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You May Be Far More Successful Than You Think

“A handful of pine seed will cover mountains
with the green majesty of forests. I too will set
my face to the wind and throw my handful of seed on high.”
 
— Fiona MacLeod (William Sharp)
 
 
“There may be more to life than having everything.”
 
— Maurice Sendak
 
 
 
[Classic post from 4-6-11]
 
Success is such a broad concept and so much of the talk and writing about it revolves around accomplishment and money. Having everything, or more commonly stated, having it all, is like the ultimate accomplishment.
 
I have a friend that I’ve now known for over 20 years. He is somewhat younger and so I’ve had the delight to watch him go from his young twenties into his forties. I hired him as a salesman when we first met and he listened to most of what I tried to teach and so has done very well. He’s done well not because of me, but himself. All I did was encourage him basically. I had the easy part.
 
We worked together for some years and have not for many more and in his job he is in a similar place to where he was then. It is just that he’s been doing it longer and has had some experiences to put in his bag of gathered knowledge and skills. I would say he is and has been a success at his job and career, but it isn’t the kind of success that is talked about and written about where large growth happens or larger financial success.
 
Yet, the thing that I respect and admire about him the most is the part that he is a superstar success in and that is as a father to his children and a loving husband to his wife. His career has always taken a second seat to that–except when I first met him, he had no wife or children.
 
He has always had a demanding job–demanding his time and focus and the pressure of needing to perform, but he has always taken that with ease as if it was no big deal. It was easy for him and a good part of his success at work was that with this ease, he was able to do his job, perform, AND schedule time for his family. He created a flexible environment where most in that work position would have become workaholics.
 
He went to school events, coached baseball for many years, and had two of his sons playing as well. Two and two. Two wonderful boys and two beautiful girls. He found ways to be there and to be part and to participate in growing up with them. They are in their teens now and I know that would have been so different had he not participated throughout the earlier years.
 
He’s a people person and loves his family and extended family and is active and a part of each and every one. He loves his customers as well and anyone who doesn’t love him just doesn’t know him at all. I’m so proud to call him a friend and we rarely see each other living some miles apart. Yet, I think loving thoughts of him and his wonderful family all the time.
 
To me, he is the epitome of success. He’s never had all the answers, but he is thoughtful and concerned, and caring. He’s a lover. He just loves people–all the people he ever comes in contact with. I think he really does have it all.
 
 
You May Be Far More Successful Than You Think.
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Become a lover today. Love everyone you see just for the fun of it. You might find it is worth doing every day.

The Spirit Of Love

“Love is the evolutionary hope
for humankind.
Gradually, humankind will learn
that as a human heart
is consecrated by Divine Love,
reborn in the Spirit of Love
and nurtured into full life
by cooperating and trusting
the God of Love in its flowering,
God's dream and human hope
will become a reality.”

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

Finding Fault In The Mirror

“We don't see things as they are,
we see them as we are.”

— Anais Nin

If you're overweight, maybe this will sound familiar: you go to the bathroom to take a shower and you undress and see yourself in the mirror and think that you've just got to lose this weight. You think it looks terrible. You hardly recognize yourself. You weigh yourself every day and pride yourself on losing half of a pound and chastise yourself for gaining an ounce, with vows to exercise, eat less, eat less fatty foods, and a very long list of excuses and justifications.

It's perfectly normal to look in that mirror and pick out all your physical faults–your lines, your sags, your spots, your hair, your posture, excess fat, whatever. The closer you look, the more faults are exposed.

I thought about the fat on my body and I started thinking about it being perfect. And, you know what? It is! The body is a work of perfection. You take in quantities of fuel (food) that is more than the body needs, and it becomes like a squirrel storing it up for the winter or another time when it may be needed. Its design stores that extra all over the body with an emphasis in certain areas near the stomach and intestines where it can be readily used quickly when needed. It is not flawed–it is operating perfectly.

This perspective filled me with new thoughts of praise. I began being thankful for the way I looked and how perfectly my body was dealing with the environment I gave it. 

Begin your day appreciating yourself and how perfect you are. That joy will rub off on everyone you encounter all day.

Shining Our Light Boldly

“As we let our light shine, we consciously give
other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence actually liberates others.”

— Marianne Williamson

As we grow, we allow and encourage others to do the same. As we experience and share our joy, we allow and encourage others to have joy. By the act of doing, we encourage others to do the same.

Go shine your lights boldly!

We Lead By Example. Be One.

Turning Criticism Into Growth

“Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming
that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.”

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“It ain't what they call you, it's what you answer to.”

— W. C. Fields

It doesn't matter what others think about what I do or do not do. It is my own thinking about what I do or do not do that matters. If I approve of me, that is all that is needed. If others approve too, the more the merrier, and if they don't, that's okay too. I'll celebrate their way for them. It is so empowering and comforting to be an allower.

Making Trouble A Friend

 “If I had a formula for bypassing trouble,
I would not pass it 'round.
Trouble creates a capacity to handle it.
I don't embrace trouble;
that's as bad as treating it as an enemy.
But I do say meet it as a friend,
for you'll see a lot of it
and had better be on speaking terms with it.”
 
— Oliver Wendall Holmes
 
 
 
[Classic post from 5-1-11]
 
The more I practice calmness in the face of trouble, the more friendly I become with it. I think this is the case because trouble is purely our reaction to a stimulus. Even calling it a problem or trouble is indicative of how we think about it. An opportunity would be a healthier way to view trouble or problems, and indeed, that would be what they truly are.
 
As we begin with one time of relaxing and even rejoicing, each one after that becomes easier and more fruitful. I want to get to the point where I am like W Clement Stone reacting with enthusiasm and joy with every encounter with an issue. This causes more and grander opportunities to be seen that are otherwise hidden. Get excited about what may come next instead of anticipating an unhappy arrival.
 
I know that sounds too easy, and it is! The only thing that is required is two things: One, a decision to begin looking at problems this way, and two, practice often!
 
 
“There Is No Education Like Adversity.” — Disraeli
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Get excited about problems today. That will shake things up.

Finding Out Who You Have

 “Coming together is a beginning;
keeping together is progress;
working together is success.”
 
— Henry Ford
 
 
 
[Classic post from 5-15-11]
 
I've seen this quote many times and then all of a sudden, today, it took on new meaning. I think it describes our relationships extremely well. I think it even describes an excellent marriage. I've seen so many that never get to the last part, but think the middle is the key. And, of course, everyone remembers the beginning!
 
It also describes business relationships and the successful ones, or lasting ones are always based on the working together part. The beginnings are all so easy, and staying together presents challenges and this is where most dabble and depart. The good news about that is finding out who your partners are and who they are not.
 
Any relationship that gets to the working together part is special and valuable. I know in my life, those are the ones that I value the most, whether I see them often or not.
 
 
Friendship. Love. Working Together.
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Make sure those relationships you value know it.

Practicing Owning My Own Feelings

“Own your own feelings. Nobody else does.
Accept that you don’t own the other person’s feelings.”

— Deepak Chopra

This quote is the single most profound personal help I ever learned. I learned it in my twenties back in the mid-1970s. I’ve never forgotten it and I have done my best to put it to good use in my life. However, there have been many, many times that after having this profound knowledge, decided to ignore it and blame others for my feelings while even being fully aware of that fact. I did it anyway.

Does that sound familiar? How many things that I learn that are so helpful that I also choose to ignore is interesting. And, here’s the best answer to that I have ever found:

“Practice is nine-tenths.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

As I practice on purpose what I have learned, it has a better chance of having a positive impact and influence on me and my behavior. So, if there is any work to learning, it is the constant internal nudging to put it into practice and practice it until it is known; until it becomes me.

Finding The Cure Not Masking The Symptoms

When I was a child, the grandfatherly advice was, “if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.” That's good, but it doesn't go far enough and it doesn't fix the problem, as it is more like masking the symptoms. A better thought might be, “find something nice about everyone you meet, and find ways to let them know.”

The Flowering Of The Heart

“As the little daisy opens its heart to the sun
and is thereby made into a flower of beauty…
do I likewise open my heart to God
and thereby made into
God's image of love?

— Donna F. Fletcher
Reflections of the Heart

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