Category: Fun

I Am More Important Than My Problems

“I am more important than my problems.”
 
— Jose Ferrer
 
 
“I am bigger than anything that can happen to me.”
 
— Charles F Lummis
 
 
 
 
[Classic post from 2-24-11]
 
If you're in a situation where you have a lot of problems or have been in one in the past, you'll probably agree that it is so easy to begin thinking that you and your problems are inseparable, especially if the problems were around for any length of time. Some might even start thinking of themselves as having failed, beating themselves up about the existence of the problems, and so on.
 
We are all bigger than any problems that we may ever have. We are of value and we are worthy and we need to value ourselves in that light. If you ever start feeling overwhelmed, unworthy, and such, try this:
 
1. Lighten up. Start laughing at your problems instead of looking at them seriously. Change the mood by changing your attitude about your problems.
 
2. Take a break. Focus on something else and let go of thinking about or looking at your problems.
 
3. When you're feeling good again, and while you're feeling good, seek the inspiration of ways to deal with them. When inspiration comes, act on it.
 
4. Develop a thankful heart. Start looking for things to praise about the situation instead of going over and over the problem.
 
5. Repeat.
 
Nowhere in that are we focusing on the problem. Heck, if we did this long enough, the problems may evaporate on their own…
 
 
We Make Such BIG Deals About Every LITTLE Thing.
 
Spread Some Joy Today–be joyous. It will spread like wildfire.

Thankfulness Is Where It All Starts

“ThanksGiving is good
 
but,
 
ThanksLiving is better.” 
 
— Matthew Henry 
 

[Classic post from 11-23-17]

It's all in our minds. And we have the only control panel access for our own mind, our choices, our decisions, our actions.

This I know for sure and for certain: Living life in constant gratitude is a beautiful life to live. Every single day of the year, even all throughout the day I find so many reasons to be thankful. And, here's the most interesting aspect of this: It keeps growing.

It Turned To Continual Joy Long Ago. 

Spread Some Joy Today–Thankfulness is where it starts.

Affirmations and Discipline

 “Affirmation without discipline
is the beginning of delusion.”
 
— Jim Rohn
 
 
 
[Classic post from 2-13-11]
 
I learned about affirmations in the early 1970s and have tried using them off and on most of my life–mostly off. I also remember in the early 1980’s hearing the above quote on a tape set by Jim Rohn. At the time he was talking about people thinking positive thoughts but never doing anything, but lately, I have a different take on this wonderful quote of Jim’s.
 
The way I learned affirmations was to state a goal as if it is already achieved, write them down on cards and go over them several times a day while trying to visualize the end result completed. I have used them with success but without much discipline. It is also hard to believe some goals as being achieved when you haven’t got a clue how it will happen. So, it is easy to give up on this kind of plan because if it hasn’t happened in a few weeks, discouragement sets in.
 
I’ve recently found a far better and easier way to achieve great results and it is something that all of us can do. I didn’t say all of us will do it, but all of us certainly can.
 
It starts with this most important premise: a belief is just a thought that we keep thinking. We think about it long enough and it is a belief.
 
Now that realization changed everything in my mind. All of a sudden when this thought sunk into my brain, I had a whole new understanding of the usefulness of affirmations. It is this: Before, I used to have these affirmations of grand results of achievement. Now I focus on something very easy to achieve and take the unbelievability out of the picture.
 
I’ll give you a perfect example. We talk to ourselves and we talk aloud to others and if we pay attention to what we are saying, the likelihood of much of that talk is about what is currently happening, especially negative things is very high. As an example, it is easy and common to talk about the economy being down. As we do this simple acknowledgment, we attract more of that in our lives. We hear about it more, more people refer to it in our presence, etc. So the challenge is to change that talk to something that makes more sense for where we want to go.
 
Here’s a perfect phrase: Everything always works out for me. It’s a simple phrase and oh, so powerful. Everything always works out for me. Everything always works out for me. Everything always works out for me.
 
Change those old, worn-out self-talk affirmations to some fresh, lively, and inspiring ones that are easier to believe than getting a million dollars by Friday. It will open a whole new world for you and me.
 
Everything always works out for me. Maybe it didn’t used to, but, no matter, now everything always works out for me. . .
 
 
There Are So Many Opportunities That I Get To Choose The Best Ones. Isn’t That Wonderful?
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Begin to see how everything always works out for you.

Getting Into The Driver’s Seat

“Destiny is not a matter of chance;
it is a matter of choice.
It is not something to be waited for;
but, rather something to be achieved.”
 
— William Jennings Bryan
 
 
 
[Classic post from 2-11-11]
 
I love this quote because it holds awesome power. I used to live in a world where I wondered what I was supposed to do; what my destiny was. I was waiting for a sign, holding out for an external deity to direct me toward this that I was meant to do, and the person I was destined to be. It was the world of someone or something else's choosing and I the hoping, wishing, wanting and not knowing receiver.
 
Then, I learned that this power is not without, but completely and totally within. Before, zero power, and now, ultimate power.
 
I suppose the other side of that new power is that I no longer have any excuses that make any sense. . .
 
Once You Get Into The Drivers Seat And Practice Driving, It Is Amazing The Freedom This Brings.
 
Spread Some Joy Today–There is such joy just in the simple thing called choice.

Cannot Go Back

 “Any person who recognizes this greatest power…
the 
power to choose…
Begins to realize that he is the one
that is doing the choosing,
and that friends, although they 
mean well,
cannot do his choosing for him,
nor can his 
relatives.
Consequently, he develops real self-confidence
based upon his own ability,
upon his own action,
and upon his own initiative.”
 
— J Martin Kohe
 
 
“You will live your life secure
in that, you are no longer
manipulated
by what other people want you to do 
and be,
but are directed by your own inner desires.”
 
— H Stanley Judd
 
 
 
 
[Classic post from 2-10-11]
 
Once making this choice to choose for yourself, to seek the wisdom within and to have confidence in your own choices, it is a wonderful feeling of freedom and peace, with joy. The key will be to hang on to that feeling, for it may seem, at least in the near term, that the rest of the world is conspiring against your success. They may even bring it up from time to time how self-centered you are and other such demeaning labels. It may very well be those closest to you.
 
But, one cannot un-grow, un-become, un-expand. Once expanded, there is no return. This I know and I rejoice in it. Fear not! Remain confident! You may have to ignore outcries and smile off harassment. Success is yours by acceptance.
  
Congratulations!
  
Spread Some Joy Today–the joy of the thought is ours each moment we decide.

Something To Strive Toward

“People who say that life is not worthwhile
are really saying that they themselves
have no personal goals which are worthwhile.
Get yourself a goal worth working for.
Better still, get yourself a project. 
Always have something ahead of you
to look forward to–
to work for and hope for.”
 
— Maxwell Maltz
 
 
 
[Classic post from 2-9-11]
 
I love being busy and there are a number of reasons for this and one of them is so that I won't be bored. To me, being bored is so bad, so tiring, and so insulting to the Creator of life! I hope when the time comes that I die mid-stride, for I surely don't want to be watching TV.
 
Another reason for expanding my activities is to grow. I feel that when we are not growing, we are surely dying. I think that expansion is the main component of our lives and when we are expanding, we are being rewarded by becoming more than we were if no other reason.
 
Yet another reason is that I like trying new things, old things with a twist, I even like doing some repetitive things, and the more I am moving, the more alive I feel.
 
Another is that I love the joy of discovery, and of sharing with someone, especially sharing ideas and thoughts. I do this every day of my life.
 
I have a lot of projects and so many more I want to get to as I move through. It is exciting to have projects to look forward to while I enjoy the ones I am focused on right now.
 
Every time I think I am very busy and maybe even doing too much, I think of John Adams, the second president of the United States. Surely, if you read the book about him by David McCullough, you would know what I am referring to. He was a busy man.
 
 
Life Is Expansion. Live It To The Fullest.
 
Spread Some Joy Today–start a new project, a new goal. You will be amazed at how it creates more in you.

The Idea Of Competition

“In business, the competition will bite you if you keep running,
if you stand still, they will swallow you.”
 
— Victor Kiam
 
 
“Like getting into a bleeding competition with a blood bank.”
 
— Richard Branson
 
 
“I’ve never felt any sense of competition with anybody,
and we’re all friends; we’re all good friends.”
 
— Jim Henson
 
 
 
 
[Classic post from 1-10-11]
 
In the last number of years, I find myself consulting with and doing business services with a lot of businesses. Many are so concerned about competition, whether it is the newest Walmart coming into town or the guy in the same business across town. I’ve dealt with a lot of car dealers as well and it’s funny that they think their biggest competition is not the other brand, but their fellow dealers near them selling the same brand. And, there is more of that in the other businesses.
 
My best advice to them is always this: I don’t believe in competition. If you’re leading, there is no competition. If you’re not leading, you get what is left, and that is not their fault, but your own. My best and simplest advice is for a business is two words: to lead. Ignore the so-called competition, and be the best that you can be, practice constant and never-ending improvement and you will have no worries.
 
I also hear many self-fulfilling prophecies. Here are a few lately: “Our business is off in January and February since the holidays are over.” “We’re not making any money doing that.” (this was without any record-keeping or analysis, and I knew it to be completely incorrect). “Business is crappy.” “It should get better next year, so this year we’re just going to have to be careful and hopefully get through.”
 
All of these quotes speak to competition. If it isn’t the competitor down the street or across town, it is the economy, the cyclical nature of the past, or whatever. And, my question is always the same: where is the leadership? Why don’t you try something different? Better? I have a good list of those kinds of questions, but it is rare enough that they are given any thought.
 
I don’t swim upstream very far, and I am clear about my ideas not necessarily being right, though I know I make valid points. I see it as my job to have them question their philosophy a little and to encourage them to try stepping outside of the box a little because my whole objective is to help them grow their business, all the time realizing and knowing that it is indeed their business.
 
So, if you were to change something that is so habitual that it has become a belief, do you think the philosophy change could change the prophecy? I say, absolutely! How about that instead of business being traditionally off in January and February, that it goes up instead? I know this: It never will with the philosophy that business is off in that period. It is impossible. There’s no hope.
 
 
It Always Comes Down To Our Own Thinking. That Is What Becomes Our Reality, Even When It Is Not Desired. Change The Thinking, Change The Reality.
 
Spread Some Joy Today–There is such joy in the realization that we all have this power fully at our disposal. We have the power to change our thinking. How joyful is that?

Changing Our Words Changes Our Perception

“Words are, of course,
the most powerful drug
used by mankind.”

— Rudyard Kipling

Consider how many times you might have used these words in the last 10 days:

Frustrated, anxious, angry, pissed off, hurt, stressed, impatient, irritated, nervous, overwhelmed, painful, oh shit, stupid ass, terrible, disgusting, lazy, jealous, embarrassed, exhausted, overloaded, okay, cool, happy, pretty good, fair to middlin’, glad.

Now, consider how many times and in how many ways you may have used these words:

marvelous, delightful, extravagant, luscious, inspiring, radiant, gleaming, centered, focused, perfect!, fantastic, fortunate, joyful, unstoppable, superb, amazed, tranquil, magical, yummy, exquisite, brilliant, awesome, fabulous, surprising, wonderful, captivating, enchanting, ravishing, engaging. 

Sometimes we want to have the feeling before we’ve had the thought, and the thought most often contains language, or words and phrases, and one of the more important things I’ve learned is that it is the thought that creates the feeling. It is the dog that wags the tail rather than the other way around, and our language has far more power than we think it does. This is especially true on our own outlook.

Changing our words will change our perception.

Celebrating Irrationality

 “I never came upon any of my discoveries
through the process of rational thinking.”
 
— Albert Einstein
 
 

[Classic post from 9-12-11]

I think this statement by Albert Einstein, one of the world’s smartest people, is fascinating and can have great application in any of our lives. When these things strike me as they sometimes do, I often look them up in the dictionary and/or thesaurus. Not because I need to know what it means, but sometimes there is insight there that I hadn’t thought of.

So here is the dictionary.com and thesaurus.com rendition:

 
ra·tion·al
adjective
1. agreeable to reason; reasonable; sensible: a rational plan for economic development.
2. having or exercising reason, sound judgment, or good sense: a calm and rational negotiator.
3. being in or characterized by full possession of one’s reason; sane; lucid: The patient appeared perfectly rational.
4. endowed with the faculty of reason: rational beings.
5. of, pertaining to, or constituting reasoning powers: the rational faculty.
 
Thesaurus:
 
Main Entry: rational
Part of Speech: adjective
Definition: realistic; of sound mind
Synonyms: all there, analytical, balanced, calm, cerebral, circumspect, cognitive, collected, cool*, deductive, deliberate, discerning, discriminating, enlightened, far-sighted, impartial, intellectual, intelligent, judicious, knowing, levelheaded, logical, lucid, normal, objective, perspicacious, philosophic, prudent, ratiocinative, reasonable, reasoning, reflective, sagacious, sane, sensible, sober, sound, stable, synthetic, thinking, thoughtful, together, well-advised, wise
Antonyms: irrational, ridiculous, unrealistic, unreasonable, unsound
 
There we go. I’ve so often heard the need to be sensible, to exercise sound judgment, good sense, and to be rational, reasonable, and realistic. Often, I am those things; albeit, not all at the same time generally.
 
Now the Thesaurus opens up the virtues of reason to a whole slew of words that are meant to keep us grounded and sane, along with being of sound mind. Heck, who doesn’t want to be of sound mind? Seems rational and reasonable to me.
 
However, I have been known to be unstable, irrational, even ridiculous. I’ve certainly been unreasonable often enough and of course, I am quite an expert at being unrealistic. It’s the sales training in me I suppose. Who wants a salesperson who is realistic and balanced and calm? Certainly not I. Equally, as a sales manager, I must lead the unbalanced and ridiculous to greater success, which as Albert Einstein knows full well, is the only way to get there in style.
  
 
Here’s To Irrationality! With Just A Touch Of The Ridiculous. Oooo! Such A Wonderful Combination!
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Let the air out of your soundness of mind for little bits of fun. Full-time rationality is so boring.

We Are Always In Control Of What Goes On Inside Us

You know, in all of my studies, I have found that it is the simplest things that are the most real and offer the most hope to change. One of them is this awesome quote by one of my early mentors, Wayne Dyer. He says, ‘Self-worth comes from one thing: thinking that you are worthy.’ That is so well said and so absolutely true. Feeling unworthy is rather easily turned around by DECIDING to feel worthy. It is a simple and effortless decision of choice.

Another simple, effortless way is from another mentor, Anthony Robbins. He says that to make an immediate change, change your state. As he expanded, he says that to feel a certain way has certain physical characteristics, and when you change the physical characteristics, you change the feeling. (It’s fascinating how the mind and body work together this way). So, you get up and move dramatically. Go run, go walk, climb Mt Everest, swim the channel, or at least one lap in the pool–anything, just move with enthusiasm!

Another simple, effortless way is another from Wayne Dyer: “It is impossible for you to be angry [or helpless, hopeless, depressed] and laugh at the same time. [They] are mutually exclusive and you have the power to choose either.” This is what I love about getting around my business partner in person–he makes me laugh every time and we laugh together much. That is special and I recommend finding people like that and being around them as often as you need to. In addition to this, funny movies are great too, along with Comedy Central, funny YouTube or other channel videos, and more. Last night I watched a favorite, Down Periscope, and laughed all over again.

One more simple, effortless way is again from Wayne: “The last suit that you wear, you don’t need any pockets.” Great insight into what is important in life. IT’S LIFE! Everything else is trivial in comparison. When you’re in the casket, does it matter to you how much money you had or how famous you were, or how many problems you had? It just doesn’t matter. What matters is feeling alive and living your life and having a ball doing it and having control, and the way to have control is by these simple, effortless things that make you the pinball machine instead of the ball.

“You Cannot Always Control What Goes On Outside. But You Can Always Control What Goes On Inside.”

— Wayne Dyer

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