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Dissolving In The Infinite

I have opened all the windows in my house.
Eagles fly in and out, as do any words that
are spoken about me.

Anything my ears might detect, firsthand or
second…I might give that news a moment’s
attention

and then just let it be the tiny evaporating
whiff of smoke it is, dissolving in the Infinite.

— Hafiz

It Happens All The Time In Heaven

It happens all the time in heaven, and someday
it will begin to happen again on earth–

that men and women who are married, and
men and men who are lovers,

and women and women who give each other
light,

often will get down on their knees, and while
so tenderly holding their lover’s hand, with

tear-filled eyes, will sincerely say, “My dear,
how can I be more loving to you; my darling,

how can I be more kind?”

— Hafiz

Learning To Express Rather Than To Impress

“Learn to express,
not impress.”

— Jim Rohn

[Classic post from 8-11-12]

Having been an avid fan of Mr. James Rohn, business philosopher, I've used and love so many of his quotes. I have a whole book of them. Tonight I was about to look through the pages of this book for an idea and boom!–this quote above jumped off the page in my face.

At first, I thought, well. . . what does he mean by that? How might have this quote been used in one of his teachings? Truth is I don't know. He did thousands of teachings, but as I reread it, the quote spoke to me, so I thought I would share that with you.

When I was young, I always wanted to impress. I wanted to impress my mom and dad, my grandma, teachers, even other kids so I could be in their group. As I grew up and went into the business world, I wanted to impress my coworkers, my boss, my wife, and so on.

At some point, I found that to be less than fruitful, sort of like chasing a rainbow. So, I began to learn how to express more and try to impress less. I must admit to having some deep-seated insecurities or something because this transition has taken a long time. But, I do believe that I have made the transition to focusing on expression rather than impression.

We can express or impress with our speech, our deeds, our activities, even the career choices we make. We can express or impress with our finances, or lack of them, our accomplishments or lack of them, our friends or lack of them, and so on. In fact, in anything we do or say, we can be focused on expressing or impressing.

The Difference Can Easily Be Seen In What We Do, What We Produce, And How We Behave.

Spread Some Joy Today–Stop by your favorite coffee shop and bring your coworkers a nice coffee treat. Or, at least one. . . or maybe a dozen premium donuts. . . Fun!

Relational Well-Being and Joy – Number 9

Your happiness
is your natural state of being.

Your true happiness happens
when you discover that
no one other than yourself
is responsible for the way you feel.
If you believe that others
are responsible for the way you feel,
you are in true bondage,
because you cannot control
how they behave or how they feel.

— Abraham, Esther Hicks

The above quote is some insight from the Flawed Premise #9 of the 22 Flawed Premises in the book, Your Vortex, and the Law of Attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks.

“Flawed Premise #9: The path to my joy is through my action. When I am feeling bad, I can get to a better-feeling place by taking action. I can focus upon a situation that I think is the reason I am feeling bad, and walk away from it. And once away from it, I will feel better. I can get to what I want by leaving what I don’t want.”

They go on to say that “it is natural that you would want to remove yourself from things that do not feel good, but in an inclusion-based Universe, that is not possible. You cannot focus upon unwanted things–and therefore activate the unwanted in your Vibration–and get away from it, because the pulling power of the Law of Attraction is stronger than any action that you may offer.

As you walk away from one unpleasant situation, the Law of Attraction will bring another that feels very much like it, and usually quickly. You just cannot get there from there. To get to where you want to be–to that place of feeling better–you have to reach for alignment between you and you.”

The most important relationship that any of us has is our relations with the who and what we think we are and our Inner Being, our Inner Knowing, the God Within. When we align there first, all other relationships will benefit and make more sense as well.

We are the only ones we have any power over. We cannot think for another so we cannot feel for them. Since we cannot think or feel for them, our wanting them to feel a certain way is completely pointless and ultimately frustrating. We have to own our own feelings and allow all others to own theirs. We can only change how we feel as we are in or out of alignment with higher selves.

An Excerpt

I saved and just reread a letter dated 8-3-90 that I wrote to my stepson who was 15 at the time. I met him when he was 12. He is super-intelligent and he wrote me a quizzical note about my search for meaning and happiness. I do not have that note, but I have my reply. This is a short excerpt from the 2-page typewritten letter that I thought was worth sharing. This was over 30 years ago.

“Seeing what we can do while we are on this planet is part of what it is all about. Happiness is one of those nice words that lack sufficient meaning to be used alone except in literature. What makes happiness? Well, it is an individual definition first. It is very personal. Second, it is not an end result as in a destination, but an attitude, a feeling, a oneness with the moment of now–it is the journey.

Joy and happiness are not even the same things. I can find joy in doing something that is causing me frustration at the moment. Think about your workouts and the pain of the moment when pushing the weights and your body is crying out for rest, yet there is joy overall from the experience. You can have joy in pain. Can you have happiness in pain then?

If one is looking for meaning, one will find it within and not outside or in things or accomplishments. The closer we get to finding our true self, the closer we come to our Creator and our true meaning. Many things on the outside are parts of the road map to within.

…I do enjoy life. Not the way you do…What brings you happiness, joy, contentment, a sense of purpose, meaning, will be very personally yours. Though some of our values and principles will co-mingle, many may not, and there should be no shame in this, for again, we are not the same. I appreciate the differences. Were we the same, this communication would be totally unnecessary and I am enjoying the opportunity.

When I give it more than superficial thought, I realize that I am happy, that I do enjoy life, that it has meaning for me. Much of that comes from knowing you and being a part of your life. You are one of the most unique people I have ever had the pleasure to meet and be with. Though our relationship has been of a certain type based on circumstance and personality and experience, I feel your touch and importance beyond the day-to-day supervisory, teaching, guiding capacity. I love you very much and I respect and admire you. You indeed add meaning to my life. Thank you for the notes. I appreciate them. Love, Terry”

Laughter

What is laughter? What is laughter?
It is God waking up! O it is God waking up!
It is the sun poking its sweet head out
From behind a cloud
You have been carrying too long,
Veiling your eyes and heart.

It is Light breaking ground for a great Structure
That is your Real body–called Truth.

It is happiness applauding itself and then taking flight
To embrace everyone and everything in this world.

Laughter is the polestar
Held in the sky by our Beloved,
Who eternally says,

“Yes, dear ones, come this way,
Come this way toward Me and Love!

Come with your tender mouths moving
And your beautiful tongues conducting songs
And with your movements–your magic movements
Of hands and feet and glands and cells–Dancing!

Know that to God’s Eye,
All movement is a Wondrous Language,
And Music–such exquisite, wild Music!”

O what is laughter, Hafiz?
What is this precious love and laughter
Budding in our hearts?

It is the glorious sound
Of a soul waking up!

— Hafiz

A Golden Compass

Forget every idea of right and wrong
Any classroom ever taught you

Because
An empty heart, a tormented mind,
Unkindness, jealousy and fear

Are always the testimony
You have been completely fooled!

Turn your back on those
Who would imprison your wondrous spirit
With deceit and lies.

Come, join the honest company
Of the King’s beggars–
Those gamblers, scoundrels and divine clowns
And those astonishing fair courtesans
Who need Divine Love every night.

Come, join the courageous
Who have no choice
But to bet their entire world
That indeed,
Indeed, God is Real.

I will lead you into the Circle
Of the Beloved’s cunning thieves,
Those playful royal rogues–
The ones you can trust for true guidance–
Who can aid you
In this Blessed Calamity of life.

Hafiz,
Look at the Perfect One
At the Circle’s Center:

He Spins and Whirls like a Golden Compass,
Beyond all that is Rational,

To show this dear world

That Everything,
Everything in Existence
Does point to God.

— Hafiz

Who Am I?

When you ask,
“Who am I, Lord?”
God answers, “You are
more than this face, these hands,
this body,
more than your feelings,
your laughter and your tears,
your joy and your pain,
more than your thinking,
your beliefs, your planning,
more than your doing,
working, making,
more than your past,
your parents, your circumstances
more than you titles
father, mother, child
doctor, friend.
You are more than
your anger, fears,
failures or doubts.
You are more than your successes
wealth or fame.
One moment you are this,
another moment that.
One moment happy, one moment sad,
one moment empty, one moment filled.
Like the clouds, you are ever changing.
You are a kaleidoscope, each moment
rearranging the colors of your being.
You are a many-faceted splendor.
You are a beautiful Gift of Life;
a radiance of God’s Light.
In Truth
you are of the Lord.
You are wise, you are beautiful,
you are kind,
you are a fountain
fed by the ‘living waters.’
You are God’s Love.”

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

Practice Makes Good Better

People are complicated. They have many facets, do strange things sometimes, and in so many, their ego leads their life. Nature is easy. That’s where I started in my appreciation practice. I began appreciating plants, trees, leaves, bushes, weather, the sky, the air, the temperature, the breeze, the small close-up view, and the grander wide-angle long views. It was easy and I felt so good expressing my appreciation in my mind. I was thanking God for all of what I was seeing.

Everywhere I went, whether just outside my home or in some other part of the world, nature was right there. As I would appreciate one thing, then I found it easier to appreciate another. As that happened, the Law of Attraction began putting other things to appreciate in my path until I was almost in a constant state of appreciation as I viewed nature.

Then I moved to people. In this, I would try to find at least one thing to appreciate about everyone that I might see, or interact with. I might like their eyes, their hair, the clothes they chose, or their shoes, or their smile, or their laughter. There are so many possibilities that I found it an easy challenge to like at least one thing about other people.

As part of this, I began seeing things about myself that I could appreciate. As I said earlier, to appreciate others and not ourselves is to not really appreciate at all. Then, the Law of Attraction began helping me see other things to appreciate about me. It might be things I said or wrote. It might be the way my hair looked that day. I began complimenting myself in the mirror. Then I began doing it aloud. I do it more today because it is so important to appreciate ourselves. After all, we are who we live with 365/24/7.

Then, I began practicing being bold enough to share something that I appreciated about another to them aloud. It is always interesting to hear and see their responses. It’s also funny. I might compliment a woman on her blouse or other aspects of their choices in clothing, and they will often say thank you, and then tell me how cheap it was and maybe even which store it came from as if they are negating its value by having it be inexpensive. But, whatever their reaction, it has always been positive and you can see how they appreciated someone noticing in their eyes, face, and body language.

Now I do this a lot. If I see the same people time and again like at the bank or something, I can always find something else to compliment them on. My finding things to appreciate is now habitual. I don’t even think about it much. I am used to seeing things to appreciate wherever I am, all day long. It matters not whether I am at home and finding things, or out and about, or at events. I am constantly seeing things to appreciate and I am constantly appreciating them inside.

Even when I see something that I don’t really appreciate, I find things about it that I can appreciate. For example, I’m not much of a fan of graffiti, or at least the kind of graffiti I see around where I live, but I can and do appreciate their creativity. I don’t appreciate that they are damaging other people’s property, or that they are uncaring about any of that, but I can appreciate their humanity and perhaps even that which causes them to feel less than and to try to be more than in an attempt to find their own wholeness.

On that note about graffiti, I see it and quickly look away. I don’t want to give it any energy. I used to give it all kinds of energy by putting down those who were doing these acts and feeling bad in the process. I have learned that feeling good is my goal and it is that which helps me to become more, so I turn to a better feeling view and give that energy instead. Even in this, it is all about finding something to appreciate.

On the other hand, the word graffiti simply means writing or drawing on a wall or other object. In some definitions, they use the word illicit. So, there are all kinds of graffiti that I truly appreciate, and some of it is quite spectacular as art. Even as I sit at the railroad crossing and see all the cars with graffiti on them, I see many with very elaborate painted words and images. Obviously, they had more time to spend on that project, but looking beyond the idea of changing other people’s property without their permission, much of this artwork is truly creative and even beautiful.

Then, outdoor murals can be considered graffiti. There are all kinds of ways to find appreciation in something that we may normally hate to see or even feel angry about and more. Becoming a grateful person is finding different ways to appreciate things, and I think even especially things, that we might not normally appreciate. It is life-changing—changing for the better.

The Paradigm Of Love: Wealth Of The Heart

Once I knew a person of great heart wealth. She was ninety-two, a little bent from time. Her hair was white, her wrinkles deep, her eyes radiated light and love. She was beautiful, and she was one of my great teachers. Although we only spent one hour together, she changed my life.

Mary Hadley lived in a small room in a complex for the elderly in Pasadena, California. Her material possessions were the pictures on the walls and the teapot from which she poured our tea.

I, a stranger making a ministerial visit, knocked on her door. After a long moment, she opened the door, and I explained my being there. Suddenly her eyes lit up, and she explained, “Every day I ask, ‘Lord, what miracles do you have for me today?’ And here you are!” She thought I was a miracle, and this was the first time I felt like a miracle.

Such Divine-Human Love radiated from this small weathered being that I felt immersed in radiant light. When I was leaving the complex, someone told me, “Everyone loves Mary Hadley.” What is this love that can embrace a stranger and recognize another as a miracle?

Can the wealth of Mary Hadley be counted?

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

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