Category: Courage

You May Be Far More Successful Than You Think

“A handful of pine seed will cover mountains
with the green majesty of forests. I too will set
my face to the wind and throw my handful of seed on high.”
 
— Fiona MacLeod (William Sharp)
 
 
“There may be more to life than having everything.”
 
— Maurice Sendak
 
 
 
[Classic post from 4-6-11]
 
Success is such a broad concept and so much of the talk and writing about it revolves around accomplishment and money. Having everything, or more commonly stated, having it all, is like the ultimate accomplishment.
 
I have a friend that I’ve now known for over 20 years. He is somewhat younger and so I’ve had the delight to watch him go from his young twenties into his forties. I hired him as a salesman when we first met and he listened to most of what I tried to teach and so has done very well. He’s done well not because of me, but himself. All I did was encourage him basically. I had the easy part.
 
We worked together for some years and have not for many more and in his job he is in a similar place to where he was then. It is just that he’s been doing it longer and has had some experiences to put in his bag of gathered knowledge and skills. I would say he is and has been a success at his job and career, but it isn’t the kind of success that is talked about and written about where large growth happens or larger financial success.
 
Yet, the thing that I respect and admire about him the most is the part that he is a superstar success in and that is as a father to his children and a loving husband to his wife. His career has always taken a second seat to that–except when I first met him, he had no wife or children.
 
He has always had a demanding job–demanding his time and focus and the pressure of needing to perform, but he has always taken that with ease as if it was no big deal. It was easy for him and a good part of his success at work was that with this ease, he was able to do his job, perform, AND schedule time for his family. He created a flexible environment where most in that work position would have become workaholics.
 
He went to school events, coached baseball for many years, and had two of his sons playing as well. Two and two. Two wonderful boys and two beautiful girls. He found ways to be there and to be part and to participate in growing up with them. They are in their teens now and I know that would have been so different had he not participated throughout the earlier years.
 
He’s a people person and loves his family and extended family and is active and a part of each and every one. He loves his customers as well and anyone who doesn’t love him just doesn’t know him at all. I’m so proud to call him a friend and we rarely see each other living some miles apart. Yet, I think loving thoughts of him and his wonderful family all the time.
 
To me, he is the epitome of success. He’s never had all the answers, but he is thoughtful and concerned, and caring. He’s a lover. He just loves people–all the people he ever comes in contact with. I think he really does have it all.
 
 
You May Be Far More Successful Than You Think.
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Become a lover today. Love everyone you see just for the fun of it. You might find it is worth doing every day.

Not Knowing How Is What Requires Faith

 “All you have to do is know where you're going.
The answers will come to you of their own accord.”
 
— Earl Nightingale
 
 
“When we are sure that we are on the right road
there is not need to plan our journey too far ahead;
no need to burden ourselves with doubts and fears
as to the obstacles that may bar our progress.
We cannot take more than one step at a time.”
 
— Orison Swett Marden
 
 
 
 
[Classic post from 4-5-11]
 
Mike Dooley, a favorite author who just published a great book called, Manifesting Change, calls it the “curs-ed how's” when we get involved in how to do things. We start analyzing and trying to figure things out and much of the time, we don't know how a thing will be done and so not knowing how causes so many to stop until they do. But the thing they miss is that the how's are not very important in the scheme of things. It is more the desire, the vision, and the inspiration to move toward them that really makes all the difference. It is amazing how we can learn as we go and the how's become clearer as we move forward.
 
In fact, I would even go so far as to say that if we know how to do a thing, it isn't much worth doing. It certainly wouldn't be inspiring, and probably not much fun or very interesting either. Maybe it's the “f” word, faith. Surely it could never be faith if we knew how, so it can only be faith when we don't know how.
 
Another interesting thing about the how's, is that as we pursue a vision, act on our inspired thoughts, we will find ways to get things done that would have never occurred to us. We may even exceed the vision that we could see at the beginning. I've certainly heard that from so many ultra-successful people, where they say they've achieved things beyond their wildest expectations and such.
 
So, next time you find yourself having a strong desire to do something, or a vision of the way you would like to see things, I suggest you avoid getting very intimate with the how's and focus on the desire and the vision, act on your inspired thoughts and you may very well be amazed at the outcome.
 
 
Life Is Such A Wonderful Adventure! Go For It!
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Relax in the confidence that you are totally in control of your life. You get to choose everything. There is sheer joy in that realization.

There Is No Security In Fear

“There can be no security where there is fear.”

— Felix Frankfurter

It's an interesting idea that people seek security from fear, or even fear of fear, yet if we really think about that, security cannot be of any service in that way. I know the idea is that having security is intended to alleviate fear, but does it really? It seems to me that the more security we try to acquire, the less secure we become; the more fear we fear, the more fear we accumulate.

To That, I Say, Lighten Up!

“Whenever a man does the best he can,
then that is all he can do.”

— Harry S Truman

Based on my own experience and my own vision in watching others, I know our number one problem is how we feel about ourselves when it comes to success and failure. It is partially driven by our self-talk, and the point I want to make here is that we can be our own worst enemy at times, and to that I say, lighten up!

A good way to do that is to model Harry Truman's phrase, and just do your best and let the rest be whatever it dang well wants to be. You're good. You're covered. There will always be more to do, more to achieve, missed deadlines, missed opportunities, and plenty of success as well. Give it your best shot and let that be good enough. Because if it is your best shot, there is no more to be had, so whoever may be wanting more will just have to look somewhere else for it.

Turning Criticism Into Growth

“Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming
that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted.”

— Ralph Waldo Emerson

“It ain't what they call you, it's what you answer to.”

— W. C. Fields

It doesn't matter what others think about what I do or do not do. It is my own thinking about what I do or do not do that matters. If I approve of me, that is all that is needed. If others approve too, the more the merrier, and if they don't, that's okay too. I'll celebrate their way for them. It is so empowering and comforting to be an allower.

Making Trouble A Friend

 “If I had a formula for bypassing trouble,
I would not pass it 'round.
Trouble creates a capacity to handle it.
I don't embrace trouble;
that's as bad as treating it as an enemy.
But I do say meet it as a friend,
for you'll see a lot of it
and had better be on speaking terms with it.”
 
— Oliver Wendall Holmes
 
 
 
[Classic post from 5-1-11]
 
The more I practice calmness in the face of trouble, the more friendly I become with it. I think this is the case because trouble is purely our reaction to a stimulus. Even calling it a problem or trouble is indicative of how we think about it. An opportunity would be a healthier way to view trouble or problems, and indeed, that would be what they truly are.
 
As we begin with one time of relaxing and even rejoicing, each one after that becomes easier and more fruitful. I want to get to the point where I am like W Clement Stone reacting with enthusiasm and joy with every encounter with an issue. This causes more and grander opportunities to be seen that are otherwise hidden. Get excited about what may come next instead of anticipating an unhappy arrival.
 
I know that sounds too easy, and it is! The only thing that is required is two things: One, a decision to begin looking at problems this way, and two, practice often!
 
 
“There Is No Education Like Adversity.” — Disraeli
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Get excited about problems today. That will shake things up.

Finding Out Who You Have

 “Coming together is a beginning;
keeping together is progress;
working together is success.”
 
— Henry Ford
 
 
 
[Classic post from 5-15-11]
 
I've seen this quote many times and then all of a sudden, today, it took on new meaning. I think it describes our relationships extremely well. I think it even describes an excellent marriage. I've seen so many that never get to the last part, but think the middle is the key. And, of course, everyone remembers the beginning!
 
It also describes business relationships and the successful ones, or lasting ones are always based on the working together part. The beginnings are all so easy, and staying together presents challenges and this is where most dabble and depart. The good news about that is finding out who your partners are and who they are not.
 
Any relationship that gets to the working together part is special and valuable. I know in my life, those are the ones that I value the most, whether I see them often or not.
 
 
Friendship. Love. Working Together.
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Make sure those relationships you value know it.

Reinventing Ourselves At Will

 “When I started,
I knew I was no actor
and I went to work on this Wayne thing.
It was as deliberate a projection as you'll ever see.
I figured I needed a gimmick,
so I dreamed up the drawl,
the squint and a way of moving
that meant to suggest
I wasn't looking for trouble,
but would just as soon
throw a bottle at your head as not.
I practiced in front of a mirror.”
 
— John Wayne
 
 
“I used to tremble from nerves so badly
that the only way
I could hold my head steady
was to lower my chin
practically to my chest
and look up at Bogie.
That was the beginning of The Look.”
 
— Lauren Bacall
 
 
 
 
[Classic post from 5-16-11]
 
It is easy to idolize famous people, especially when you've watched just about every movie they've ever made or every song they've ever sung and so on. We see all the success of their trade usually without the knowledge of the beginning part, or the times they missed the mark.
 
I love reading the quote above by John Wayne because he just invented his persona out of thin air and then rehearsed it so often that it became him. He also said, “I play John Wayne in every part regardless of the character.” That gave him a lot of practice.
 
Trying something new and unknown can be a fearful adventure or an interesting challenge. It is clear that for John Wayne and Lauren Bacall, it appears to have been both.
 
Often we might think that other people just get all the breaks and success, while we struggle for whatever we get. When we look a little deeper though, we find that they put their pants on one leg at a time, just being human like us.
 
If we sort of forget about the way things are supposed to be, or be who we think we ought to be, and instead, think about the way we want to be and let that come out, we will be so much better off. We can reinvent ourselves anytime we choose to.
 
 
People Do It All The Time…
 
Spread Some Joy Today–Is it time to reinvent a bit of yourself? What fun!

Our Constant Potential For Renewal

“For the most part,
people seem to think that life is linear,
that our capacities decline as we grow older,
and that opportunities we have missed
are gone forever.
Many people have not found their Element
because they don't understand
their constant potential for renewal.”

— Ken Robinson, Ph.D.,
from the book, The Element

Practicing Owning My Own Feelings

“Own your own feelings. Nobody else does.
Accept that you don’t own the other person’s feelings.”

— Deepak Chopra

This quote is the single most profound personal help I ever learned. I learned it in my twenties back in the mid-1970s. I’ve never forgotten it and I have done my best to put it to good use in my life. However, there have been many, many times that after having this profound knowledge, decided to ignore it and blame others for my feelings while even being fully aware of that fact. I did it anyway.

Does that sound familiar? How many things that I learn that are so helpful that I also choose to ignore is interesting. And, here’s the best answer to that I have ever found:

“Practice is nine-tenths.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

As I practice on purpose what I have learned, it has a better chance of having a positive impact and influence on me and my behavior. So, if there is any work to learning, it is the constant internal nudging to put it into practice and practice it until it is known; until it becomes me.

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