Category: Courage

Getting Out Of Drama Class

The drama triangle (Victim, Persecutor, Rescuer) is in action all around us and most of us don’t recognize it. Everyone’s favorite position is playing the Victim and moving from Victim To Persecutor and back again. There are many facets to this game of acting out. This unawareness continues the game as long as we remain ignorant of the game and that we are in the game. Once awareness of the game is in place, it is easy enough to stop playing the game by moving to the center and out of those dramatic roles. Habitual patterns are strong, but with awareness comes new strength.

There is no joy in the drama game; however, joy is always available to us any time we choose joy by moving into the peace, love, and harmony that exists outside of the drama triangle. We are the choosers.

The Whole Of You

“The difference between the man
who just cuts lawns and a real gardener
is in the touching.
The lawn-cutter might just as well not have been there at all;
the gardener will be there a lifetime.”

-– Ray Bradbury

I love biographies and have read hundreds of them of famous people and almost unknown people. It’s good to read about other people’s lives.

But, what I really love are autobiographies.

Sure, as one writes his or her own story, they soften some of the edges, but I don’t care.

What I care about is that the one who lived the life wrote about the life, and that legacy is their truth as they lived it, and I get to be the beneficiary of all their living perspective.

Whatever your legacy, I hope it contains a whole lot of you.

Returning To Love

Good day to you. This is a long one, yet a very important one I think. My wife died of ALS in August of 2013. She was a real challenge for the last two years prior to her passing in many ways, and I, as her full-time caretaker had so many opportunities to strike back from her incessant negative verbal and then written communications to me when she could no longer speak.

The huge benefit to me through all of that, which I carry with me today, was and is that I got to earnestly practice patience, unconditional love, peace, giving, forgiving, and, well, all those things that we know are in our best interest and that of others around us but we may find burdensome to practice. The goal becomes a challenge and thoughtful response instead of a challenge and personal attack or egoic reaction or trying to justify anything at all about our position in all of that.

Below is a letter i wrote to Nancy in December of 2012, and as you can see, not knowing it then, it was only a few months before she was gone. I hope this letter and the Daily Inspiration I posted the same day has some meaning and perhaps even inspiration for you. — My Love To All Of You, Terry

12-9-12

Nancy,

I want to apologize for my sarcasm yesterday about Pearl Harbor and the religious connotations that surround that. Then, I proceeded to make more fun of the Bible and your beliefs.

I wrote about that in today’s Daily Inspiration (attached below).

I am earnestly practicing my own new beliefs in unconditional love and peace and harmony, and yet sometimes, that old, cantankerous, argumentative, my-beliefs-are-more-right-than-yours attitude surfaces and it takes me a minute or two, sometimes three or four to hear what is coming out of my own mouth and then to relate that this is not what I really wanted to say.

The reason this came out and has before from time to time is a frustration I have when I see you powerless and helpless and not exercising or believing in your own internal, and in my opinion, God-given power, but instead relinquishing it to external authorities, such as the Bible, God, doctors, government, and this list goes on.

But, that’s not your problem. It’s mine. Frustration wants something to be one way and it is not. That place is not peace and it is not unconditional love. I need to always come back to love and peace and that way is to relax in my own power to allow myself and others to be who and what they are without having to satisfy me.

I am practicing in my unconditional love and personal peace. I will continue to practice even more. It is the place I most want to be. Forgive me for my outburst and belittling the concepts of life that you think important. I need to let you have all your beliefs and be totally at peace with that.

I love you as much now as ever,

Terry

Daily Inspiration from 12-9-12

“In order to experience peace
instead of conflict,
it is necessary
to shift our perception. . .
Many of our attempts to correct others,
even when we believe we are
offering
constructive criticism,
are really attempts
to attack them
by demonstrating
their wrongness
and our rightness.”

— Gerald Jampolsky

I found myself using blatant sarcasm, making fun of someone else’s beliefs about something because. . . well. . . it doesn’t matter why does it? It was not my finest hour and as I thought about it afterward, I saw the error of my mouth.

Of course, to me, some of those beliefs are just plain silly and really easy for me to make fun of; however, who the hell am I to stand in judgment of what someone else believes?

Since I’m a practicing proponent of unconditional love, I need to get more practice in, don’t I? Every single one of us has beliefs that others around us do not have. This is also true of nations of people and throughout the wide variety of cultures around the world.

The only way I can see the world really working is each of us allowing the other to have their beliefs, while they also, allow us to have our own.

Debating a belief is fine when both parties want to explore the other’s beliefs, but when someone wants to cling to theirs, I need to support their right to hold whatever belief they choose. Hopefully, that is returned, and we are at peace.

It is the perception of I’m okay and you’re okay that works the best.

I Knew That. I’ll Practice The Art Of Allowing More.

Spread Some Joy Today–Do something good, and unusual for someone.

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