Category: Choice

You Are Loved And Adored!

“That's how love works.
It can't be forced, manipulated, or coerced.
It always leaves room for the other to decide.”

— Rob Bell

It is impossible to not be loved. However, it is certainly possible to feel unloved. Feeling unloved has nothing to do with actually being loved. It has to do with fear, ego, habitual thinking, or learned patterns of thinking. Rest assured that you are loved. I love you. Anyone who knows me knows this to be true, and what is even greater, God loves you. In fact, God adores you. This is unconditional love. It cannot be forced. It cannot be manipulated. It cannot be coerced. This is because it is given without any thought of getting anything back. I know this to be true because only God is the ultimate allower. We are given free will. Have you ever really thought about this free will? Free will is the ultimate definition of unconditional love. Indeed, there could be no such thing as free will without it. They are the same thing, not two different things.

I hope that you don't have one, but if you do, next time you have an unloved feeling, close your eyes and open yourself to the depth of the love that God has for you. Pretend you're in a rowboat and the stream is moving smoothly downstream and you have been rowing and rowing and rowing trying to get upstream to where you think you want or need to go. Now, trust me on this, put the oars in the boat and relax and trust. Feel what that feels like to trust and to feel that you are going with the flow and all is well. Feel the boat being guided without any effort or thought on your part. You are being cared for and guided with the greatest skill and all that lay ahead is given freely and lovingly to you. All you need to do is release any resistance. That is all. That is what trust is–a releasing of resistance. Allow the joy of this experience to wash over you.

When you know truly how loved and adored you are, there is only one thing that you can do to show your delight and gratitude for this radiant light. You simply share this love until you are that love. Enjoy your journey!

The Difference Between Self-Help and Personal Development

“Your mission is to become better today
than you were yesterday.”

— John C. Maxwell

I think many get the Self-help genre and Personal Development confused. It's easy to do. But, I see them being quite different.

Self-help is where I go if I want to fix something about myself or of a thing or situation. You might classify many of these publications as “How-To” because they often have a solution or series of solutions for problems. In this case, we are beginning with something broken, not working right, not up to speed, lacking, something missing, I need help, I want to get fixed up, I want to change this thing, or the way I do things, the way I live, etc. We're looking for help, in need, desiring change.

Personal Development is very different to me in that it is an expansion from where I am. I am not looking to get help, but looking to learn more about me, the world, other people. I want to expand my knowledge, improve my skills, develop a wider view of life and my place in it. I'm good where I am, but I want to grow. To me, growth is life. It is succinct in one word: expansion. I want to expand.

Another way these two are separated might be stated as need (the word 'help' gives clues here) and desire (the word develop or development is telling)

Tuning In To Our Inner Guidance

“To see within ourselves,
we need to close our eyes
and feel our vibration.”

— Albert K. Strong

Resonance is a fascinating thing. It is a thing of beauty. It is Divine Guidance. It is Inspiration. It is a certain truth of truths that only we know within.

That's how we know. It resonates within us. It matches the tone of our inner knowing. It has the same vibration. It is in complete harmony. We don't need to think about it, because we know it by how it feels. You can feel the resonance. You can feel the out of tune-ness, or disparity that is the lack of resonance. It feels off. It feels out of tune. It feels like the vibrations don't match.

You Know It When It Resonates. When It Is A Vibrational Match Inside You. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by allowing your joy to flow. The only thing that can stop your joy from flowing is your thoughts. It is also your thoughts that allow your joy to flow. What are you thinking?

We Just Make It Up As We Go

“The Ego:

Edging God Out.” 
 
— Wayne Dyer
 

I was thinking that all of the problems in the world begin with one person disagreeing with another, then it can escalate to a group of people disagreeing with another group of people. All of that would be fine. Disagreement isn't a bad thing, It is, in fact, a good thing. Where it goes sour is when we believe that our reality is the only reality that is real and their reality is false and fake. And, then it gets messy when we try to enforce that edict on them, creating thousands of skirmishes large and small all over the globe. It's just one person's reality versus another person's reality. Both are each a choice in defining reality. Both are valid. We can agree to disagree. That is allowing.

The Ultimate Choice Is Love Or Fear. The Ultimate Reality Is Love And Love. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by being more allowing of other people's points of view–their reality. Allow them to choose for themselves in the same way that we feel we have the right to our own reality, our own NOG, our own NAI. Peace is often thought of as harmony or complete agreement. That is not possible. Peace is really only a lack of resistance. It is letting go of the rope. It is allowing. It is love. It is joy.

The Silliest Two-Word Phrase I Know

“Wars begin where you will
but they do not end where you please.” 

— Machiavelli

The phrase “war crimes” is a silly phrase and a completely crazy idea. There is no such thing to me as war crimes. War IS the crime.

Spread Some Joy Today. Make love your compass.

Seeking Harmony In All Things

“Three Rules of Work:
 
Out of clutter find simplicity. 
From discord find harmony. 
In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” 
 
— Albert Einstein 
 

[Classic post from 7-29-16]

These three rules could just as easily be about any aspect of life, whether it be our life at home, with our family, our friends, where we work every day, in any relationship, in any group we happen to be a part of, and even within our own minds as we consider our own inner dialog, and our thoughts about ourselves, and that world that is outside of ourselves.

Out of clutter find simplicity. It seems to be human nature to complicate rather than simplify, but once we realize what we are doing, we can choose to clarify, and in so doing find the simplicity. Everything is simpler than we make it, and when we can simplify things, clutter doesn’t have much of a chance. Neither does the drama.

From discord find harmony. It doesn’t matter what kind of relationship it might be, whether intimate or global, discord is easily achieved, but in all cases, it is harmony that is the holy grail. It doesn’t even need to apply only to relationships with people, but is perfectly appropriate in our relationship to things, to nature, to our world, our environment. Having harmony as our fundamental goal puts discord in its place by having it only be a reminder that harmony is our real objective.

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity. As with the idea of clutter, and the idea of discord, the idea of difficulty is best thought of as a reminder to look not at the thing that is vying for our attention; the clutter, discord, and difficulty, or we could look at that also as ‘what-is,’ or the ‘problem,’ but to look toward the solution which is not this. The solution is found in simplicity. The solution is found in harmony. The solution is found in seeing opportunity.

What a great message to write down and give it some of our energy. Another great sign for my wall, except I, will change it to the Three Rules of Life.

Simplicity. Harmony. Opportunity. Love. Peace. Joy. 

Spread Some Joy Today–because it’s Friday. Any excuse is a good one.

Simple Acts Of Kindness Have A Ripple Effect

“I've always believed 
 that brick walls 
are only for people 
 who don't care very much.” 
 
— Wayne W. Dyer 
 

[Classic post from 7-25-16]

I was watching an old YouTube video with Wayne Dyer on the Ellen Show, where he was talking about small acts of kindness and how far-reaching they can become. In this case, he was talking about his desire to get into Wayne University after being turned down flat because of his poor high school record. He said, “I kept running into this brick wall. I've always believed that brick walls were only for people who don't care very much. But, I wanted this badly.” He persisted, found someone at the college who would listen to him, and this person went to bat for Wayne and eventually got him in on a provisional basis.

After Wayne got his Ph.D. and became a professor teaching college-level courses, it amazed him how that small act of kindness changed his entire life. Over 40 years later, he gave a one million dollar endowment to Wayne University to help fund a college education for those who have the drive, but may not have the money, and hundreds of young people were awarded the opportunity to attend college as a result. So one act turned into hundreds, and that is just one example.

One never knows what will come of one simple act of kindness. 
 

That's one part of the story, and certainly a powerful one, and the other part of this story is his strong determination to achieve what he decided he wanted–to get what he wanted–regardless of the obstacles.

How many times have we wanted something, or wanted something to be a certain way, and have found brick walls in front of us that are so long and so high that they seem impenetrable. But brick walls or any other kind of wall or obstacle is no match to the determined will. The power of decision is a very powerful thing. Imagining it the way you want it is a very powerful tool. Believing that you are unstoppable will pierce the strongest of walls. Benjamin Disraeli said, “Nothing can resist the human will that will stake even its existence on its stated purpose.” 

I don't know about you, but I have never had to get to that unstoppable place or stake my very existence on getting what I want for them to come true. Fortunately, those ideas can be saved for the completely impossible dreams. The good news is that a strong desire and a belief in the achievement of the desire are generally more than sufficient to get the job done. Everything that I have ever truly wanted has come to pass. Those things that didn't come to pass are stuck on the brick wall because I just didn't care enough.

Where There's A Will There's A Way. Actually, All Kinds Of Ways… 

Spread Some Joy Today–by believing that joy is in your present. It may be hiding under the anger rug or boredom furniture, but it is there ready to reveal itself when you are.

Everything Is All Right

“Turn your face to the sun, 
and the shadows fall behind you.” 
 
— Maori Proverb 
 

[Classic post from 7-28-16]

To add to this great idea, Abraham, Esther Hicks says, “If you knew everything was really all right, and that it always has a happy ending, then you would not feel trepidatious about your future. Everything is really so very all right! If you could believe and trust that, then, immediately everything would automatically and instantly become all right.”  

Enjoying some heart-opening quotes today!

“Love Does Not Compete Because It Knows There Is Enough Of Everything For Everyone.” — Alan Cohen 

Spread Some Joy Today–by considering how joyful it feels to be joyful.

Doing The Same Things and Hoping They Change

“Insanity: 
Doing the same thing 
over and over again 
and expecting 
different results.” 
 
— Albert Einstein 
 

[Classic post from 7-27-16]

When I saw this very famous quote again, I immediately thought of it this way:

Insanity: Talking about the problem, re-living the problem, analyzing the problem, restating the problem over and over again while expecting a solution to magically appear.

I’ve given a great deal of thought to problems. So have most of us, I’m sure. And, although we want solutions to our problems, it seems that we are enamored with the problems, finding it hard to let go of them long enough to reach for the solution.

I think I’ve found at least one of the most effective methods to solving problems. Here it is in two words: Celebrate them!

Don’t analyze them, rehash them, refry them, take them apart, or do any other playful tricks. Simply appreciate them, celebrate them, rejoice in them. For I’ve found that through gratitude, I have released my hold on the problem. The problem has never had hold of me, it is and has always been me holding on to the problem. When I celebrate the problem–when I am thankful for it and sincerely grateful for it, the problem is immediately transformed into a wonderful tool, and solutions begin to pour into my brain.

Try it yourself. Next few problems you think you have, see if you’re not the one holding on to it instead of the other way around. Next, celebrate it, love it, praise it, be thankful for this problem. I believe that through your gratitude for it, the solutions will be evident. And, I said solutions, not solution. There are always many more solutions than we imagine there are.

Loving My Problems Into Solutions. 

Spread Some Joy Today–The word for today is enjoyment!

Allowing Others To Be As They Choose

“There are times 
when friends can prod or tease you 
into a better-feeling thought, 
but at other times 
their prodding or teasing 
just makes you feel worse.” 
 
— Abraham, Esther Hicks 
 

[Classic post from 7-23-16]

They continue, “Any success they may have had in helping you feel better has been, for the most part, about how far out of alignment you already were, because while it is easy to make small vibrational jumps, it is difficult, or even impossible, to make large ones.”

The reason I am offering the quote above is that it says so much about how we are in relationships. The closer the relationship, the more we seem to want to help someone out of the doldrums. I have learned better. And much of that I have learned from Abraham, Esther Hicks, and Wayne Dyer.

As they said, “but at other times their prodding or teasing just makes you feel worse.” I can't tell you how many times I have tried to cheer someone up and end up pissing them off instead. It's too big of a leap from powerlessness to happiness. It's even too big a leap from powerlessness to disappointment. It may even be too large a gap between disappointment and happiness.

What I have learned after much turmoil in trying to help another to feel better, is to just love them by sending loving thoughts, saying very little if anything. Now I don't try to change them or what they are thinking. I respect where they are by allowing them to feel as they are choosing to feel by giving them space and time.

What can I do to help? I can be an example of well-being. Not in their face with it, but consistently being in alignment myself is the best I can offer anyone else. It's like in the airplane drill: you put on your mask (you get into alignment), then help others. It is our own example of well-being that is the best we can offer anyone.

Someone is upset, angry, disgusted, tormented, sad, and the best that I can do is to allow them to be as they are, as they choose for themselves, while simply loving them. That is essentially Wayne Dyer's most beautiful definition of unconditional love, which is, “allowing others to be as they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy me.” I learn to allow others to be as they choose–whomever they may be, whether close to me in a personal relationship, or in the world news. 

Allowing Others To Be As They Choose For Themselves Is Compassion And Love. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by enjoying your own connection with Source Energy, which is God, which is Love, which is Joy.

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