgive. If you love, you allow. If you love, you are not attached and do not cling (despair). If you love, you will always love. Love does not require circumstances for itself. It is. Regardless of circumstances.

I simply have to repeat one of my all-time favorite quotes by one of my lifelong mentors, Wayne Dyer, where he gave the single best definition of unconditional love I’ve ever read: “Love is the ability and willingness to allow others that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you.” 

In the immediacy of the situation, one can dislike the choices that another will choose to make, but love is the ability, and the willingness, to allow those choices to be acceptable, to be perfect for them, because they were made by the other person, and because love carries no insistence, no demands, to satisfy me, or then withhold my love and respect. If that were the case, it would not be love. It would not be freedom. It would not be appreciation. It would not be empowerment. It would not be joy. It would be some other vibration–something else entirely.

I Have Learned What Love Means To Me. Simply One Of The Most Powerful Lessons I Could Ever Have Learned. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by loving who you are, where you are, with whom you are in the presence of.

It Is About People

“I believe a leaf of grass is no less
than the journey-work of the stars.” 

— Walt Whitman 

[Classic post from 8-13-16]

Yesterday at the bank, a very brief conversation about history arose. One of the newest women who wasn't there that day was said to be quite the history buff. So am I. . . sometimes.

I briefly mentioned how little regard I had for history in school because it seemed to only be interested in dates, places, special people, and so-called important events. I said as I was leaving that, “history is not about dates and events. It is about people.” 

What makes a good historical study? The people involved and how they thought, how they felt, what circumstances surrounded them, how they were taught, what they believed, what they wrote in diaries, what they said to each other verbally and in letters, and more. Essentially, it is about people. The first manned flight at Kitty Hawk was nothing without the man and the men behind it. 

History bored me to tears in high school. I would come to class and there would be an outline written on the chalkboard that covered an entire wall that we were to copy down. It focused so much on dates and events; e.g., when was the Revolutionary War? The battle of Gettysburg? The declaration of independence? World War I? The Panama Canal? I never understood why the tests were all about these dates and events and so little was ever taught about the people other than some major events such as the Crossing of the Delaware, Lincoln's Emancipation Proclamation, Lincoln's assassination, etc. I passed the tests, but the information meant very little to me.

In all of my schooling, there were two teachers who taught history with a focus on the people. One was in a high school that I only was in for a few months, and the other was a teacher in one class in college. But, it is since I left school that I have become a real history major. I've studied all manner of history for the last 45 years, finding hundreds of great works that bring the people of history to life. 

One thing I've learned about history is that everything is connected in some way to everything else. Leonardo Da Vinci said it this way: “A wave is never found alone, but is mingled with the other waves.” 

Another thing I have learned is that once a thing is finally done, it expands exponentially in ever-widening circles like dropping a rock in a calm lake. The Wright Brothers created the first manned sustained powered flight of a heavier than air aircraft in 1903, and barely 24 years later, an unknown mail pilot was the first person to cross the Atlantic ocean from New York to Paris in an airplane. Now powered flight is so common with hundreds of people on each flight that we don't even think about it as an amazing thing. And yet it is an amazing thing.

We are each creating history. It is equally important as any history ever created. Our history would be equally fascinating to many others as any history ever created. People are amazing. There are as many great stories in your life as in anyone's life.

You have chosen your life, your times, your tribulations, your delightful interludes, and massive successes. You are living your life–boldly going where you have not been before–and leaving a path where you have been. Are you less important than Abraham Lincoln? Hell no! He simply gets more media attention.

It is said by Abraham, Esther Hicks that there is no difference in the creation of a button or a castle. One is not harder than the other. A Course in Miracles says, “There is no order of difficulty in miracles. One is not “harder” or “bigger” than another. They are all the same. All expressions of love are maximal.” And then is added this: “Miracles as such do not matter. The only thing that matters is their Source, which is far beyond evaluation.” 

We all come from the same Source. We are all as much a miracle as anyone who has ever lived or ever will live. Celebrate yourself as a miracle, as someone with a grand history; albeit, a unique one and that alone makes your history special in the same way that your uniqueness makes you special–not more special than anyone else–equally special in the heart of the Creator.

You Are Living The Perfect Life Right Now. Change It As You Will, And It Yet Remains Perfect Right Now. 

Spread Some Joy Today–in celebration. Celebrate your life. Enjoy your history. When you are celebrating your history you are doing it not in the past, but in the present.

The Benefits Of Change

“Change brings opportunity.” 

— Nido Qubein 

[Classic post from 8-27-14]

I was thinking about change and how often we might feel that we don’t like change much unless of course, it is fully to our benefit and perfectly timed. Good luck with that.

What I was realizing is that without change, nothing moves, and nothing happens. Change is necessary. It is desired when we realize that we cannot live without it. Aristotle said, “Change in all things is sweet.” He had it down pat.

Sometimes we might think that we need to change for the better because of what is or has been being less than perfect. I don’t think that has anything to do with it, except that whatever decisions we make are always made in the hopes of feeling better.

It is more about expansion than anything. We are expanding beings, the Universe is expanding, and that is what we want: expansion. Some might call it growth, but I like the word expansion better. We cannot help but expand and change is the only way it can come about.

So many of the quotes I’ve reviewed about change put change in a positive light and that it is necessary and good. I agree. It’s when we are in a rut, or doing the same things over and over without even thinking about it that things get dull. That contrast leads to a desire for a change. We can only sleep so long and then we just have to get up and get going.

Movement is life. Change is movement. When I understand the value of a change in this way, I look forward to the change and the opportunities.

“Change Alone Is Eternal, Perpetual, Immortal.” — Arthur Schopenhauer 

Spread Some Joy Today–by building on your list of positive aspects daily. A great way to start is at the top of the page, write “I love. . .” and then fill in the blank lines. Call it a joy-builder and a life-enhancer.

The Ways

“It's not that some people
have willpower and some don't…
It's that some people are ready
to change and others are not.”

— James Gordon

[Classic post from 2-21-13]

I see it all around me–people that need to change. Sue Grafton said it in an interesting way: “You can't save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don't appreciate your interfering with the drama they've created. They want your poor-sweet-baby sympathy, but they don't want to change.” Then, there's that very old phrase I've used many times, “you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink.”

No matter what I think, people will change when they decide they want or need to change. The best I can do is to attempt to inspire them, remind them, and even sometimes guide them, and the rest is totally up to them.

This is as it should be. As I live my life, I find things that work and incorporate them into my life, with that change, I may share my experience and others will do as they will with that. One of the things that I have to constantly remind myself of is that there are so many ways of doing a thing, and whatever I have chosen is a way. I remind myself as often as necessary that there is no way, there is your way, my way, and their way, and they are all ways.

As a result of reminding myself about the ways, I see Sue's comment, which I've agreed with many times, and I see in it that as we say “those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives,” is entirely judgmental and not in a positive way. It's true that “they don't appreciate your interfering with the drama they've created,” because those are their choices and the drama is their payoff probably. So be it. And, they often want sympathy. So be it. However, we can let them choose their way, and choose our own by walking away.

One last perspective. I so enjoy hearing others share their “way” and what they've learned. I especially love their passion when I hear it and see it.

There Is Plenty Of Room For Each And Every Way.

Spread Some Joy Today–If you can, take a break and find a place with people around and just watch them, see the different ways they act, clothes they wear, shapes of their bodies, voices, everything. It is so fascinating.

Words Do Not Teach. Experience Does.

“It is one thing to hear a concept
and feel the resonance of it when you hear it,
and it's another thing altogether
to practice it until you own it, to be it.”

— Abraham, Esther Hicks 

[Classic post from 4-19-18]

It is so easy and goes down so smoothly to read or hear about unconditional love and feel good about the idea of that, and yet, it is a whole other thing to actually practice it in our lives. We get it. The idea of it resonates with us because it is truly in alignment with our inner knowing, our God within. Actually living that is another thing altogether.

This is true with a lot of learning perhaps even the majority of the things that we learn in concept, speak of, write of. So many things we can discuss in a lot of detail, but when it comes to actually living it, well, we become forgetful.

Abraham, Esther Hicks is famous for saying, “words do not teach. It is experience that teaches.” Of course, that is true. And so, I continue to choose to engage in practice so that it becomes my experience. Victor Hugo is famous for saying, “There is nothing more powerful than an idea whose time has come.” And, as powerful as that is, it is anemic in comparison to executing that idea through action and thereby becoming experience. We learn by doing more than we learn by thinking or receiving information.

Anyone who has read these Daily Inspirations for any length of time knows that I write about love more than anything else and though I write of it that often, I am more famous for practicing it. I learn about love by loving. I learn about unconditional love by loving without condition. I don't simply share platitudes, but ideas and thoughts that when they become active in our lives change our lives for the better.

This is where practice comes in. With our historical perspective, and seeing popular movies, video games, television shows, and watching people in real life around us, it is easy to see the need for practice and it is easy to see that there isn't much going on in the way of practice but a continuing repetition of the past, adjusted perhaps, but not really different. Jim Rohn is famous for saying, “for things to change, you must change.” I prefer to put that in the first person and say, for things to change, I must change, and change will require practice, especially considering my habitual patterns from history and viewing the history in action that I see all around me.

It is said that practice makes perfect and that is a great truism, yet practice is simply turning an idea into action. As we look around, we can see the manifestation of ideas turned into action and much of that action is based on ideas that were meant to control us and not serve us. The idea of right and wrong, good and bad, sinful and saintly, falling in and out of love, and more. It can be quite a challenge to find a movie that is not about killing or falling in and out of love, broken relationships, greed, revenge, etc. Uplifting movies is not the norm, but what if they were? Loving without condition is not even seen in movies generally, but what if it was?

Yesterday I mentioned a quote from the Paul Selig books that we are not independent of our environment. What that means to me is that whatever environment that I want, I must choose it. I must practice it. If I want to see more unconditional love in the world, then I must learn to practice loving without condition. Mahatma Gandhi is famous for saying, “you must be the change you wish to see in the world.” Again, to put it in the first person and accept the idea, I must be the change I wish to see in the world. Accepting the idea is fine, but for the change to come about, I must practice being the change.

I Am Not Independent Of My Environment. I Am My Environment.

Spread Some Joy Today–by deciding to practice what you want to see in the world.

Releasing The Ties To History

“Those who cannot remember the past
are condemned to repeat it.” 

— George Santayana 

[Classic post from 4-18-18]

Along with some of the biggest changes in my life, in the last year, I have been studying every day five texts by Paul Selig. I've gone through them about six times because I wanted to really not only understand the wisdom contained in the texts but to adapt it in my life. Even with a year of these posts I could not share all that I have learned, but some subjects stand apart from the rest, and the one I want to share this morning is about our history, or more accurately, our habitual historical perspective which rules our lives so much, and we are not really aware of it being that way.

Let's take the quote above, which is often misquoted as, “those who cannot remember the past are doomed to repeat it.” The truth is that we repeat it all the time. It has become what we do without any effort or realization that this is the case.

But, before I go on, I must refute the part about being condemned (or doomed, if you prefer) to repeat it. This is ALWAYS our choice, though we claim to want change. It does not happen to us, it is chosen by us in many, many ways that on the surface do not seem like a choice at all.

The one most powerful thing that I have learned from these five texts is that we are always choosing and more often than not, we are choosing the past.

I was in the grocery store the other day and saw a magazine in the rack by the checkout that showed a robotic man-like figure in protective gear holding a rifle that looked like some kind of laser weapon and as I recall the title was war in 2030, or it might have been the weapons of war in 2030. In either case, this is pure history. It is a historical perspective. And many, if not most of us, buy into the idea that war will always be happening somewhere in this crazy world and that we need to stay ahead in the technological expansion of the tools of war. It is complete and utter silliness to me, and so I laughed at the magazine cover as I went about my day.

In these texts, this idea of history and living in a historical perspective and continuing to choose based on our history is the most discussed thing. The first couple of times through the material I was tired of hearing about it, but then I started to truly realize that this was so important for me to get that any repetition only reinforced the idea that I wasn't yet accepting it. My eyes have been opened and I can now see how this is happening in my own life and that of others and the world we live in.

Can we change? Absolutely. Will we change is a better question. But, before we can change, we must understand what and how we are choosing along with the fact that we are always choosing, and have always chosen.

One of the best quotes from these texts is something I've shared before and will again because it is so powerful: “You are not independent of your environment.” But, we think we are. We think that the world rules and that our goal is to comply and adjust as necessary to get what we want, and we are often thwarted at that by circumstance or by what we consider to be other people's decisions, heredity, class stature, etc. This is not true. We certainly can operate this way and I have for most of my life, but that is not the truth, it is merely an interpretation that I make from a historical perspective.

I will continue more tomorrow and beyond, but I want to end this post with a wonderful quote by Benjamin Franklin from his autobiography: “So convenient a thing it is to be a reasonable creature since it enables one to find or make a reason for everything one has a mind to do.”

Here's A Perfect Historical Perspective To (Re-)Consider: “Peace Is The Only Battle Worth Waging.” — Albert Camus

Spread Some Joy Today–as you see that you are not independent of your environment and that you are in charge of it.

Accepting Personal Responsibility

“Accepting personal responsibility
is completely foreign to the ego.”

— Albert K. Strong

[Classic post from 8-13-15]

Does what we think and say to ourselves and to others matter? Do we have no control over our own lives physically and emotionally? According to the ego, that answer would be no. To the ego, we are always a potential victim of the indiscriminate actions of other people and uncontrollable circumstances. When life is good, the ego wants all the credit, and when life is going downhill, the ego has a long list of external things and people to blame. So, accepting personal responsibility would be completely foreign to the ego. The ego could not even consider such a concept, let alone a reality.

Here's the good news. The ego has its place. It is a minor place. It has usefulness at certain times, but by and large, it is mostly talk. And, more important than this is that the real person that we are is far larger and far smarter than the ego ever could be. It's just that we as the smarter, larger entity need to take personal responsibility in owning up to our power and to keeping that ego in its rightful place.

We keep the ego in its place by paying attention to what we are saying silently and aloud, and the best way to do that is by simply paying attention to how we feel. If it doesn't feel good, it isn't good for us. As we hold on to negative thoughts, self-talk, images, past hurts, we create within our natural well-being a discord or dis-ease. To the degree that we hold those thoughts and feelings, the dis-ease grows.

I have always remembered and loved a quote from Wayne Dyer from his earliest book. He said, “Anxiety doesn't attack.” Of course, it is the ego who is thinking of having an anxiety attack, and it is totally open to that because it comes from the outside, but Wayne knew differently.

Let me share some very wise and important information from Abraham, Esther Hicks on this subject:

“The first indication that you are disallowing your physical well-being comes to you in the form of negative emotion. You will not see a breakdown of your physical body at the first sign of negative emotion, but focusing upon subjects that cause a prolonged feeling of negative emotion will eventually cause dis-ease.

If you are unaware that negative emotion indicates the vibrational disharmony that is hindering the level of Well-Being that you are asking for, you may be, like most people, accepting a certain level of negative emotion and feeling no need to do something about it. Most people, even when they feel alarm at the level of negative emotion or stress they are feeling, do not know what to do about it because they believe they are reacting to conditions or circumstances that are outside of their control. And so, since they cannot control those unpleasant conditions, they feel powerless to change the way they feel.

We want you to understand that your emotions come in response to your focus, and under all conditions, you have the power to find thoughts that feel slightly better or slightly worse–and when you consistently choose slightly better, the Law of Attraction will bring steady improvement to your experience. The key to achieving and maintaining a physical state of well-being is to notice the indicators of discord in the early stages. It is much easier to refocus your thoughts in the early, subtle stages than after the Law of Attraction has responded to chronic negative thoughts, bringing bigger negative results.

If you could make a decision to never allow negative emotion to linger within you–and at the same time acknowledge that it is your work alone to refocus your attention in order to feel better rather than asking someone else to do something different or for some circumstance to change to make you feel better–you will not only be a very healthy person, but you will be a joyful person. Joy, appreciation, love, and health are all synonymous. Resentment, jealousy, depression, anger, and sickness are all synonymous.”

How Are You Feeling? What Stories Are Going On Inside Of You?

Spread Some Joy Today–by just mentally letting go of all of your cares and issues. Just let them drift away like putting them in a boat in a fast-moving stream, pushing it into the stream and watching it float quickly away downriver.

Forgiveness Is A Stepping Stone

“Forgiveness is not an end,
nor is it resolve; however, 
 it is a worthy stepping stone
on our own journey toward
gratitude, acceptance,
love, and appreciation.” 

— Albert K Strong 

[Classic post from 9-29-14]

As we have been born into and learned from our parents and others, listened and watched the media, discussed events with other people, it is clear that we live in a world filled with duality. This duality is often spoken of in terms of extremes of opposites, such as good and bad, right and wrong, life and death, health and illness. Often, we are taught to become judges and are encouraged to have strong feelings about these extreme choices one way or the other.

I was listening to an Esther Hicks short session the other day where a woman was talking about how she had been betrayed by their lover or spouse. She was quite upset by it, did not understand it, and the more she thought about it and talked about it, the angrier she became. How could she forgive him for hurting her so? But, forgiveness was not the answer.

When I was in my early twenties, I had a good job, but it was entry-level and I was married and just getting by. A relative needed a loan and the only way it would be made was if someone cosigned the loan. I agreed to help. Within just a few months, they defaulted on the loan and the bank turned to me. I accepted responsibility for the debt, but my thoughts were all about what a bad decision I made, how I should have known better, how they shouldn't have done that to me, and so on.

I thought of something funny from Jim Rohn this morning as I was driving. On a tape, he was talking about a guy he knew who was all upset about this other guy lying to him and taking him for some money and how that was terrible, unforgivable, etc. Jim's answer was this: “What did you expect? That's what liars do–they lie! To think otherwise is naive.”

Here's a great piece on forgiveness by Dr. John F. Demartini from his book, The Breakthrough Experience: “Forgiveness is a self-righteous illusion that makes someone bad or wrong and then presumes to judge and pardon. An apology is judging yourself, and both are guaranteed to perpetuate whatever you judge. The only thing that transcends this dynamic is love.”

He goes on to say, “If you can see that everything in your life serves you, that no matter what you've done or not done it's moving you forward, you suddenly see your own perfection and your heart opens–to yourself.”

In addition, Dr. Demartini says, “There exists a hierarchy of emotional responses in life. Fear and guilt are at the bottom of the ladder; above them are faith, acceptance, and forgiveness; and at the top is the present truth of love, appreciation, and wisdom. Forgiveness is a stage on the path, but once you see that everything serves and there is nothing to forgive, it becomes another myth. The truth requires no forgiveness.”

Although on the surface, and from our lifetime of training, it seems illogical and incomprehensible to be thankful and to find gratitude in these kinds of events, this is the ultimate stepping stone to laying the rope down on that subject. With forgiveness, we are still holding the rope, but we have loosened our grip and are giving slack to the opposing force, yet we are ready in a moment's notice to grip it again.

It Is Not About The Other No Matter What They Are Doing Or Not Doing. It Is Always About Us And Our Own Alignment, Which Is Another Way To Say, The Ultimate Answer Is Love. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by finding several things and situations to be grateful for. This will be especially joyous on those subjects that were previously associated with pain or regret.

Toward A Healthier And Happier Relationship

Fear, hurt, and a host of negative emotions may arise in the conditional love relationship. One says something that the other takes offense to and thereby opening the door to hurt feelings, anger, resentment, revenge, and more. The key here is that we each need to take responsibility for how we feel. We must own our own emotions and emotional responses as the beginning of a healthier relationship. Regardless of what the one said to the other, the reaction or response is in the receiver. Ultimately, we cannot hurt, anger, or exercise emotional authority over another. We only have that exclusive control over our own thinking, attachments to history, and emotional state. We may want another to think differently or more like we do but we cannot make them think anything or feel anything. They alone control that power in themselves. Hence, any reaction we may have is our own. Any response we may choose is our own. As we accept responsibility for our own thoughts, we cannot be hurt by another. We may only choose to feel hurt within ourselves. By owning our own feelings, and accepting that as our own responsibility, blame is no longer something we rely on. We cannot even blame ourselves and must simply accept that we are choosing our thoughts and consequential emotions or feelings.

Once we are aware and accept our own personal power, and as we feel negative emotion, we may desire to feel better and begin the process of changing toward experiencing more joy and well-being. We are always in choice even if in the past we may not have realized this and felt as though others were choosing for us. Those were still choices; albeit, unconscious choices. How powerful it is to gain the awareness required to choose consciously.

How wonderful and empowering it is to get to this place of realizing no other has power over our thoughts or our emotions. We each are solely in charge and in control of ourselves. Others certainly may influence us but that is very different than allowing others to control us. Others may try to control us but they do not have any more power than we give them. We cannot be hurt by another. We can only choose to feel hurt within ourselves. Some may say that they don’t want a romantic relationship because they’ve been hurt too many times and don’t want to be hurt again. They only need to choose not to feel hurt and they have all the power once they become aware and accept responsibility for their own thinking and emotions.

Our emotions are so useful. They are perfect guidance as we pay attention to how we are feeling. As we feel hurt and we do not like how this feels we can change or move toward a feeling we like better by changing our thought perspectives. We are all-powerful in this way and our emotions are always an indicator of our thinking. Emotions don’t happen to us. We create them from our thoughts. This means that if we desire to feel better, we have the creative power to choose better-feeling thoughts. This will cause us to feel better and better as we choose them. To me, this is the ultimate empowerment and we are equally blessed as we choose to recognize this power of creation. This allows us to take charge of our lives and have greater well-being along our varied paths.

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