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Finding The Cure Not Masking The Symptoms

When I was a child, the grandfatherly advice was, “if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.” That's good, but it doesn't go far enough and it doesn't fix the problem, as it is more like masking the symptoms. A better thought might be, “find something nice about everyone you meet, and find ways to let them know.”

The Flowering Of The Heart

“As the little daisy opens its heart to the sun
and is thereby made into a flower of beauty…
do I likewise open my heart to God
and thereby made into
God's image of love?

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

A Prayer Of Thankful Love

“Thank you Lord,
for the inner loneliness
that led me to your quiet Presence.
For the drab despair of colorless life
that urged me toward inner Joy.
For illness
that inspired a desire for health.
For toxic anger
that forced me to find the
peace of forgiveness.
For the hurting love of many,
that set me on a search
for your transforming Love.
Thank you, Lord,
for teaching me
that Love is the purpose of life and
that as I attune my will to yours
my inner splendor grows.”

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflection 172
Reflections of the Heart

Love Is Always The Better Way

“In the old days, it was not called the Holiday Season;
the Christians called it 'Christmas' and went to church;
the Jews called it 'Hanukkah' and went to synagogue;
the atheists went to parties and drank.
People passing each other on the street would say,
'Merry Christmas!' or 'Happy Hanukkah!'
or (to the atheists) 'Look out for the wall!'”
— Dave Barry
[Classic post from 12-24-10)
I saw this quote a week or so ago and thought it was very funny. . . look out for the wall. . . that's funny stuff. So, I never thought seriously about using it until tonight.
I was at a local event where people gathered and many of the same people come to this event. I was there early, and greeted people coming in, and said 'Merry Christmas!' to all that I greeted. A gentleman who is a regular, after my greeting, said something odd that I cannot remember, but it was curious. I just had the impression that he was not interested in Christmas because it is a religious holiday. But, I didn't think much of it as I like this gentleman and I was glad to see him.
A few minutes later, it was getting full in the area we were in and a woman came in with two friends and they were joyous and greeting some of the other people they know and this woman greeted this man, and said 'Merry Christmas,' and I didn't hear it directly, but later found out that he said, 'why don't you leave Christ out of it!' Well, this lady loudly called him an a**hole, which got everyone's attention. He seemed a bit embarrassed, but she was obviously mad. Then her friend was mad and fuming about his remark and so on.
What do you think of that scenario? I think it is interesting. Her comments certainly are an argument, but is that a strange way to defend Christ or Christianity? I think it is strange and also extremely ineffective. I guess the quote with Dave Barry is another way, and although way funnier, may still be a strange way.
Maybe this is a better way:
“May you have the gladness of Christmas,
 which is hope;
The spirit of Christmas,
which is peace;
The heart of Christmas,
which is love.”
— Ada V Hendricks

“But Now Abide Faith, Hope, Love,
These Three;
But The Greatest Of These
Is Love.”

— 1 Corinthians 13:13,
The Bible

Spread Some Joy Today–Love is always the better way.

Taking Charge!

 “It is almost impossible for anyone,
even the most ineffective among us,
to continue to choose misery after
becoming aware that it is a choice.”
— William Glasser
[Classic post from 5-31-11]
I was talking with a friend today about awareness and enlightenment and how once we become truly aware of a thing such as cause and effect, it is nearly impossible to unlearn it.
It’s kind of like the flat earth theory. Once people became aware that the earth was actually round, they couldn’t very well go back to thinking it was flat. Belief in one idea often removes belief from something else.
Now that I am fully aware that I create my own happiness every second of every day, I cannot imagine going back to thinking that I need things or other people or the right circumstances to make me happy. I’ve learned that I am fully responsible and completely in charge of my happiness. No one can make me happy. I am the only one who can do that. I can’t even imagine going back to that old powerlessness.
Being In Charge Is A Wonderful Feeling!
Spread Some Joy Today–Choose to be in charge of your joy!

Words Of Encouragement

 “You have it easily in your power
to increase the sum total 
of this world's happiness now.
By giving a few words 
of sincere appreciation
to someone who is lonely or discouraged.
Perhaps you will forget tomorrow
the kind words you say today,
but the recipient may cherish them
over a lifetime.”
— Dale Carnegie
[Classic post from 3-23-11]
Unless it was a lot of money, I don't remember who gave me money for birthdays or other such occasions. I only remember a small number of the physical gifts that I've received over the many years. I think I might count them on one hand, and they had nothing to do with price, just how they matched my desires. I've forgotten almost every bit of advice I've received, and I have received a good deal of it.
Yes, all of those things hold little meaning to me, and probably to a great many people, but what I do remember and will always remember is those who really encouraged me to do, or to be better, or to keep going, or to keep writing, or whatever it may be. I find that I cherish those above all else. And, I also find it interesting that these encouragements are not all that plentiful that I could even begin to take them for granted.
This is one reason that I call myself a “professional encourager.” I'm not sure that means anything other than I try to encourage people where ever I find them and especially if they are looking like they could use a boost. Just to watch their eyes light up and a smile comes to their face is reward enough. Yet, the main reason that I have become such an encourager is that I know what it is like to get it and how it makes me feel, how it spurs me onward and how long it lasts. I want to give that same gift to everyone on the planet.
You know, there is enough negativity going on all around us, plus the pressures of survival in a fast-paced world. If you want to do something that people will remember, or that will matter, then give them some encouragement. It may just change a life, and yours in the bargain.
Sincere Encouragement Is A Pure Form Of Love.
Spread Some Joy Today–Now that you know how much a bit of encouragement can bring joy, make it a regular event! Become a joy spreader!

I Am Conscious Of My Ignorance

“To be conscious that you are ignorant
is a great step to knowledge.”

— Benjamin Disraeli

Today, I am very clear about the vastness of my ignorance, and at the same time, I am more confident than ever of that which I know. Interesting…

My ignorance is such an opportunity; however, I have no particular need to know everything.

Relaxing In Between

“We should all do what, in the long run,
gives us joy, even if it is only picking
grapes or sorting the laundry.”
— E. B. White
“Joy has no cost.”
— Marianne Williamson
[Classic post from 3-18-11]
I used to define joy is in jumping up and down, or thrilled with excitement, and such. I have come to know joy so differently now. In allowing myself to experience it, I find so many different levels of joy.
I love what E. B. White says about sorting the laundry. It reminds me of a neighbor we used to have who absolutely loved to iron clothes. It was something that gave her joy. I don't understand it, since ironing clothes to me is work with no real fun and little enjoyment. Isn't it interesting how we all love to do things that perhaps most of the world hates doing? I think it's fascinating.
So, we can find joy in doing something we enjoy. That's always a great way to get into joy. Yet, I have found an even simpler way and as Marianne Williamson says, it has no cost, and I add that it also requires no effort. Instead of effort, it is quite the opposite–it is in letting go, relaxing, being unconcerned.
I've learned to practice it in a lot of small ways in various circumstances. For example, I just took a long connecting airline flight and I used it a number of times on the airplane, in the airport, and any time that I began to feel a little tense. I would just close my eyes for a few moments and relax all my muscles and just pretend that I was holding on to something and now I am letting go of it. It is amazing how well that works and it costs nothing and takes no effort.
I find myself smiling inside. It may be happening on the outside as well, and it certainly feels like it. I am certain that that state of being has a positive and calming effect on those who happen to be near me. How fun and interesting this practice is.
Practice Relaxing In Between. It's A Respite.
Spread Some Joy Today–take a few 30-second respites today. It doesn't take much.

What A Dramatic Contrast!

When I accept that someone or something else created a problem for me, I feel powerless; however, when I accept responsibility for a problem or circumstance and look for what I wanted to learn from it, I grow powerful. What a dramatic contrast, don't you think? One makes me feel powerless, the other more powerful. Based on that, my choice is clear.

Joy Is A Decision And A Practice

“The most unknown, unused, and unrecognized
tool of the human mind is the recognition that
attitude is always a choice.”
— Mark Horton
“Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves
to recognize how good things really are.”
— Marianne Williamson
[Classic post from 3-17-11]
I get to talk to a lot of business people, such as managers, owners, and other employees and vendors. I see a number of people whose disposition indicates they are under stress, that the workload is high, or there are problems surrounding them, and more.
I would love to have a magic wand and touch them and take all the load off and let them be free. Truth is that we all have that magic wand, and we can only use it on ourselves. It doesn't work on others. So, all I can really do is touch myself with the wand and have a nice day myself and maybe, just maybe, they will see my joy and want some of that for themselves.
In the Declaration of Independence, there is a phrase, “pursuit of Happiness.” That's what I used to do as so many do: try to pursue happiness; seek it; chase it; long for it; do things that cause it, and so on. It's just that it never seemed to work like it was indicated that it would; i.e., that it can actually be caught.
The reality that I have found is that it isn't something outside ourselves, so it cannot be pursued. Instead, it is just a choice of choosing a joyous thought, then choosing some more and more again, and joy can be chosen any time and under any circumstances, as we desire once we realize that we have that power within us.
Workloads are workloads. They are not big and small except that we think that. There are no problems except that we think that.
Sometimes workloads may seem to overwhelm us. There are ways to find relief from that stress, and how choosing to view that positively is the only sure way toward relief. Other ways may be an escape, vacation, or other movements away, but they are always short-lived, and ultimately ineffective and unsuccessful.
A great way to begin is to find things to be grateful for right now. Make a list of the positive aspects of your life and the people in it. Choose a different view and it will have a different result, feeling, and experience. Then, practice it regularly.
It's Amazing How Good We Can Feel Under Trying Circumstances When We Choose To.
Spread Some Joy Today–Begin today to practice joy. First for a moment, then a minute, and so on. Pretty soon, people will wonder what happened.
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