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Living A Half-Full Attitude Toward Fullness

“The reason things 
always work out for the best, 
is because this is actually 
the highest of all spiritual laws. 
Any apparent exceptions 
are simply evidence 
that the work is still in progress.” 
— The Universe, 
aka, Mike Dooley 

[Classic post from 4-8-16]

As with so many things that we allow to be, the message above from Notes From the Universe came at a perfect time with the perfect message for me today.

So much of life is attitude and perspective. The glass can be half full or it can be half empty and both would be correct; however, they feel very different, and each perspective leads to a different result. And, though I feel that I was brought up by my parents in a half-empty mindset, I have endeavored throughout my adult life to have that half-full attitude of my life and to live it and teach it.

One could say that the half-empty mentality is living in and moving toward lack, while the half-full mind would be in appreciation of what is already here on their way toward abundance. And so it is with all of us in how we choose to view our daily lives and activities. 

But, what if the highest spiritual law–that law that God insists we have owned from birth–is true? Then the second part of Mike’s quote above is indeed the glass half full attitude. “Any apparent exceptions. . . ” Aren’t there always exceptions? I think there are always exceptions, and it is how we see, think, and thereby feel about those exceptions that determine all for us. “Any apparent exceptions, are simply evidence, that work is still in progress.” Amen to that! It’s on its way! I asked and I received and now it is in progress! How cool is that!

It is such a powerful tool toward happiness to develop and practice the attitude that things are always working out. It is one of the perfect affirmations to state many times throughout the day, “Everything is always working out for me!” Or, “Everything is always working out for our company!” Or, “Everything is always working out in our world!”

This one is going on my wall this morning.

As I Remember To Remember This Perspective And Attitude, I Am Renewed And Regenerated. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by seeing your glass half full and glowing.

Allowing The Best Within Us To Shine

“To belittle, you have to be little.” 
— Kahlil Gibran 

Here’s To Being The Best That Is In Us And Helping Those Who Desire To Come Along. 

Spread Some Joy Today–Think LOVE.

Another Perspective, Please!

“Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. 
Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth.”
— Marcus Aurelius
[Classic Post  3-25-16]
I was listening to someone’s opinion of what I was doing, and I have learned in the last few years to accept that for what it is–an opinion. It made me think of people standing in a circle and as they stand there focusing on what is in front of them, it is abundantly clear that each and every one of them has a unique and different perspective. Each would then have their own truth about what they see and their interpretation of it, whereas, someone in a different position would not agree with their opinion.
I think it is slightly important (just barely. . .) to consider what others viewpoints may be, if for no other reason than being aware that there would certainly have to be differences of opinion, different views of the same object or event, and so on to acknowledge there are other perspectives and interpretations.
In the final analysis, there is only one opinion that really matters and that is our own. Each of us is similar to the captain of a ship. A large ship may have a crew and even several officers that give advice and information, but when it comes down to it, the captain carries full responsibility for the decisions. Consider a ship where the captain is not fond of making decisions, has to consult with this person and that, being unsure of what to do and always looking for another perspective to consider. That ship would have the most difficult time just getting away from the dock, let alone out of the harbor.
Each of us is the captain in charge of our own voyage. Listening to other’s viewpoints and opinions can be helpful, but in due time, if we are to move ahead, we need to rely on and trust in our own opinion.
Bon Voyage!
Spread Some Joy Today–Decision-making is always the most sought-after quality and the most highly paid too. Got decisions?

The Difference Between Compassion And Sympathy

“We only have what we give.” 
— Isabel Allende 

[Classic post from 6-15-16]

I had a thought and wrote it down the other day to contemplate it further. Here's what I wrote: What's the difference between compassion and feeling sorry for someone?

Etymologically speaking, there is little difference. Com-passion is to be with or be together in pain and suffering. The original use of passion was in reference to the suffering of Christ at the time of the crucifixion, hence the name of that massively popular Mel Gibson movie. Much later it was used to describe sexual desire, and later still, in the number one slot on, it is, “any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate.”

Then compassion, in the way I've come to understand it, and I have a large amount of company, is to love another unconditionally in their current situation. It's no longer about having pity for them, as in feeling sorry for them, or sorrow for them, and it is certainly not about feeling their pain or suffering directly as in sympathy. It is more like recognizing the other, seeing that they are perhaps in a situation that is not the best for them while holding them up as in prayer for their healing and well-being.

So then, feeling sorry for someone is to have pity on them and compassion is to pour love on them. Other than thought and feeling, either of these may contain action or activity; however, I would want only to receive that action that is accompanied by compassion.

The Dalai Lama XIV said it well: “A truly compassionate attitude toward others does not change even if they behave negatively or hurt you.”

I think that a feeling sorry attitude wouldn't care in the least.

“There Is No Exercise Better For The Heart Than Reaching Down And Lifting People Up.” — John Holmes 

Spread Some Joy Today–by carrying compassion with you in your heart.

To Be Christlike Is To Love Unconditionally

is like taking poison, 
and waiting 
for the other person to die.” 
— Malachy McCourt 

[Classic post from 6-7-16]

I'm guessing that the Bible has been interpreted in so many different ways as to be whatever anyone wants it to be or to say. It is also probably the most quoted book in all of history. As well, there are many facets of religions that surround and attach themselves to parts of the Bible. In addition, the Bible has been used in healing and as a weapon, as it also has brought people together, and held them apart. As well, it continues to be those things today.

I was thinking about Christianity in general, and Christians specifically, partly from some reading of late, and mostly from personal interaction and experience in the same time frame.

It is said that a Christian is a follower of Jesus of Nazareth, termed The Christ, and known with the combined first name and the job description (Messiah or Christ) as Jesus Christ. And from my limited church training, I was to understand that to be a Christian is to be a follower of Christ (Jesus) and that the ultimate objective in this is to be as “Christ-like” as possible. In other words, to become as Jesus taught–to become like Him.

In all my studies of the Bible and countless other things, it has been my interpretation that to be Christlike is to love unconditionally. To love our enemies, to love our brothers and sisters, to love our neighbors, to love the less fortunate, to love ourselves. When I think of Jesus, I think LOVE. To me, He is the embodiment of that which is love, and not just any kind of love, but agape love, or what I term as unconditional love. To love in spite of. To love in lieu of. To allow others to be as they choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy me.

It's a high goal. It's challenging. We might think it is more challenging today with all that is going on in our instant communication world, but I think it has always been challenging. It requires a choice–to choose to allow, to love, and to forgo ourselves, and by forgoing ourselves, I don't mean to be selfless, because that often takes away loving ourselves. What I mean by forgoing ourselves is the last line in the last paragraph: To allow others to choose for themselves, without any insistence that they satisfy us. That IS unconditional love.

So, when I see or hear of Christians, and especially those who have claimed that for a long time, or leaders in their church, who are resentful and angry at other people, tearing down the other's buildings so theirs can be the tallest and so much more, I wonder what their definition of being a Christian is. And, of course, this doesn't just apply to Christians, but all people really.

To see brothers and sisters at odds with one another because of something as simple and yet so powerful as a thought. And when that thought is thought often enough, it becomes a belief. As it becomes a belief, it guides our actions, as all of that determines our character. It is sad to see the separation of people in this way, but it is their choices that I honor, whatever they may be.

If I could be even the tiniest influence to those that I touch, it would be my ultimate objective, passion, and desire to remind people of the depth, joy, and reverence of unconditional love. And, that to be Christlike is to be that, live that, spread that, and grow that love–practice that. Because, I really do think that when it all comes down to the basic foundation of all of life, it is love that is the energy that runs the entire show, and as we line up with the vibration of that energy, we thrive, and as we are out of harmony with it. . . well, that is the rest, isn't it? Or maybe the word is unrest. 

If Jesus Is Love, If God Is Love, Then We Are Love. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by being willing to practice allowing the joy within you to touch others today, and every day.

Being Fully Alive!

“The Glory of God
a human being fully alive.” 
— Saint Irenaeus 

[Classic post from 5-29-16]

I was thinking about platitudes, and then along comes this quote above. Seems to fit perfectly in my mind as a platitude. I mean, what is that all about? What did Saint Irenaeus really mean by saying, “fully alive.” I’m assuming that he meant something more than having a pulse and breathing in and out. But, what exactly? What does it mean to be fully alive?

Maybe it means something as simple as enjoying our life. Would a Christian early church leader who died in 202 A.D. say that? Hmmm. I think not. Would it mean to be more giving? Giving more? More loving? Loving more? More devout? More enthusiastic?

Maybe it is knowing our priorities and following through. Or maybe it was to be more physically fit, strong, and/or healthy. Perhaps it means to be more active in the community–a valued participant in affairs outside our own little world. It could be that fully alive means to love God more, or even recognize there is a God.

Who knows? It’s one of those phrases that sounds like it is saying so much, and being so profound, and yet, nobody knows what it means. People may even go around repeating it, and others might think that they know what it means, afraid to admit that they don’t get it. How many times have we done that in our lives? I know I certainly have.

So, what it comes down to is that, in my opinion, the phrase to be fully alive doesn’t mean anything, unless you give it some kind of meaning yourself.

Go For It. Make Your Own Definition Of What Being Fully Alive Means. That Will Be What It Means. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by feeling fully alive? Maybe. Maybe that’s where joy lives.

Letting Go Is The Ultimate Release

“Psychotherapy seeks 
for an improvement 
in neurotic balance. 
Letting go, however, 
eliminates it all together.” 
— David R. Hawkins 

[Classic post from 7-6-16]

I love the visual analogy of the rope and the game of tug-o-war. The rope, and what it is attached to is all about resistance. And, just like the game of tug-o-war, resistance has a value or a better way to say that might be that it has its rewards. It’s not a zero-sum game, but a game of winners and losers much like any other game. The more you resist the tug from the opponents, the longer you’re in the game with the potential to overcome their resistance and win.

Psychotherapy then would be staying in the game, but understanding your place in it better. Psychotherapy would be learning to be full of resistance and not feel so uptight about it. You might even learn to enjoy the feel of the rope, appreciate the smell of the sweat, and the building up of the muscles. In other words, psychotherapy would be finding the value, or as much value as possible in the resistance, in the game, and if there be a setback by losing this game, to be sane enough to get back in the game and give it a go again, perhaps with improved skill, insight, or enjoyment.

Letting go of the rope is to let go of any and all neurosis. Who needs it? Its source is, in fact, resistance after all. Letting go of the resistance is letting go of the illness. Letting go of the rope is also releasing the rewards we found in the game, yet in letting go of the resistance, we realize that those rewards were hollow and unsatisfying. Letting go opens up a universe of possibilities in well-being.

Why learn how to live with the issue when you can just as easily and far more fruitfully just let it go. Give it no more energy. Lay down the rope and turn and walk away. See the horizon. Enjoy your renewed and expanded life.

Any Similarities In You? Don’t Analyze It Anymore. Just Let It Go. It’s A Brave New World. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by letting go of your resistance to feeling joy more often. Once released, you will find joy in the simplest of things and situations. How cool is that?

When Patience Is In Full Bloom

“Dear brothers,
is your life full of difficulties and temptations?
Then be happy,
for when the way is rough,
your patience has a chance to grow.
So let it grow,
and don’t try to squirm out of your problems
For when your patience is finally in full bloom,
then you will be ready for anything,
strong in character, full and complete.”

— James 1:2-4, the Bible

[Classic post from 8-23-12]

Stuff happens. It’s inevitable. We certainly could have attracted it unknowingly, and in all reality, it simply doesn’t really matter where the current circumstances came from. It is just that they are here right now.

Who knows what it is or how many there are one upon another? A loved one in a hospital with serious illness, a lost employment position, a foreclosure, a bankruptcy, more bills than you have funds for, a deadline you can’t meet, and so many more. We all have some of these things going on somewhere in our lives. Maybe in our face, on the horizon, around the next corner, it matters not. What does matter is not what they are or the fact they are here or looming. What matters is how we think about them, respond or react to them.

The quote above indicates to get excited about our problems and be happy for the blessings that they contain in results, changes, and even personal growth.

It sounds crazy to get excited and be thankful for getting fired, but crazy sounding or not, it is a powerful and positive choice that holds the brightest and wisest future in its grasp. Any other response will provide less, and often keep the problem in tow longer than desired.

If you’re a Christian, I strongly suggest to go get a copy of the book by Merlin R. Carothers titled Power In Praise, How the Spiritual Dynamic of Praise Revolutionizes Lives. My copy has so many underlines, margin notes, stars, and so on to remind me to reread that part again and again. If you’re not a Christian, read it anyway and you can substitute Universe for God, and such. It will still be powerful and even life-changing.

This is the first book that taught me about being thankful for problems and challenges along with the so-called good things. Since that is not how most of the world responds, we have been well-trained to be unhappy, perhaps even devastated when these negative things come around, but take joy in the fact that you can be different, and you can find a better way. I practice now all the time. I may not react or respond immediately, but when I allow myself to consider the situation, I remember to be thankful for it, accept it and begin to find joy in it. I can’t wait for the day when I go there without needing to think about it. In the meantime, I take the joy as it comes.

It always seems to work out for the best. I’ve found that even the most initially traumatic things turn out to be the best thing that could have happened. Isn’t that interesting…

Being Thankful In Everything, Changes Everything!

Spread Some Joy Today–Make a list of your current problems or situations that bother you. After you’re done, write in large letters at the top of the page: Things and Situations That I Am Thankful For: Then, take another look at each entry and see how different they look

Underestimating What We Deserve

“You have underestimated 
what you deserve.” 
— Alan Cohen

[Classic post from 5-30-16]

It's a case of artificial limitation. We made it up. We made it up when we desired it, and we made it up when we told ourselves that we don't deserve it, that we are unworthy of it.

I love this bit from Abraham, Esther Hicks: “You have heard of buyer's remorse? I really could be more accurately called desirer's remorse.”

Desirer's remorse is having a desire but not maintaining the vibrational frequency of it. You are letting the reality that you are observing control your vibrational atmosphere, and therefore you are not staying up to speed with your own desire. Your desire isn't wrong. You didn't make a mistake. You just didn't stay up to speed with your desire.”

I have had this happen many, many times. I have a desire, then within a few minutes, I begin to talk myself out of it, making lists of why this won't work, why I don't deserve it, how I can't even imagine it very clearly because, because, because.

Another supporting bit comes from Mike Dooley, aka The Universe, where he writes, “It's so tempting to look at your present life situation, at whom you're with, at where you work, at what you have and have not, and think to yourself, “This was obviously meant to be. . . I'm here for a reason.” And to a degree, you'd be right. But you are where you are because of the thoughts you used to (and may still) think, and so you are where you are to learn that this is how life works–NOT because it was meant to be.”

He continues with the most important part: “Don't give away your power to vague or mysterious logic. Tomorrow is a blank slate in terms of people, work, and play, because it, too, will be of your making. You will again have that sense that it was meant to be, no matter who or what you've drawn into your life. Nothing is meant to be, except for your freedom to choose and your power to create.”

I love that line, “Don't give your power to vague or mysterious logic. Tomorrow is a blank slate. . .” We often use vague or mysterious logic on ourselves. We need not be the least concerned about what others think of our choices, because our own ego has plenty of vague and mysterious logic to chill us to the bone.

In all cases like this, it is our own artificial limitations. There are no real limitations, only those that we imagine in our heads. There are thousands of examples of people who have not only overcome but have gone far beyond limitations.

You Could Be The Next One To Share Your Story. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by taking a deep breath. . . maybe two or three. Think about something that feels good when you think it. There it is. It's your joy peaking out within.

Love Is Always The Perfect Choice

“You are defined 
by who you love, 
not who loves you.” 

[Classic post from 5-27-16]

Another way to say this is, we are defined by what we give, not what we get. I like how Alan Cohen puts it: “The more you align with your values, the more people and things you value will align around you.”

Perhaps another way to say it is that when we are giving, when we are loving, when we are allowing, we need not be the least concerned about what comes back to us in quantity or quality. And, I am sure that whatever quantity and quality it is will be more than enough.

Can someone be loved but not loving? Certainly. They could stay in that unloving state for their entire lives if they wanted to, but that doesn't change the fact that they can be loved.

And that's where it is. It is in our loving of the other, regardless of anything, that says who we really are. I suppose you'd have to say that the opposite is true too; however, I would have to add that this is the way they are choosing to be, but not the way they really are. When we get down to who we really are, there is nothing but love.

Love Is Always The Perfect Choice

Spread Some Joy Today–by choosing to let the real you out for a while.

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