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The Power To Change Reality

“If you don't like something, change it;
if you can't change it, change the way you think about it.”

— Mary Engelbreit


“When we are no longer able to change a situation,
we are challenged to change ourselves.”

— Victor Frankl

[Classic post from 8-5-10]

I've heard these sentiments expressed in many ways and each of them instructional. One way that I recently heard it was enlightening and equally empowering. It is this:

We are on two concurrent journeys at the same time. One is our physical journey of what is now. This is reality. It is what it is. It is the facts of the way things are. And, two, is our emotional journey. That is how we choose to feel, though ofttimes, we don't feel that we actually have a choice, but is a default response.

So, the reality is the reality. It is what it is. We can think and feel how we want to about it and if we continually focus on the reality in front of us, we will respond and react to that reality and our thinking and feeling will keep us tied to this reality as being tied to a pole in the ground. The more we talk about reality, feel the reality, share the reality, the more the reality has a hold on us.

In most cases, it is near impossible to change the reality by focusing on the reality. Generally, the only way and also the best and most effective way to change the reality is to begin changing the emotional journey about the reality. In other words, have you feel better and better by changing your thinking and feeling about what is.

Part of this is considering what you want it to be rather than what it is. You can't focus on being broke and not having enough money to pay the bills and have that situation change for the better. But, it can and will change for the better by focusing on what and where you want it to be, living in that fantasy as if it were your reality and it will become your reality. The other part is feeling better and better about where you are right now. It is so powerful to look for the positive aspects in every situation. It empowers one to see their current reality in a softer light. It is still reality, but now softer and more acceptable while you focus on what you want next and where you want to go.

Some of this I was taught as a child. I learned things like, “there is always a silver lining; things will work out for the best if you let them. and I haven't forgotten them, but now have a much more powerful and clear way to change where I am when I am not where I want to be. I change the emotional journey: my thinking and how I feel about my situation, my life, my current reality. Then, I focus my energy on imagining it the way I want it to be. Used together, these two strategies are incredible.

First Step: Lighten Up!! It's Only As Good Or Bad As You Think It And Feel That It Is. Find The Relief Valve And Open It Up.

Spread Some Joy Today–Now that you know an effective way to change, test it and see for yourself, then share it with others. The joy of empowerment is awesome!

Rising Beyond Self-Imposed Limitations

“We cannot rise higher
than our thought of ourselves.”

— Orison Swett Marden

[Classic post from 5-4-12]

What an interesting man was Orison Swett Marden, founder of Success Magazine in 1897, author of over 18 books, and a positive thinker at the turn of the last century when they called that the New Thought Movement. He helped thousands back then and continues with his timeless words today. If you have a Kindle, you can get most of his books for free on Amazon.

The brilliance of the thought expressed above is priceless. We cannot rise higher than our thought of ourselves. So true. He elaborates: “The size of your accomplishments, the quality of your achievement, will depend very largely on how big a man you see in yourself, what sort of image you get of your possible self, yourself at your best.”

When I think on this idea, I can see so clearly into the past of how my own image of myself has always been the culprit to keep me at a lower level than I claimed to have wanted. I just couldn’t seem to picture myself there.

I can also see that much if not most of that came from people teaching me and accepting their doctrine. I don’t blame them. They did what they thought was best, but this is the whole idea of study on my own to find a better way. I have always had that drive inside me to know and to feel better about myself and accept the person I could be. There is not much that is as powerful to help a person as a strong sense of self through confidence.

This is why I practice getting better. This is why I teach what I learn, so I can go from learning to knowing, all the while sharing valuable knowledge and ideas.

Another thing on this subject that I’ve recently learned that has helped me a good deal is this: celebrate other people’s successes. Celebrate them getting what they want, winning the prize, moving up the so-called ladder. It is one of the ways to open the venue of abundance, which helps everyone the same. By celebrating others, we can also believe even more in ourselves.

“You Are The One Who Can Stretch Your Own Horizon…” — Edgar F. Magnin

Spread Some Joy Today–As you look around today or travel today and see others doing well, driving fine cars, living in vast homes, celebrate their success. Sing their praises along with them.

The Choice

Two roads were before me.
Neon lights gleamed
in the distance of the one;
a solitary figure
stood silently on the other…

The sounds of carnival
beckoned from the one;
the silence of the other
frightened me.
The sign of the one
said, “City of Delights” ahead;
the other read
“The Road to Life.”

In confusion,
I looked at both;
in decision
I took the hand of the solitary One
and never looked back.

The sun began to rise.

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflection 80
Reflections of the Heart

Learning To Express Rather Than To Impress

“Learn to express,
not impress.”

— Jim Rohn

[Classic post from 8-11-12]

Having been an avid fan of Mr. James Rohn, business philosopher, I've used and love so many of his quotes. I have a whole book of them. Tonight I was about to look through the pages of this book for an idea and boom!–this quote above jumped off the page in my face.

At first, I thought, well. . . what does he mean by that? How might have this quote been used in one of his teachings? Truth is I don't know. He did thousands of teachings, but as I reread it, the quote spoke to me, so I thought I would share that with you.

When I was young, I always wanted to impress. I wanted to impress my mom and dad, my grandma, teachers, even other kids so I could be in their group. As I grew up and went into the business world, I wanted to impress my coworkers, my boss, my wife, and so on.

At some point, I found that to be less than fruitful, sort of like chasing a rainbow. So, I began to learn how to express more and try to impress less. I must admit to having some deep-seated insecurities or something because this transition has taken a long time. But, I do believe that I have made the transition to focusing on expression rather than impression.

We can express or impress with our speech, our deeds, our activities, even the career choices we make. We can express or impress with our finances, or lack of them, our accomplishments or lack of them, our friends or lack of them, and so on. In fact, in anything we do or say, we can be focused on expressing or impressing.

The Difference Can Easily Be Seen In What We Do, What We Produce, And How We Behave.

Spread Some Joy Today–Stop by your favorite coffee shop and bring your coworkers a nice coffee treat. Or, at least one. . . or maybe a dozen premium donuts. . . Fun!

Powerful Vitamins

“Always remember to take your vitamins:

Vitamin A for Action,
Vitamin B for Belief,
Vitamin C for Confidence,
Vitamin D for Discipline,
and Vitamin E for Enthusiasm!”

— Pablo

Maybe we could add vitamin K for Kindness, vitamin L for Loving, vitamin P for Persistence, vitamin S for Serving, and vitamin U for Understanding. . . or not. It was so well said already, wasn’t it?

Have You Taken Your Vitamins Today?

Spread Some Joy Today–by thinking loving thoughts!

Our Core Value System

“Being invulnerable behind protective walls is a living death. Vulnerability has no guarantees against pain, but it is the way of love…

If your life is ever growing more toward wholeness, fullness, and abundance, your core value must be life-affirming…

Growing in Divine Love is a core value. And, as in all core value systems, actions evolve from the core value. Opening the heart to receive Divine Love happens in response to the deep desire to grow in Divine Love. As your inner core becomes more and more dedicated to loving, your outer life will grow in richness, meaning, and love relationships.”

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

This is an excerpt from Reflection 88. The entire piece was very good and the above portions brought me joy. I especially loved the first two lines: “Being invulnerable behind protective walls is a living death. Vulnerability has no guarantees against pain, but it is the way of love.” This sentiment is perfectly pictured in the simplicity and insight of Donna’s word choices.

The Treasure Chest

Within each person, God implants a treasure chest of latent possibilities awaiting that person’s birth into life, and He gives each person special talents for the artistic expression of life. This means that you are a creative artist, and will create your life according to your vision. Some will create, with great heart, their dreams. Some will abdicate the gift of being an active doer and acquiesce to the passive role of non-doer. Such people never know the joy and fulfillment of taking, from their treasure chest, their gifts and talents, and of using them to create a life of beauty and fullness.

Life is what you make it. Your life can be a beautiful painting if you develop the inherent gifts of vision, honesty, courage, devotion, and steadfastness that can be found in the treasure chests you received from God. With your vision, you can dream dreams, with honesty you can create from the center of your truth, with courage you can accept life’s pain without giving up, with devotion you can give heart to your life. With steadfastness, you can withstand the storms.

Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

The Gift Of Life – Part 1

The wonder and miracle of life is that the God of all Creation took each one of you and, by hands of love, brought forth a treasured expression of that love, Just as a Stradivarius violin is precious to its maker, you too are precious to your Maker.

God did not create you and then abandon you to a cruel and harsh world. You are not a detached, isolated, alienated creation set out upon the mighty ocean of life to be tossed about without compass or resource. You are given intelligence, creativity, freedom to create who you are, and God’s greatest gift of all–the promise of God’s own Spirit to dwell within you. You, like the Stradivarius, are made to give beautiful music.

Life is a miracle. I remember my wonderment and awe as each of my tiny newborns was placed in my arms. Each finger and toe, each little nose and mouth, an unbelievable creation given in love by its Maker. Each was life’s most precious gift to me, a gift of love to last an eternity. I loved these babies with a full, joyous human love.

Now, almost forty-none years later, I feel an even deeper awe and appreciation. Each of these–life’s children now grown–are unique, unlike any other, with special talents, gifts, graces, radiance, and children of their own. We are life’s children; we are gifts of God. Are we not created in God’s image with possibilities implanted by God before our birth?

You are created as a separate, independent, and individual person, yet you live with others in common unity and bond. We are at once the solitary individuals who must walk on our own legs and also the relational people who must have intimacy with others to be whole. Those who enter freely into relationships enter into life.

But you may ask, “Lord, must I give up my individual humanness to come into your Divine Love?” The answer is a loving “No,” for you see, God has given you the gift of life and wants you to experience life to the fullest by being transformed by Divine Love. God desires to infuse the unique you with Divine Love so that through your life you can uniquely share true love with others.

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

Making Decisions. Often.

“Some persons are very decisive
when it comes to avoiding decisions.” 

— Brendan Francis

[Classic post from 3-24-14]

Making decisions, making them easily, and making them often.

William James says it like it is when he said, “When you have to make a choice and don’t make it, that is in itself a choice.” I have to admit that this quote and the one above by Brendan Francis has me pegged more than I would like to admit. I’m such an artist at procrastination, and yet, of some of the people I know, I make a lot of decisions in comparison. But that doesn’t ever help, does it? All we have is ourselves and comparing ourselves to others is often a cop-out, as it is in this case too.

“Life is the sum of all your choices,” according to Albert Camus and I have to agree with that. How could that not be? Every decision takes us to another place. And, if it weren’t for that, we would die where we stand.

There is some peace and satisfaction in the act of making a decision. Rita Mae Brown backs that up when she points out, “A peacefulness follows any decision, even the wrong one.” However, I used to believe there were wrong choices and right choices, but I do so no longer. There is only choices and each choice will have some kind of response and whatever that is will be perfect for the time being. If we find the choice is less than satisfactory, we can make another, and another, and another.

The key is knowing what one wants, I think. Once we zoom in on this, making decisions is much easier. When we don’t know what we want, how would a decision about anything help much? And, the whole idea about decisions is to begin, get moving, go somewhere, do something, right? Getting started is the natural next step once we know what we want.

We don’t need to know what we want forever, but right now is good enough. Lewis Carroll in Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland & Through the Looking Glass says it as well as it can be said: “Go on till you come to the end; then stop.” Then is when a new decision will help us on our journey wherever we are going.

Buddha is attributed as saying, “There are two mistakes one can make along the road to truth. . . not going all the way, and not starting.” He also puts it in perspective when he said, “Everything that has a beginning has an ending. Make your peace with that and all will be well.”

So, I recommend making decisions often and not worrying very much about that. What comes of the decision will be telling, then we can make another choice. Indeed, we will soon enough have to make another choice to keep moving.

“With The New Day Comes New Strength And New Thoughts.” — Eleanor Roosevelt

Spread Some Joy Today–by mirroring what Alexandra Stoddard said so nicely: “I wake up every morning with a great desire to live joyfully.”

The Magic Of Belief

“If you have built castles in the air, 
your work need not be lost; 
that is where they should be. 
Now put the foundations under them.”

— Henry David Thoreau

“I couldn’t wait for success, 
so I went ahead without it.”

— Jonathan Winters

“Plant the seed of desire in your mind, 
and it forms a nucleus with power 
to attract to itself everything needed for its fulfillment.”

— Robert Collier

[I published this 2-18-10. Just imagine what is new since then!]

The difference between a passing fancy and an exciting reality is belief. Some of the strangest, most far-fetched ideas have become a reality through belief where almost everyone before the reality thought it was impossible or at best improbable.

Some of these things are:

·                     Electricity

·                     Airplanes

·                     Jet Airplanes

·                     Rocket ships

·                     Space Travel

·                     Refrigeration

·                     Air Conditioners

·                     Vacuum Cleaners

·                     Automobiles

·                     Power tools

·                     Prefabricated Housing

·                     Camping Trailers

·                     Steel Reinforced Concrete

·                     Computers

·                     The Internet

·                     The Typewriter

·                     Adding Machines

·                     Electronic Calculators

·                     The Transistor

·                     The Stereo

·                     The Telephone

·                     The Phonograph

·                     CD’s

·                     DVD’s

·                     Blue-Ray

·                     Plywood

·                     Plastic

·                     Nylon, Rayon & Other Man-Made Fabric

·                     Modems

·                     Movies

·                     Video Games

·                     Frozen Food

·                     Soft Drinks

·                     Lithium-Ion Batteries

·                     Cellular Telephones

·                     Wireless Devices

·                     Bulldozers

·                     LED

·                     Radio

·                     Television

·                     Electric Guitars

·                     Guitar Amplifiers

·                     Electronic Speakers

·                     Exercise Treadmills

·                     Electric Lights

·                     Microwave Ovens

·                     Nuclear Power

·                     Cable TV

·                     Credit Cards

·                     Debit Cards

·                     GPS Systems

·                     Electric Dishwashers

·                     Power Tools

·                     Pickup Trucks

·                     Balloon Tires

·                     Vick’s VapoRub

·                     Aspirin

·                     CAT Scans

·                     MRI Machines

·                     Lasers

These are just what I could come up with in about 5 minutes, and I’ve barely scratched the surface. Can you imagine living in the 16th century telling someone about the CD player? Or even plywood? Bizarre. They might want to hurt you. Or how about even a short time ago, like say, 1969 when we landed a man on the moon to think of personal computers. They didn’t even exist then. I bought my first computer in about 1984, and it was an Apple II+ with 64k memory. That is laughable now. But then, it was all the rage. Just to think of computers alone and how far they have come in less than 25 years is mind-boggling.

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