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The Power To Change Reality

“If you don't like something, change it;
if you can't change it, change the way you think about it.”

— Mary Engelbreit


“When we are no longer able to change a situation,
we are challenged to change ourselves.”

— Victor Frankl

[Classic post from 8-5-10]

I've heard these sentiments expressed in many ways and each of them instructional. One way that I recently heard it was enlightening and equally empowering. It is this:

We are on two concurrent journeys at the same time. One is our physical journey of what is now. This is reality. It is what it is. It is the facts of the way things are. And, two, is our emotional journey. That is how we choose to feel, though ofttimes, we don't feel that we actually have a choice, but is a default response.

So, the reality is the reality. It is what it is. We can think and feel how we want to about it and if we continually focus on the reality in front of us, we will respond and react to that reality and our thinking and feeling will keep us tied to this reality as being tied to a pole in the ground. The more we talk about reality, feel the reality, share the reality, the more the reality has a hold on us.

In most cases, it is near impossible to change the reality by focusing on the reality. Generally, the only way and also the best and most effective way to change the reality is to begin changing the emotional journey about the reality. In other words, have you feel better and better by changing your thinking and feeling about what is.

Part of this is considering what you want it to be rather than what it is. You can't focus on being broke and not having enough money to pay the bills and have that situation change for the better. But, it can and will change for the better by focusing on what and where you want it to be, living in that fantasy as if it were your reality and it will become your reality. The other part is feeling better and better about where you are right now. It is so powerful to look for the positive aspects in every situation. It empowers one to see their current reality in a softer light. It is still reality, but now softer and more acceptable while you focus on what you want next and where you want to go.

Some of this I was taught as a child. I learned things like, “there is always a silver lining; things will work out for the best if you let them. and I haven't forgotten them, but now have a much more powerful and clear way to change where I am when I am not where I want to be. I change the emotional journey: my thinking and how I feel about my situation, my life, my current reality. Then, I focus my energy on imagining it the way I want it to be. Used together, these two strategies are incredible.

First Step: Lighten Up!! It's Only As Good Or Bad As You Think It And Feel That It Is. Find The Relief Valve And Open It Up.

Spread Some Joy Today–Now that you know an effective way to change, test it and see for yourself, then share it with others. The joy of empowerment is awesome!

True Freedom

“True freedom is the absence of resistance; true freedom is the presence of alignment–true freedom is the way you feel when you are no longer disallowing your complete alignment, or blending, with the Broader Non-Physical part of you. Therefore, it is not possible to be in the act of pushing against something unwanted and be blended with who-you-really-are and what you want at the same time.

You cannot be in the state of pushing against what you do not want and be in harmony with what you do want at the same time. And so, you will never get to a better-feeling state by trying to control others, no matter how well-meaning you believe your motives to be.”

— Abraham, Esther Hicks
The Vortex

The Power Of Awareness

Once we are aware and accept our own personal power, and as we feel negative emotion, we may desire to feel better and begin the process of changing toward experiencing more joy and well-being. 

We are always in choice even if in the past we may not have realized this and felt as though others were choosing for us. Those were still choices; albeit, unconscious choices. How powerful it is to gain the awareness required to choose consciously.

Rising Beyond Self-Imposed Limitations

“We cannot rise higher
than our thought of ourselves.”

— Orison Swett Marden

[Classic post from 5-4-12]

What an interesting man was Orison Swett Marden, founder of Success Magazine in 1897, author of over 18 books, and a positive thinker at the turn of the last century when they called that the New Thought Movement. He helped thousands back then and continues with his timeless words today. If you have a Kindle, you can get most of his books for free on Amazon.

The brilliance of the thought expressed above is priceless. We cannot rise higher than our thought of ourselves. So true. He elaborates: “The size of your accomplishments, the quality of your achievement, will depend very largely on how big a man you see in yourself, what sort of image you get of your possible self, yourself at your best.”

When I think on this idea, I can see so clearly into the past of how my own image of myself has always been the culprit to keep me at a lower level than I claimed to have wanted. I just couldn’t seem to picture myself there.

I can also see that much if not most of that came from people teaching me and accepting their doctrine. I don’t blame them. They did what they thought was best, but this is the whole idea of study on my own to find a better way. I have always had that drive inside me to know and to feel better about myself and accept the person I could be. There is not much that is as powerful to help a person as a strong sense of self through confidence.

This is why I practice getting better. This is why I teach what I learn, so I can go from learning to knowing, all the while sharing valuable knowledge and ideas.

Another thing on this subject that I’ve recently learned that has helped me a good deal is this: celebrate other people’s successes. Celebrate them getting what they want, winning the prize, moving up the so-called ladder. It is one of the ways to open the venue of abundance, which helps everyone the same. By celebrating others, we can also believe even more in ourselves.

“You Are The One Who Can Stretch Your Own Horizon…” — Edgar F. Magnin

Spread Some Joy Today–As you look around today or travel today and see others doing well, driving fine cars, living in vast homes, celebrate their success. Sing their praises along with them.

Dissolving In The Infinite

I have opened all the windows in my house.
Eagles fly in and out, as do any words that
are spoken about me.

Anything my ears might detect, firsthand or
second…I might give that news a moment’s
attention

and then just let it be the tiny evaporating
whiff of smoke it is, dissolving in the Infinite.

— Hafiz

Being The Example Of Love

“Know that you cannot change anything out there; you can only allow other people and situations to change. If you wish to see anything in your world change, change yourself! Then the other changes. Then you will be being a representative example to everyone else of what kind of unconditionally loving being they can also be–by allowing them to see the example you are setting, regardless of what they are choosing. If you are buying into their reality, and becoming frustrated and hateful and so on, because they are choosing to be frustrated and hateful and so on, you are only reinforcing the reality they are already living. You are not giving them an example; you are not giving them a chance to see any other way.

Trust. Be the life you wish to be. Act as if you are that way. We are not suggesting you ignore the fact that other people are choosing to suffer. But the way to assist them best is to first and foremost be the being that at least shows them there is another way to be. Otherwise they cannot see an example of how they could also choose to be: loving to themselves.”

— Bashar, Darryl Anka

True Love Is Beyond Fear

Here are some bits of wisdom from Paul Selig's latest book, Alchemy that touched me deeply.

“Each individuated expression of humanity is a perfect imprint of God… Happy or sad, high or low, she cannot be seen as other than perfect in the eyes of God. As these become your eyes, you love in agreement to who another is. You don't make them other. You claim them as they truly are. And they are gifted by this, as you are gifted by their presence.

To agree to the essence of another is to comprehend who they are outside of their fear… To comprehend another as who they are outside of their fear is to know them in love. It is nothing other than the agreement to truth that claims you in accord with your fellows.

To love another, to truly love another, is to love them for all time… True love expresses throughout time, because true love is not bound by time. If true love is God in expression, it is eternal… true love must always be present, just as God must always be present even when you cannot see it or feel it.”

These short passages touched me deeply because I have become a practicing unconditional lover of all. This has nothing to do with right and wrong and other such historical labels that tend to color everything we see. It is to see beyond all of that white noise to see the essence of the divine in all people and all things.

This place that I have come to is pure joy for me and it requires zero effort as it is completely natural. The work is trying to maintain the facades that we have been trained to display. Releasing this is the no effort natural choice once the decision is made to walk this path. I often call that dropping the rope of resistance because it visually demonstrates how little effort is involved to change. Holding on to the rope is where all the work and stress is. Letting go is where all the joy, peace, and love is.

Our Core Value System

“Being invulnerable behind protective walls is a living death. Vulnerability has no guarantees against pain, but it is the way of love…

If your life is ever growing more toward wholeness, fullness, and abundance, your core value must be life-affirming…

Growing in Divine Love is a core value. And, as in all core value systems, actions evolve from the core value. Opening the heart to receive Divine Love happens in response to the deep desire to grow in Divine Love. As your inner core becomes more and more dedicated to loving, your outer life will grow in richness, meaning, and love relationships.”

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

This is an excerpt from Reflection 88. The entire piece was very good and the above portions brought me joy. I especially loved the first two lines: “Being invulnerable behind protective walls is a living death. Vulnerability has no guarantees against pain, but it is the way of love.” This sentiment is perfectly pictured in the simplicity and insight of Donna’s word choices.

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