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I Am More Important Than My Problems

“I am more important than my problems.”
— Jose Ferrer
“I am bigger than anything that can happen to me.”
— Charles F Lummis
[Classic post from 2-24-11]
If you're in a situation where you have a lot of problems or have been in one in the past, you'll probably agree that it is so easy to begin thinking that you and your problems are inseparable, especially if the problems were around for any length of time. Some might even start thinking of themselves as having failed, beating themselves up about the existence of the problems, and so on.
We are all bigger than any problems that we may ever have. We are of value and we are worthy and we need to value ourselves in that light. If you ever start feeling overwhelmed, unworthy, and such, try this:
1. Lighten up. Start laughing at your problems instead of looking at them seriously. Change the mood by changing your attitude about your problems.
2. Take a break. Focus on something else and let go of thinking about or looking at your problems.
3. When you're feeling good again, and while you're feeling good, seek the inspiration of ways to deal with them. When inspiration comes, act on it.
4. Develop a thankful heart. Start looking for things to praise about the situation instead of going over and over the problem.
5. Repeat.
Nowhere in that are we focusing on the problem. Heck, if we did this long enough, the problems may evaporate on their own…
We Make Such BIG Deals About Every LITTLE Thing.
Spread Some Joy Today–be joyous. It will spread like wildfire.

Positive Expectations Rule

“For, he that expects nothing shall not be disappointed,
but he that expects much–if he lives and uses that
in hand day by day–shall be full to running over.”
— Edgar Cayce
“We usually get what we anticipate…”
— Claude M Bristol
[Classic post from 2-23-11]
Now in dealing with a lot of different businesses and business owners and managers, I find some interesting things happening. It's like the quotes above. We see them, we acknowledge them, it even makes perfect sense, but they don't live in the real world, do they? They are for someone else because in the real world we got a recession going on and people out of work and, you know, lots of problems to deal with. I want it to go away and I want prosperity, but there is all this stuff.
I totally get it. Totally. Heck, I play that tune myself sometimes. Then, my partner catches me saying some crap, or I catch him (maybe more him catching me. . .). You know, even the most positive wells can leak from time to time.
But, here's the deal. Reality is just an idea. When we focus on an idea, that thought multiplies and begins attracting what we think about. If I'm okay with the reality I'm focused on, no problem. If I'm wanting something else, that is a serious problem.
There's no way around it that I have found other than focusing on what we want and expecting good things while we do everything in our power to IGNORE a current reality that is not what we want. That means that if I want prosperity, I have to ignore the news about, people talking about, friends Facebooking about what is wrong with the economy.
Here's another way: Drive over to your local Wal-Mart store, park where you can watch the traffic of people coming in and parking and going in and coming out. That is prosperity in full view in the real world in today's real-time. So, then any time you might get bummed that the economy is sucking, business is not booming, etc., just drive back over to Wal-Mart and watch for a while. Think Cha-Ching!
Prosperity exists. Get excited about where you are in pursuit of what you want and expect that things are getting better regardless of the size of your current bank account. Completely ignore that aspect and focus on your success. Believe me, it works. Upward Trend, our website marketing business grew by 25% last month. In one month, the whole business grew by 25%! The biggest thing about that is our excitement about it and expectations of success.
Turn off the news including the talk radio in the car. It will be there when you come back. Now, change your habits and start talking, dreaming, sharing your success. Start planning your new corporate headquarters ahead of the need. Watch what happens.
Who Cares What It Is? I Got More Important Things To Pay Attention To. See Ya!
Spread Some Joy Today–find the best in everyone you see today. Forget the flaws. Totally ignore them. Think about what is right, is good, is cool. Don't miss yourself.

Contributing To Prosperity

“Any person who contributes to
prosperity must prosper in turn.”
— Earl Nightingale
[Classic post from 2-21-11]
I do believe that this is true. By contributing to prosperity, we must prosper. So, I find that I am continually looking at what more value I can be, how I can give more service for the money, how I can enhance someone else's day, or life, or career. There are millions of ways to contribute to prosperity.
We find ourselves thinking the word prosperity is all about financial well-being, but that is just one definition for prosperity. To be prosperous is to feel good, to be fortunate, and there are many ways to offer that to others and thereby prosper ourselves in kind.
It is the smallest things that seem to touch us greatly. A gentle touch, a loving look, a word of encouragement, a prospect that may help them with a sale, promoting them with no direct benefit to us, introducing them to friends, calling out of the blue with kind words, sending a note of caring, giving love, being kind, being thoughtful, and millions of other ways. All of these contribute to prosperity and in all of them, we in turn prosper.
Of course, there are many ways to add to prosperity that relate directly to money, and if we think about it, they are oh so familiar as the ones that don't relate directly to money. Hmm…
“Getters Don't Get–Givers Get.” — Eugene Benge
Spread Some Joy Today–Start counting the ways you can spread joy today, then pick at least one and go spread some.

Dreams Big and Small

 “Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become.
Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be;
your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil.”
— James Allen
“If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams,
and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined,
he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”
— Henry David Thoreau
“A man's reach should exceed his grasp…”
— Robert Browning
[Classic post from 2-20-11]
If we were to do only what we already know how to do, have the capital to complete, and all the details in place, there would be nothing to achieve. It would be sort of like the salesman who had twenty years experience; one year repeated twenty times. There is plenty of that going around. I've even done it for a time here and there and always found it incredibly boring, I move off the edge into some adventure, some big and some not so big, but always interesting.
The first quote says to dream lofty dreams. If we're dreaming, we might as well go for it. In our dreams size matters not. In our dreams we can fly; we can move mountains; we can do anything we want to. Then, when we open our eyes and see the “real world,” we sometimes begin to think more “realistically,” which is another word for small.
Consider this: Do you imagine that if God were building a mountain that He would have to spend much more energy creating it than a stalk of corn? I mean, can you see God grunting and groaning at the sheer magnitude of the size of the mountain compared to the cool, calm, no big deal effort for the corn stalk? Seems ridiculous to me to think that the God who created billions of galaxies breaks a sweat on any of His creations. Yet, we who were a creation of God, think big things are tough and small things are easy, and little dreams are doable and big dreams are fantasies. How equally ridiculous this is, don't you think?
So, we may as well dream lofty dreams. Heck, dream that they are lofty and super easy while we're at it!
If In God We Trust, We Might As Well Dream Big!
Spread Some Joy Today–Give yourself permission to think bigger and easier. It's all in what we believe and a belief is just a thought we keep thinking.

Looking Forward To More Prosperous Conditions

 “This is the law of prosperity.
When apparent adversity comes,
be not cast down by it,
but make the best of it,
and always look forward for better things,
for conditions more prosperous.”
— Ralph Waldo Trine
[Classic post from 2-19-11]
You've probably heard the positive phrases at some time in your life, such as, “keep a stiff upper lip,” when the going gets tough, the tough get going,” it's not what happens to you but how you react to it,” and others along that same philosophy. Sure, we sort of believe them to be true, or at least we find them to be true for other people, especially famous people who have told us in books, on TV, or another way all about how they overcame adversity and made it through to become the success they are today. We believe it to be true from the history class of those who faced the odds and won. We get it, or so we say, until. . . it happens to us!
Then, as adversity is upon us, it is so easy to forget all those history classes, movie stars, business tycoons, and positive thinking coaches, as we are in the throws of dealing with issues we don't want to deal with, never thought we would ever deal with, or swore it would never happen again. And, yet, here it is in all its glory.
As a result, we easily and with encouragement from our friends, relatives, co-workers, begin focusing on our misfortune and speaking of it often, thinking of almost nothing else and feeling the pain, regret, and other self-damaging emotions. Yep, we are facing reality in the face and finding more and more reality of a similar nature on the news, in the papers, on the radio, on billboards, on Facebook, that we are now sharing and receiving as a method of attempting to soothe, rationalize and find justification. We look for scapegoats and just know that it has to be something outside of ourselves that has created this injustice. We seek blame for it seems to give us some relief. It does no such thing.
This is a common scenario throughout the world in the face of adversity.
Now, here's the good news. It IS true that this scenario is reality. Yes, it is there; however, the positive phrases we heard are also true and real. Which one really gives us relief? It is the fact that it is not what happens to us, but how we choose to react to it. In fact, I don't think there is any more truthful statement than this. What we think about what is going on whether it is adversity or prosperity is everything.
And here's the best thing I've learned: Which one feels better to focus on? Which one has the power to change things to the way we want them? It would be the prosperity; the joy; the feeling good rather than that endless circle of sharing complaints. That choice is 100% ours and we all have 100% of the power.
Just In Case You Need Some Hope.
Spread Some Joy Today–focus on what feels good to think about and forget about everything else. We get to choose joy anytime we want to.

They Just Use It

“Man’s mind stretched to a new idea
never goes back to its original dimensions.”
— Oliver Wendell Holmes
[Classic post from 2-18-11]
Okay, let’s all go back to payphones–the pre-pager days; the pre-cell phone days. It is only about 30 years ago. We can’t, can we? Once stretched, we cannot go back. Each new idea, once distributed, changes what we call the status quo.
This same concept applies in the same way to our personal and business growth. Once we have gone to the new place or level, we cannot go back. We must go forward from that point, and that is a good thing.
Even knowledge of the past is unnecessary in this growth expansion. A kid using a cell phone today and making extreme use of its features has no need and probably no desire to understand how young the concept of cell phones is, or even when they started working well, which is even younger. They just use it.
In this, it matters much less where we’ve been, what baggage we may carry with us, or any other external issue. What matters is what we do with it right now, this moment, and where we take it from here.
Life Is Expansion.
Spread Some Joy Today–Be determined to find things to be happy about today. They can be very small things and the joy can be just as satisfying.

Inquiring Minds Want To Know

“The wisest. . . keeps something of the vision of a child.
Though he may think a thousand things that a child
could not understand, he is always a beginner,
close to the original meaning of life.”
— John Macy
[Classic post from 2-17-11]
I’m sure that anyone who has had a young child, or even babysat a young child, would surely remember the child saying, “why?” or “why not?” We might say they can’t do something and the first response is, “why not?” We might say that this is the way it is and they immediately say, “Why?” It’s not just that they want to know, but they want to know why. It’s not that they don’t believe us when we say we can’t do that, it’s just that they don’t see it quite that way and want to understand why not. Even after we explain why not, it would not be uncommon to hear several more why’s and why not’s.
It seems to me that little kids are genius creators and that we dumb them down via our idea of schooling and associations, along with our own agendas. As they go through life, they may end up accumulating a good deal of facts, and other knowledge that may filter out as a bit of wisdom, just in time to re-enter the why and why not quest. If we’re lucky and open, that is.
It is the Imagineering and the questioning ability that is so intriguing to me that children will display at so young an age. It is the same that intrigues me of someone at any age. Being able and willing to be child-like is a great quality to carry throughout life.
What We Know Can Hurt Us If We Aren’t Willing To Question It.
Spread Some Joy Today–maybe it’s time to check on some of those things that we just take for granted and instead ask why? or why not? A bit of challenging the status quo can be a joyful experience.

Embracing The Struggle

“Once all struggle is grasped,
miracles are possible.”
— Mao Tse-Tung
“Life is a struggle,
but not a warfare.”
— John Burroughs
[Classic post from 2-16-11]
After so many years of life and study, it is only within the last year that I have realized something profound to me. In fact, it is so profound, that it is life-changing.
It is a common belief and is quoted in so many ways in such phrases as, “there is no gain without pain,” and “you must struggle through in order to achieve success,” that struggle is an undesirable thing to experience and that it always includes some kind of negative feeling, such as pain or otherwise unpleasantness. Heck, I was taught that crap early on and throughout my studies by many experts, until just recently.
What happened recently is that I began to see the struggle as desirable and pleasant. Yes, that is correct–desirable and pleasant. It would even be so much better to get rid of the word struggle completely because of its negative connotation, and just use the word contrast instead.
It is in the contrast that we learn and grow the most because the contrast shows us what we don’t want so we can then know what we do want which then when focused on, produces an improved result.
So, if it were not for the struggle or contrast, the improved result would never be. Whether it is in business or in our personal lives, sports, or whatever, it is all the same. The struggle or contrast is a critical step in the solution, not a problem. When viewed this way, we can then choose to look at it as a joyous event! We can get excited about it and even look forward to it.
No more fear of having to deal with the struggle, now I see it with joy and understanding. It has revolutionized the way I look at growth in business and my personal life as well. I am flat excited about this new learning experience. It helps so many things fall into place that before didn’t make too much sense. It now makes perfect sense.
I share this that you may find such joy in your struggles.
Spread Some Joy Today–by focusing on opportunities instead of problems. What you call them makes a great deal of difference.

Thankfulness Is Where It All Starts

“ThanksGiving is good
ThanksLiving is better.” 
— Matthew Henry 

[Classic post from 11-23-17]

It's all in our minds. And we have the only control panel access for our own mind, our choices, our decisions, our actions.

This I know for sure and for certain: Living life in constant gratitude is a beautiful life to live. Every single day of the year, even all throughout the day I find so many reasons to be thankful. And, here's the most interesting aspect of this: It keeps growing.

It Turned To Continual Joy Long Ago. 

Spread Some Joy Today–Thankfulness is where it starts.

Selfish Is Good

 “Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live;
it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.
And unselfishness is letting other people’s lives alone,
not interfering with them. Selfishness always aims
at uniformity of type. Unselfishness recognizes
infinite variety of type as a delightful thing,
accepts it, acquiesces in it, enjoys it.”
— Oscar Wilde
[Classic post from 2-15-11]
Ah, the unselfish life. . . Have you ever been told that you were being selfish? Has anyone ever said to you, “you are so selfish!”? Or maybe something like, “do you think the world revolves around you? You are so self-centered.”? If you have, I am certain that whoever said it was wanting you to act in accordance with their idea or belief of how you should act or be, and it wasn’t actually based on your behavior or activity.
Isn’t this just the way it is done? We are accused of being selfish when we are thinking of ourselves. Interesting. What I love about this quote by Oscar Wilde is that it indicates that selfishness is not a bad thing and it is not our problem, but the accusers’.
Now what would really be selfish would be to demand that someone else operate under your standards instead of allowing them to operate under their own. Indeed, when you think about it, it is ridiculous to even consider being selfish in this way.
What they really mean is that we aren’t playing by their rules. I can hear the voices in my head from childhood. . . “no fair! no fair! They’re not playing by the rules!”
Have Confidence In Your SELF! You Are Naturally and Designed To Be Selfish. That’s Right! You Choose.
Spread Some Joy Today–look much more within than without and the joy of the choice will be upon you.
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