Category: Growth

Getting Out Of Drama Class

The drama triangle (Victim, Persecutor, Rescuer) is in action all around us and most of us don’t recognize it. Everyone’s favorite position is playing the Victim and moving from Victim To Persecutor and back again. There are many facets to this game of acting out. This unawareness continues the game as long as we remain ignorant of the game and that we are in the game. Once awareness of the game is in place, it is easy enough to stop playing the game by moving to the center and out of those dramatic roles. Habitual patterns are strong, but with awareness comes new strength.

There is no joy in the drama game; however, joy is always available to us any time we choose joy by moving into the peace, love, and harmony that exists outside of the drama triangle. We are the choosers.

Our Focus Is Our Vibration

“Fear is an uncaring driver who’s only destination is in the direction of more fear.

Fear, as it is spread, is like a magnet attracting and attaching itself to more fear, even exponentially or virally. 

This applies as much to those spreading it purposely to promote fear as to those, who with the best intentions, who feel it is their duty to shine a light on it and expose it. It is spread nonetheless.”

— Paul Selig
The Book of Love and Creation

Now the great news about this concept is that the same exact thing happens with love or joy or peace of mind… Whatever we focus on is expanded and we cannot push against anything and not have it in our vibrational countenance.

Emotions Are Guides Not Dictators

Let your emotions be your guide to your current thinking rather than letting your emotions rule your thinking. Abraham, Esther Hicks has so brilliantly introduced this concept of a powerfully effective and efficient way of navigating our human lives in our everyday world.

Emotions don’t create thinking. Thinking creates emotions. They are created in order for us to recognize that we are either in alignment with our Inner Knowing, or Higher Self, that part of us that is connected to Source Energy, or we are out of alignment. I like to use the view of being in tune or out of tune, in harmony, or in discordance. When a guitar or any other instrument is tuned to the right note, they resonate and become one. Until then, they are in discordance, or out of tune to the desired note. Our emotions are the perfect guide for us to navigate life with ease and clarity.

We have so many thoughts going on all day long, even tens of thousands of them each day. This amount of mental activity is not something that is easy to regulate or control even if it is desired. However, by paying attention to how we are feeling, we can then pay attention to our current thinking that is causing this emotion to come to the surface. As we are feeling bad or not good, we can understand that this guidance is telling us that we are out of tune, out of alignment with our Higher Self or Inner Being. Something is not right. It feels off.

This understanding, then, can help inspire us to see what thoughts are in our minds at the moment. In this case, we are thinking or seeing something that is not to our liking, not what we want, and such. It may be something coming up from our history or something new that is being related to our history. In any case, the bad feeling is our clue that we are experiencing something in our thoughts that we really do not want. Some may say it is negative thinking, but that is too big a category to deal with effectively. It is simply our thoughts about ourselves, another, or about some situation and our bad feeling emotion is simply and clearly letting us know that we are experiencing something we do not really want.

We can attach ourselves to that emotion and then the Law of Attraction will help find more thoughts that match the discordance for as long as we want to do this. Some people might do this for hours, or a day, or far longer. This is how depression is expressed. We are stuck in discordance because we are stuck in a loop of our thinking that is causing us to experience bad-feeling emotions because those thoughts are out of alignment with our Inner Knowing, and the Law of Attraction is bringing us more to match the vibration that we are emitting. It can be like flipping on a dark switch in a well-lit room.

Or, we can be in our awareness of this guidance that we are experiencing something we do not want and then make a decision to consider what it is that we do want. It may be as straightforward and simple as we want to feel better. And, this is the key to feeling better: Find some bit of relief by choosing a thought that feels just a little better. Then again, and again, and then we are soon feeling better and better until we are feeling good again. The fastest way to do this in my experience is to find anything at all to appreciate, then something else to appreciate, and so on. And, the best part of all this is that we are now living deliberately, choosing deliberately, expanding our lives deliberately because we now understand our emotional guidance system and how to make use of it and make use of the power of the Law of Attraction for our benefit rather than our detriment.

I Have Learned So Much

I
Have
Learned
So much from God
That I can no longer
Call
Myself

A Christian, a Hindu, a Muslim,
A Buddhist, a Jew.

The Truth has shared so much of itself
With me

That I can no longer call myself
A man, a woman, an angel,
or even pure
Soul.

Love has
Befriended Hafiz so completely
It has turned to ash
And freed
Me

Of every concept and image
My mind has ever known.

— Hafiz

Awareness + Adversity = Breakthrough

“A man who is a master of patience
is master of everything.”

— George Savile

[Classic post from 9-9-12]

Consider this equation that popped into my head today: Awareness + Adversity = Breakthrough.

I’ve talked several times of late about my desire to and practice in becoming a much more patient person. It is working so well that I get these ‘ah-ha’ moments realizing that I am actually exercising considerable, if not extreme patience in a normally stressful or irritating situation. Tonight there were more than one and it is so interesting to become aware that I am aware of seeing myself being more and more patient.

It also struck me tonight that adversity plays a major role in the process. Without adversity, there would be no need to learn, nothing to change, overcome, or make peace with. So, based on that, once we become aware, we may feel the desire to change or to feel better. Then we will be making changes in our thought process to respond to the adversity rather than to react to it. Without awareness, we would just keep repeating the same old reactionary patterns from the past, or as Einstein said how we think the same thoughts and hope for things to change which was his definition of insanity.

Consequently, I began to actually get excited about the idea of adversity being in the mix and playing a part in my growth to the point of having gratitude for it being there. Again, without the adverse situation, it would not be possible to change, nor would there be a need to.

A breakthrough, of course, is that “ah-ha” moment. It is the realization that we have come through and are actually doing that which we hoped to achieve, which is to purposely and consciously be patient with life as it unfolds which can be the most natural response.

So, to put it together, as I become more aware and meet adverse or irritating situations or things, I have the opportunity to practice my patience, and in so doing achieve breakthroughs that strengthen, encourage, and excite me to continue to grow into more patience. Because I really do believe that he who is a master of patience is a master of everything else.

Bring It! I’m Eager For The Practice! And, So Enjoying The Change.

Spread Some Joy Today–What upsets you? How can you soothe that?

Learning About Impatience

“Impatience is not a time issue
or a mark of selfishness.
It is a trust issue
and a statement of fear.”

— Alan Cohen

[Classic post from 9-16-12]

I downloaded a book on my Kindle a few weeks back and I got about 15% into it, and tonight I opened it back up and started reading more. The book title is Enough Already: The Power of Radical Contentment by Alan Cohen. So, as I’m back reading, he is talking about having patience and how many people he knows and coaches are type ‘A’ people who are always having to ‘do’ something, and stopping for a bit of peace is not on the agenda–in fact, it isn’t even on their radar.

That reading caused me to remember a meeting I had a couple of days ago with two men. One was very easy going and enthusiastic and quite interested. He was engaged and asked questions, and really wanted to understand the whole picture as much as he could in a relatively short meeting. The other gentleman was obvious in his impatience. He wanted different answers. In fact, I believe he just wanted a miracle to appear right in the room, and then he wouldn’t have to deal with it. Yet, he persevered in allowing the other gentleman to ask questions and receive answers.

At the end of the meeting, the curious one asked yet another question and then started into a story. As we were standing and I was listening, I couldn’t help but notice the other gentleman was looking more aggravated than impatient, so I suggested we move out of the office and end the meeting. We did.

And then, tonight, I read the quote above as part of the text in the book and I was amazed how powerfully it is stated and how true it seems to be. Impatience is not normally stated as fear, but, of course, that is exactly what it is. Yet it is even more in that the one who is impatient is not present. They are somewhere else. They are way ahead and the rest of us are holding up the way just like an impatient driver following on your tail. Indeed, they want to be somewhere else, get different answers, and more. It is resistance and not conducive to success.

Alan says in the book that “Things happen when they are ripe–not before or after. If you try to force something before it is ready, it won’t work.” So true. We still think otherwise as is often taught in that we have to ‘make things happen.’ A better route is to allow things to happen, and this requires patience.

He also quoted a Bible verse from James 1:4, which says, “And let patience have its perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, lacking in nothing.”

I am amazed in the last few months of the volume and depth of things I am learning about patience and in so doing, applying them in my business and my life and amazed again at how successful that application really is.

“Patience Is Natural To Those Who Trust”
— A Course in Miracles

Spread Some Joy Today–Find your patience. It is only for you to control.

On The Way

“Everything is on the way, not in the way;
everything is instructive, not obstructive.”

— John Demartini

I read many books on a subject partly to know more about the subject, and partly to have better ways to explain things. That is the case with this wonderful quote from Dr. John Demartini. It is perfect! I’ve never heard it said better in all my travels.

I used to love that it’s not the destination, but the journey that is important and I agree with that, but we all know those things that just seem to get in our way and to say that “everything is on the way, not in the way,” is so much more enlightening. Doesn’t it hit you that way too? Powerful.

Grand In Scope, Weightless In Spirit

“To desire is to obtain;
to aspire is to achieve.”

“You will become as small
as you controlling desire;
or as great
as your dominant aspiration.”

— James Allen

I am fascinated with the word, aspire. It sort of makes wants and desires little things. It is grand in scope and weightless in spirit. It means to rise, to ascend, to soar and in Latin, it means to breathe upon. That makes me think about breathing life into something. A desire is wanting something, but to aspire is to become, to intend.

When I am considering and dreaming of and playing with my aspirations, I feel free and alive and full of hope and wonder at the same time. What is happening here and now is of little importance. It is more like a connection with the Infinite and what possibilities exist regardless of circumstances, past history, or any other limiting factor.

A Love That Frees

“The promises of this world are, 
for the most part, vain phantoms; 
and to confide in one’s self, 
and become something of worth and value 
is the best and safest course.” 

— Michelangelo 

 

“The value of a man 
should be seen
in what he gives 
and not in what
he is able to receive.” 

— Albert Einstein 

[Classic post from 2-21-17]

I’m going to share a dream from early this morning. It was so powerful that I woke up and had to write part of it down.

I was friends with a man named Bob Mopi, who was such a special friend. I remember reading a quote by Thich Nhat Hanh the other day which matches this man’s love and friendship perfectly: “You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.” I felt completely and totally loved and free whenever I even thought of Bob Mopi, and I did nothing to hold him from being equally loved and free.

Bob was an expert at numbers, investing, and managing money. He was in the highest demand, and yet he chose as he chose not paying any attention to the grandness of the offers. He was his own man and did as he pleased; did what pleased him the most.

I was friends with several board members of a mid-sized company and they really needed a treasurer, but more like a CFO; someone who could guide the company financially out of the chaos that it had landed in, but they couldn’t pay the big bucks and so they were wondering where this magic person would come from.

I said, “what about Bob?” I didn’t even say his last name, and they all knew exactly who I was talking about. They all instantly said, Bob Mopi. Yes, that’s who we want. But, will he be available to us? That’s the question. I said that I would speak to him.

Now this board was made up of the finest men and women one could know. They were smart and full of integrity, and yet, they found themselves in need of some financial help. Well, a lot of financial help.

I talked with Bob and he instantly agreed to do it, not even asking about any compensation. The only thing he stipulated is that he must have the freedom to not be tied to this job. He must be able to get the work done in whatever little time it might take and then have the freedom to do other things in the meantime. It was agreed.

Afterward, back in the big office with that board, everyone was chatting it up and I spoke out (and this is what I wrote down early this morning): “I know what is so special about Bob. He doesn’t not like anyone. Everyone is important to him. He doesn’t know how people he interacts with will be of value to him or he to them, but he knows there is value in all relationships, however brief or exalted.”

I thought, wow! If someone were to say that about me, that would be the greatest compliment I could ever be paid. It is love. It is love as a noun, and also a verb. It is love in action. It is unconditional love. It doesn’t matter how the other is expressed physically, Bob loves them as they are inside–as they truly are, and he loves them with such freedom that the other feels no ties that bind, with no expectations, with no requirements.

Imagine The Possibilities Of This In Your Life And Your World. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by seeing beyond the surface to see that in which we all are the same in love and freedom.

What A Great Return

“Thousands of candles can be lit
from a single candle, and the life
of the candle will not be shortened.
Happiness never decreases
by being shared.”

— Buddha

Like the candle, when we brighten someone’s day, cause them to laugh or smile, demonstrate kindness in a myriad of ways we are not less than we were before and yet we have extended our reach to as many as we decide to influence.

Yet, unlike the candle, it seems to me that this candle is not only energized, and improved by the experience of influencing others, it is enhanced and expanded by it.

Now isn’t that an interesting thought…

What a great return on investment!

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