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You Are Loved And Adored!

“That's how love works.
It can't be forced, manipulated, or coerced.
It always leaves room for the other to decide.”

— Rob Bell

It is impossible to not be loved. However, it is certainly possible to feel unloved. Feeling unloved has nothing to do with actually being loved. It has to do with fear, ego, habitual thinking, or learned patterns of thinking. Rest assured that you are loved. I love you. Anyone who knows me knows this to be true, and what is even greater, God loves you. In fact, God adores you. This is unconditional love. It cannot be forced. It cannot be manipulated. It cannot be coerced. This is because it is given without any thought of getting anything back. I know this to be true because only God is the ultimate allower. We are given free will. Have you ever really thought about this free will? Free will is the ultimate definition of unconditional love. Indeed, there could be no such thing as free will without it. They are the same thing, not two different things.

I hope that you don't have one, but if you do, next time you have an unloved feeling, close your eyes and open yourself to the depth of the love that God has for you. Pretend you're in a rowboat and the stream is moving smoothly downstream and you have been rowing and rowing and rowing trying to get upstream to where you think you want or need to go. Now, trust me on this, put the oars in the boat and relax and trust. Feel what that feels like to trust and to feel that you are going with the flow and all is well. Feel the boat being guided without any effort or thought on your part. You are being cared for and guided with the greatest skill and all that lay ahead is given freely and lovingly to you. All you need to do is release any resistance. That is all. That is what trust is–a releasing of resistance. Allow the joy of this experience to wash over you.

When you know truly how loved and adored you are, there is only one thing that you can do to show your delight and gratitude for this radiant light. You simply share this love until you are that love. Enjoy your journey!

The Difference Between Self-Help and Personal Development

“Your mission is to become better today
than you were yesterday.”

— John C. Maxwell

I think many get the Self-help genre and Personal Development confused. It's easy to do. But, I see them being quite different.

Self-help is where I go if I want to fix something about myself or of a thing or situation. You might classify many of these publications as “How-To” because they often have a solution or series of solutions for problems. In this case, we are beginning with something broken, not working right, not up to speed, lacking, something missing, I need help, I want to get fixed up, I want to change this thing, or the way I do things, the way I live, etc. We're looking for help, in need, desiring change.

Personal Development is very different to me in that it is an expansion from where I am. I am not looking to get help, but looking to learn more about me, the world, other people. I want to expand my knowledge, improve my skills, develop a wider view of life and my place in it. I'm good where I am, but I want to grow. To me, growth is life. It is succinct in one word: expansion. I want to expand.

Another way these two are separated might be stated as need (the word 'help' gives clues here) and desire (the word develop or development is telling)

The Silliest Two-Word Phrase I Know

“Wars begin where you will
but they do not end where you please.” 

— Machiavelli

The phrase “war crimes” is a silly phrase and a completely crazy idea. There is no such thing to me as war crimes. War IS the crime.

Spread Some Joy Today. Make love your compass.

Seeking Harmony In All Things

“Three Rules of Work:
Out of clutter find simplicity. 
From discord find harmony. 
In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” 
— Albert Einstein 

[Classic post from 7-29-16]

These three rules could just as easily be about any aspect of life, whether it be our life at home, with our family, our friends, where we work every day, in any relationship, in any group we happen to be a part of, and even within our own minds as we consider our own inner dialog, and our thoughts about ourselves, and that world that is outside of ourselves.

Out of clutter find simplicity. It seems to be human nature to complicate rather than simplify, but once we realize what we are doing, we can choose to clarify, and in so doing find the simplicity. Everything is simpler than we make it, and when we can simplify things, clutter doesn’t have much of a chance. Neither does the drama.

From discord find harmony. It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship it might be, whether intimate or global, discord is easily achieved, but in all cases, it is harmony that is the holy grail. It doesn’t even need to apply only to relationships with people, but is perfectly appropriate in our relationship to things, to nature, to our world, our environment. Having harmony as our fundamental goal puts discord in its place by having it only be a reminder that harmony is our real objective.

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity. As with the idea of clutter, and the idea of discord, the idea of difficulty is best thought of as a reminder to look not at the thing that is vying for our attention; the clutter, discord, and difficulty, or we could look at that also as ‘what-is,’ or the ‘problem,’ but to look toward the solution which is not this. The solution is found in simplicity. The solution is found in harmony. The solution is found in seeing opportunity.

What a great message to write down and give it some of our energy. Another great sign for my wall, except I, will change it to the Three Rules of Life.

Simplicity. Harmony. Opportunity. Love. Peace. Joy. 

Spread Some Joy Today–because it’s Friday. Any excuse is a good one.

Doing The Same Things and Hoping They Change

Doing the same thing 
over and over again 
and expecting 
different results.” 
— Albert Einstein 

[Classic post from 7-27-16]

When I saw this very famous quote again, I immediately thought of it this way:

Insanity: Talking about the problem, re-living the problem, analyzing the problem, restating the problem over and over again while expecting a solution to magically appear.

I’ve given a great deal of thought to problems. So have most of us, I’m sure. And, although we want solutions to our problems, it seems that we are enamored with the problems, finding it hard to let go of them long enough to reach for the solution.

I think I’ve found at least one of the most effective methods to solving problems. Here it is in two words: Celebrate them!

Don’t analyze them, rehash them, refry them, take them apart, or do any other playful tricks. Simply appreciate them, celebrate them, rejoice in them. For I’ve found that through gratitude, I have released my hold on the problem. The problem has never had hold of me, it is and has always been me holding on to the problem. When I celebrate the problem–when I am thankful for it and sincerely grateful for it, the problem is immediately transformed into a wonderful tool, and solutions begin to pour into my brain.

Try it yourself. Next few problems you think you have, see if you’re not the one holding on to it instead of the other way around. Next, celebrate it, love it, praise it, be thankful for this problem. I believe that through your gratitude for it, the solutions will be evident. And, I said solutions, not solution. There are always many more solutions than we imagine there are.

Loving My Problems Into Solutions. 

Spread Some Joy Today–The word for today is enjoyment!

The Power Of Belief

“Ask, and it shall be given you.” 
— Matthew 7:7, The Bible 

[Classic post from 7-20-16]

Is it hard to have trust and confidence in this Bible promise? Is it hard to believe it is true? Is it hard to have faith in its fulfillment? Are we there yet? Why is it not here yet? When is it going to come? I’m tired of waiting. I have no patience for this. I’ll do it myself! What do you trust in to have the accomplishments that you want?

Decision is one of the most powerful of vibrational acts. Equal to it, and in full partnership, is visualization. The two combine to rule the world. They say that “seeing is believing”, but that isn’t as true as “believing is seeing”.

Abraham, Esther Hicks has some clarity to add in a couple of statements:

“Law of Attraction says, “That which is like unto itself is drawn.” Vibrations are always matched. So, as you experience the contrast which inspires the new desire, this new desire, whether it is a strong one or a soft one, is summoning unto itself proportionately. And as it summons, it is always answered. It is the basis of our Universe: When it is asked, it is always given. Humans think they are asking with their words, or even with their action – and sometimes you are – but the Universe is not responding to your words or your action. The Universe is responding to your vibrational calling.” 

And the other:

“There are two surefire ways to understand what your vibrational offering is: Notice what is happening in your experience (for what you are focused upon and what is manifesting are always a vibrational match), and notice how you feel (because your emotions are giving you constant feedback about your vibrational offering and your point of attraction).” 

Based on all of this, we have two jobs in life. One, to ask. Whatever we want. We ask. Our other job is to line up with our desire. To become that which we want. To vibrate as if it were already done. We can have confidence, trust, and faith because the other part in between our two parts is that it is given. We ask, which is our part. It is given, which is not our part. And, we receive, accept, become a vibrational match to the asking, which is our part.

The Bible clarified that in this way from Matthew 21:22: “And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.” There it is. Step one, ask (our job). Step two is a given (God’s job). Step three, receive by lining up with it, by believing it is done as it was said. It requires our participation only in steps one and three. The rest, as it is said, is done.

I guess that’s why wishes really are for fishes. . .

Trust. Belief. Confidence. Vibrational Match. Sweet! 

Spread Some Joy Today–by trusting in your true self that lives in constant joy.

Making A Difference Week. Day 7 of 7

Making A Difference Week
“Act as if what you do makes a difference.
It does.”
— William James
[Classic post from 12-10-11]
The final installment on the Making A Difference Week thoughts. This one comes full circle to this: We all make a difference! We can’t help but make a difference.
Think of it as the smallest pebble or droplet that falls into a smooth and calm body of water. It matters not if it is a bowl two inches deep and a few inches wide or whether it is the Pacific Ocean. When that drop touches the surface there is a ripple effect that expands outward for even a great distance.
Probably the real difference is twofold. One, we may not realize that we make a difference. William James makes that clear with the quote above. Two, we may not realize that we have the power to purposely make a difference. In his quote above, he says to “act as if.” This is to purposely choose to recognize the power that we can make a difference to others, and the way to get started is to act as if what we do, say, and think matters. It does.
It comes down to the question of what. What kind of difference am I making? What kind of difference do I want to make? A good answer is another question: What makes me feel good? When I find thoughts to think, things to do that cause me to feel good, I am on the right track of making a difference actively. Doing things, thinking the way other people want me to be or think won’t do that. It must be driven by what makes me feel good.
So, whether we choose on purpose, or choose by not choosing, we all make a difference in this world. Viva la difference!
“Your Thoughts, Words And Deeds Are Painting The World Around You.” — Jewel Diamond Taylor
Spread Some Joy Today–Enjoy making a difference because you do!

Making A Difference Week. Day 6 of 7

Making A Difference Week
“I choose to believe I can and will change
the world with my words and thoughts.”
— Rod Williams
[Classic post from 12-9-11]
Making a difference can be as strong or stronger in thoughts, words, and music. The quote above came from Rod Williams, a musician, and songwriter in his song Beautiful Again.
I know that words, thoughts, and music has changed my life in several ways. One, I became a songwriter, and musician sharing many of my own thoughts through music and word. I was greatly influenced by the music and words of others. At the very top of that list is Paul McCartney along with the McCartney/Lennon combination. Under that, I have a long list of artists, songs, music that has touched me and moved me throughout my life and continues today with new artists.
The song is a unique thing in that this combination of music and lyric has much more power together than apart. It has the power to move us to action, the emotion, to joy, to sadness.
Of course, writers have the power to make a difference in the written word. I can produce a very long list of written works that have made a dramatic difference in my life including The Bible, Dale Carnegie, Mark Twain, John D Martini, Stephen R Covey, Andrew Carnegie, John Grisham, Jerry & Esther Hicks, James Allen, and hundreds more. Each has contributed to who I am and I call that making a difference! They and others continue to this day to make a difference in me, who I am, and what I do, all of which help me make a difference in others.
“Thousands Of Candles Can Be Lighted From A Single Candle, And The Life Of The Candle Will Not Be Shortened. Happiness Never Decreases By Being Shared.” — Buddha
Spread Some Joy Today–How about sending Christmas cards in July? That sounds like fun!

Making A Difference Week. Day 5 of 7

Making A Difference Week
“Two roads diverged in a wood and I–
I took the one less traveled by,
and that has made all the difference.”
— Robert Frost
[Classic post from 12-8-11]
I’ve been writing this week about making a difference and how many people can do that for their lives and in the effect on others. Robert Frost’s excerpt above made me think about how making a difference is achieved by our decisions. Whether we travel the road more traveled or less traveled is simply a choice, but the choice will always have far-reaching aspects that have an accumulated effect on us and others.
Here’s another way to look at the aspect of decision by a quote from Heidi Wills, “we can choose to be affected by the world or we can choose to affect the world.” This speaks to me of making a difference by choosing to do so on purpose through decision.
“There’s A Difference Between A Philosophy And A Bumper Sticker.” — Charles M Schulz
Spread Some Joy Today–Get excited about your power of decision. Choose.

Making A Difference Week. Day 4 of 7

Making A Difference Week
“It’s easy to make a buck.
It’s a lot tougher to make a difference.”
— Tom Brokaw
[Classic post from 12-7-11]
Some of us may be focused so much on the making a buck aspect of life; i.e., maintaining what we have, expanding what we have, servicing what we have, like a juggler keeping several balls in the air without dropping them, that there is little time or energy left for making a difference in other ways.
Of course, making money and providing a level of functionality is important and valuable. It is one way to make a difference. Yet, I know from experience that sometimes it becomes a burden instead of making a difference by putting a shadow over more important aspects of life, including family.
Sometimes we may get confused about the value of money in the scheme of things. Yet this I know for sure: money doesn’t buy or create happiness. If anything, it would be the other way around. Still, sometimes we think we will be happier or happy when, and so on, but it only becomes extended to the next thing or things or level.
To me, making a difference is so much about being whole and sharing that whole-ness, and the good news about that is that money has no bearing on it at all. Sure I can give more money if I have more money, and that can be good, but that is the least of the requirements to make a difference anywhere.
It’s really the little things that we can share that make very big differences. I know of a cute little card that one of my bosses at a job I had was and is one of the most valuable “things” in my life, also a plaque with a poem and all my sales staff’s names engraved on it that I love. It might be that little note inside the cover of a book that I was given.
It’s not just things either. It’s sometimes just a knowing. Like seeing someone you love and giving them a hug because you love them and you just feel connected even when they aren’t there or you don’t talk for a long time. Or some things that you might hear that someone else said about you that felt so good to hear reinforcing your hard work or vision. It might be just thinking about someone that is special to you and giving them a mental hug without them knowing a thing about it.
All of these “little things” make a difference and they don’t cost a dime, require a big house, late model car, good credit. In fact, they are free.
“How Wonderful It Is That Nobody Need Wait A Single Moment Before Starting To Improve The World.” –Anne Frank
Spread Some Joy Today–Send some loving thoughts, give some virtual hugs, buy a card and send a lovely note, thank someone. Appreciate often.
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