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What We Pray For. What We May Receive.

“Let me ask you something.
If someone prays for patience,
do you think God gives them patience?
Or does He give them the opportunity to be patient?
If he prayed for courage,
does God give him courage,
or does He give him opportunities to be courageous?
If someone prayed for the family to be closer,
do you think God zaps them with warm fuzzy feelings,
or does He give them opportunities to love each other?”
— God
as played by Morgan Freeman
in the movie, Evan Almighty
[Classic post from 1-31-11]
Do we just give our kids money, or do we show them ways to earn it and thereby have some respect for it and understand value more clearly? Do we allow our children, our sales staff, our employees to learn by allowing them to make mistakes so they can learn better ways? Or, do we step in and do it for them, so that we know it is done according to our own plan regardless of how little they learn that way?
Or, how about ourselves? Are we longing for the easy way, when we know full well that the other way will create a foundation to step up on? Are we looking for a savior?
If you were starting up a company from scratch and using your own capital or bootstrapping it, would you constantly long for enough money to pay people and be done with the struggle? Or might the struggle have some of the most valuable lessons of the whole journey?
I used to long for all those savior moments, wanting it to be over and someone else to do the work or make things happen. Then recently, something changed. All of a sudden, it became clear to me that these things weren’t struggles at all. It was just a challenge to be able to view it differently; more creatively. Then, it became even more clear that it was not even so much of a challenge as an advantage. Now, just look at that transition! Did it go from a struggle to a challenge to an advantage? Maybe I’m losing it!
Truly, I’m beginning to see some of the things that I go through in my business and my personal life as advantages instead of the struggles that once were. It is this change in thinking that I am so very excited about because it is showing me the value of travel that I would have never seen otherwise.
I now know for certain that it is all perfect.
I Now Have An Advantage: My New Perspective.
Spread Some Joy Today–Everything is really how you perceive it. We indeed create our own individual realities.

Allowing The World Within To Assert Itself

“There's no reality except the one contained within us.
That's why so many people live an unreal life.
They take images outside them for reality and
never allow the world within them to assert itself.”
— Hermann Hesse
[Classic post from 12-11-11]
I love this quote by one of my favorite authors, Hermann Hesse. On the surface, it seems heavy but is so simple and true. Today was a perfect example to me of how true it is.
Today, I had the most wonderful day. People that read the Daily Inspirations probably aren't impressed with that because I pretty much have a good day every day. Yet, today was dramatically better, and the thing that made it better is that I woke up this morning with a firm intent to fully enjoy myself and my day–to seek joy and to love life. And, so it came to be as I desired it to be. . . exactly.
You know, sometimes we eat food, even food we love in such a way that no one could know that this was true. At breakfast this morning I was enjoying some sourdough french bread and butter with the same relish as Bill Murray did in What About Bob? I stood there in the kitchen with the toast and some coffee and just had a love affair with it all. It was glorious.
The rest of the day went the same direction, and I enjoyed every second of it. It was magical. I felt rich today. I was far more generous than normal. I helped others in ways I normally wouldn't do and even enjoyed some work time at a leisurely pace.
For the last couple of years, I've been focused on finding ways to feel better on purpose as a strategy to have a more joyous life. I've practiced it generally, but nothing like today–or maybe now I'm just getting good at it from the practice. Today it made such a dramatic difference, so I will duplicate it tomorrow to prove it isn't a fluke.
Wouldn't It Be Nice To Have A Glorious Day Any Time You Choose?
Spread Some Joy Today–Choose to today. See what happens.

Wisdom: Learning What To Overlook

“Wisdom is learning what to overlook.”
— William James
[Classic post from 12-3-11]
I absolutely love this definition of wisdom by William James. I've always known it was discernment and that is easily expressed as a choice in my mind, and as well, learning what to overlook follows in that same way.
The main reason that I love this definition of wisdom is that I've come to believe that having wisdom is equal to love and where love is concerned, I think knowing what to overlook speaks perfectly to this subject.
Love And Wisdom Are Perfectly Aligned
Spread Some Joy Today–Find some ways to laugh a good deal today. Watch a funny video online, read something funny, or better yet, laugh at yourself. It softens everything else in your day.

Renewing Our Perspective

“Celebrity gives us delusion of self-importance.”
— Al Goldstein
[Classic post from 12-2-11]
The photo above is one of my favorites to help keep me in the proper perspective of the vastness of the world and beyond. There I am but a dinky speck above the huge Pacific Ocean–a small bit of it at least.
It’s easy to live in our own world, up close and personal, become engaged in reacting and responding to the stimuli around us. It is a very good thing to step outside of that comfort zone or war zone for just a few hours to realign with the grander scheme of things.
It also makes God so much more than we many times make Him out to be.
The World Knows I’m Much More Important To Myself
 Spread Some Joy Today–Get away for a bit and change your perspective for a few hours.

Habitual Appreciation

“To say, “well done” to any bit of good work
is to take hold of the powers which have made the effort
and strengthen them beyond our knowledge!”
— Phillips Brooks
[Classic post from 12-21-11]
Some time back, I gave up on big changes, looking for epiphanies as life changers. Tonight I realized something profound in the smallest of changes that become a seriously powerful agent for positive change–appreciation and praise. Now, I’ve known this for some time, so it really isn’t new, but what I realized tonight was that I have begun doing it as a habit instead of consciously deciding to do it. I realized that I was doing it as I became conscious of my doing it. I can’t tell you how powerful that is–to be doing in unconsciously as a matter of course.
Those cartoons in the newspaper when I was young that had a chaotic situation going on with the caption, ‘What’s wrong with this picture?’ along with other things like that including teaching by parents, etc., created this idea to find things that were wrong or seemingly out of place and then focus on those. It is one of the least powerful things we can do and it creates a world that is full of flaws and always in need of repair.
A far better scenario is to find the things that are worthy of appreciation and praise and they would be in serious quantity with a bit of practice. Tonight I was just driving across town about 2 miles on my way home and I was appreciating and praising all the way home about how nice the new building looks where there was something not nearly so nice before, how this improved and that, how much I enjoyed the blue sky, the truck I was driving, the amazing transportation most of us have, how long some businesses have been around and still doing their thing and so much more. It was kind of amazing to catch myself in this rampage of appreciation.
How fun! How rewarding!
Isn’t That The Real Value Of Practice? To Get So That You Don’t Even Think Much About It Anymore?
Spread Some Joy Today–Begin practicing appreciation of things in your life today at work, while you’re out and about, at home, about the world in general. Do this often and watch the change in you!

Understanding Faith and Sharing Joy

“We shall see but a little way if we
require to understand what we see.”

— Henry David Thoreau

“I know this world is ruled by infinite intelligence.
Everything that surrounds us–everything that exists–
proves that there are infinite laws behind it.
There can be no denying this fact.
It is mathematical in its precision.”

— Thomas A Edison

“Faith Is Not Belief Without Proof,
But Trust Without Reservations.” 

— Elton Trueblood

Spread Some Joy Today–by sharing yours. It’s the only way.

The Art Of Living

“The art of living does not consist in preserving
and clinging to a particular mode of happiness,
but in allowing happiness to change its form
without being disappointed by the change.”
— Charles Morgan
[Classic post from 12-28-11]
I love this quote by Charles Morgan. I have learned it well; albeit, most of my life, I clung to a great many particular modes or requirements. Now I think I could choose to be happy under almost any circumstance, and I believe this because I've been practicing doing just that.
To me, this quote speaks of unconditional love and also allowing or being very flexible.
It is so darn easy to love the lovable. It is so darn easy to be happy under pleasing circumstances of my choosing. However, to have plans change mid-stream, or have others inject their preferences, it could be an opportunity for a little pouting, or attempted manipulation, or just plain being a disagreeable person.
What really sets our love apart, demonstrating to all our flexibility and allowing is to have changes come unexpectedly and yet consciously change our thinking to choosing happiness and joy based on the new criteria.
If you're an avid pouter as I was, people will be very surprised by your new flexibility and cheerful demeanor even under trying circumstances. And, you will know better than anyone what a joy it is to have that full level of control in choice and response.
How Easily And How Curiously We Go From Plan A to Plans D, E or F Is A Very Important Skill.
Spread Some Joy Today–Changing is easier when you do a little at a time. The key is to keep going.

Allowing Love To Enter A Larger Arena

“I think love has something to do with allowing
a person you claim to love to enter a larger
arena than the one you create for them.”
— Sting
[Classic post from 12-29-11]
Love is such a fascinating thing. I am continually amazed by the idea of love and its various aspects and values. It's like I'm observing and participating at the same exact time.
One aspect I've seen that is so interesting is that sometimes I can love someone from afar more than I could if they were near. I think it is as Sting is saying, it is allowing the loved one to be more than I might have them be. As Gerald Jampolsky said, “love is the total absence of fear. Love asks no questions. Its natural state is one of extension and expansion, not comparison and measurement.”
Do you ever just think of someone from the past, or someone whom you haven't seen in a long time and then experience a strong outpouring of love for them? Do you think they feel that? Somehow I think they do. Have you noticed how you feel about them when you do see them and how that same feeling and outpouring is only enhanced, yet still may be mostly internally shared? In other words, the external expression is too little to show how you feel?
I've also heard it said very poetically by Wayne Dyer, “love is the ability and willingness to allow others that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you.” The only way this happens is without fear and allowing them to enter that larger arena than the one we create for them.
Sometimes Not Being There Can Be More Powerful And Loving. By Letting Go, We Gain So Much More.
Spread Some Joy Today–by loving everyone you can whether near or far.

A Good Partner Is Someone Who…

“A good wife is one who serves her husband
in the morning like a mother does,
loves him in the day like a sister does,
and pleases him like a prostitute in the night.”
— Chanakya
[Classic post from 12-17-11]
I remember when I was in my late teens, at work my boss said something very similar to this quote by Chanakya. It is a popular idea, and I probably subscribed to it for at least part of my life, but not for some time.
I would say it differently today:
I want a partner who is of similar mind, yet not so similar that we complete each other’s sentences, and have interests and challenges that help cause curiosity and excitement. Someone who is alive, full of life, and appreciative of life and living. Someone who is fun to be with, who makes me laugh, and is full of love. Someone who encourages and wants the best for me and her at the same time. Someone who is willing to risk in order to expand and be more than yesterday. Someone who enjoys touch and is sensual. Someone who enjoys friends and is generous in nature. Someone I look up to and look forward to. Someone without jealousy, and never ever uses the word ‘should.’ A valued partner, an enriching friend, a lover of life, and a liver in love.
That’s all… of course, in order for that to work, I must be those things as well. I cannot expect others, no matter their title, to do that which I am not willing or interested in doing or being.
Happiness Is Being Happy! That Was Easy!
Spread Some Joy Today–Think about this: What are the rules for you to have joy? What needs to happen? How do things need to be? The more rules you have, the less joy you can have.

Becoming The Rightful Master

“Man is buffeted by circumstances
so long as he believes himself
to be the creature of outside conditions,

but when he realizes that he is a creative power,
and that he may command the hidden soil
and seeds of his being out of which circumstances grow;

he then becomes the rightful master of himself.”

— James Allen,
As A Man Thinketh

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