Category: Allowing

A Love That Frees

“The promises of this world are, 
for the most part, vain phantoms; 
and to confide in one’s self, 
and become something of worth and value 
is the best and safest course.” 

— Michelangelo 

 

“The value of a man 
should be seen
in what he gives 
and not in what
he is able to receive.” 

— Albert Einstein 

[Classic post from 2-21-17]

I’m going to share a dream from early this morning. It was so powerful that I woke up and had to write part of it down.

I was friends with a man named Bob Mopi, who was such a special friend. I remember reading a quote by Thich Nhat Hanh the other day which matches this man’s love and friendship perfectly: “You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free.” I felt completely and totally loved and free whenever I even thought of Bob Mopi, and I did nothing to hold him from being equally loved and free.

Bob was an expert at numbers, investing, and managing money. He was in the highest demand, and yet he chose as he chose not paying any attention to the grandness of the offers. He was his own man and did as he pleased; did what pleased him the most.

I was friends with several board members of a mid-sized company and they really needed a treasurer, but more like a CFO; someone who could guide the company financially out of the chaos that it had landed in, but they couldn’t pay the big bucks and so they were wondering where this magic person would come from.

I said, “what about Bob?” I didn’t even say his last name, and they all knew exactly who I was talking about. They all instantly said, Bob Mopi. Yes, that’s who we want. But, will he be available to us? That’s the question. I said that I would speak to him.

Now this board was made up of the finest men and women one could know. They were smart and full of integrity, and yet, they found themselves in need of some financial help. Well, a lot of financial help.

I talked with Bob and he instantly agreed to do it, not even asking about any compensation. The only thing he stipulated is that he must have the freedom to not be tied to this job. He must be able to get the work done in whatever little time it might take and then have the freedom to do other things in the meantime. It was agreed.

Afterward, back in the big office with that board, everyone was chatting it up and I spoke out (and this is what I wrote down early this morning): “I know what is so special about Bob. He doesn’t not like anyone. Everyone is important to him. He doesn’t know how people he interacts with will be of value to him or he to them, but he knows there is value in all relationships, however brief or exalted.”

I thought, wow! If someone were to say that about me, that would be the greatest compliment I could ever be paid. It is love. It is love as a noun, and also a verb. It is love in action. It is unconditional love. It doesn’t matter how the other is expressed physically, Bob loves them as they are inside–as they truly are, and he loves them with such freedom that the other feels no ties that bind, with no expectations, with no requirements.

Imagine The Possibilities Of This In Your Life And Your World. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by seeing beyond the surface to see that in which we all are the same in love and freedom.

Flowing and Glowing

“Letting Go
Permits The Flow
And Creates The Glow.”

— Albert K. Strong

Some people say that we have to accept the world as it is, things as they are, and fight, fight, fight for what we want. I like how Alan Cohen puts that into perspective. He says, “If you must accept what is, then accept the presence of love, beauty, abundance, and perfection.” 

How do we know where we are? By how we feel. I know what love, beauty, abundance, peace, and joy feel like. I also have experienced and so know what hatred, anger, resentment, powerlessness feel like. You could say that if it feels good, it is, and if it doesn’t feel good, it is. If it feels good, it flows, and if it doesn’t feel good, it sticks. That’s how we can know and then choose as we will.

It’s All Life’s Fault!

“Life is to blame for everything.”

— Robert Musil

Well, we’ve finally gotten to the bottom of it! It’s all life’s fault! Life is to blame! All that stuff wouldn’t have happened had it not been for life. Of course. If we want to blame, it may as well be the whole enchilada.

Equally, we could see the humor in trying to blame life for all the problems and see that it is also this life that has given me all my blessings that are so many I cannot possibly count them, along with massive amounts of love and joy.

It’s all life’s fault! And, I stand in appreciation!

Have You Ever?

“If you want to see the brave,
look at those who can forgive.

If you want to see the heroic,
look at those who can love
in return for hatred.”

— Bhagavad Gita

“Forgiveness
is not an occasional act,
it is a constant attitude.”

— Martin Luther King Jr.

Have you ever loved someone who has wronged you? Have you ever not only let it go and forgave them but also had compassion on them and loved them and all of a sudden cared for them as human beings as if they were separated from their actions? Have you ever done that even if they have not stopped their wrongdoing?

The thing that we somehow forget is that we need to own our own feelings and realize that they are our feelings and that we created the feeling inside us. The outside stimulus was only a trigger that we allow or disallow to affect how we feel about others and more importantly, about ourselves.

So, in not forgiving, in holding on, in continually thinking about being a victim of other’s acts or words, we are the ones carrying the burden. And, make no mistake, it is a burden. Forgiveness may be likened to closing the door on the subject, but to truly love is more like opening the door to a warm Spring breeze and healing sunshine. For to truly forgive, is in fact, love itself.

Returning To Love

Good day to you. This is a long one, yet a very important one I think. My wife died of ALS in August of 2013. She was a real challenge for the last two years prior to her passing in many ways, and I, as her full-time caretaker had so many opportunities to strike back from her incessant negative verbal and then written communications to me when she could no longer speak.

The huge benefit to me through all of that, which I carry with me today, was and is that I got to earnestly practice patience, unconditional love, peace, giving, forgiving, and, well, all those things that we know are in our best interest and that of others around us but we may find burdensome to practice. The goal becomes a challenge and thoughtful response instead of a challenge and personal attack or egoic reaction or trying to justify anything at all about our position in all of that.

Below is a letter i wrote to Nancy in December of 2012, and as you can see, not knowing it then, it was only a few months before she was gone. I hope this letter and the Daily Inspiration I posted the same day has some meaning and perhaps even inspiration for you. — My Love To All Of You, Terry

12-9-12

Nancy,

I want to apologize for my sarcasm yesterday about Pearl Harbor and the religious connotations that surround that. Then, I proceeded to make more fun of the Bible and your beliefs.

I wrote about that in today’s Daily Inspiration (attached below).

I am earnestly practicing my own new beliefs in unconditional love and peace and harmony, and yet sometimes, that old, cantankerous, argumentative, my-beliefs-are-more-right-than-yours attitude surfaces and it takes me a minute or two, sometimes three or four to hear what is coming out of my own mouth and then to relate that this is not what I really wanted to say.

The reason this came out and has before from time to time is a frustration I have when I see you powerless and helpless and not exercising or believing in your own internal, and in my opinion, God-given power, but instead relinquishing it to external authorities, such as the Bible, God, doctors, government, and this list goes on.

But, that’s not your problem. It’s mine. Frustration wants something to be one way and it is not. That place is not peace and it is not unconditional love. I need to always come back to love and peace and that way is to relax in my own power to allow myself and others to be who and what they are without having to satisfy me.

I am practicing in my unconditional love and personal peace. I will continue to practice even more. It is the place I most want to be. Forgive me for my outburst and belittling the concepts of life that you think important. I need to let you have all your beliefs and be totally at peace with that.

I love you as much now as ever,

Terry

Daily Inspiration from 12-9-12

“In order to experience peace
instead of conflict,
it is necessary
to shift our perception. . .
Many of our attempts to correct others,
even when we believe we are
offering
constructive criticism,
are really attempts
to attack them
by demonstrating
their wrongness
and our rightness.”

— Gerald Jampolsky

I found myself using blatant sarcasm, making fun of someone else’s beliefs about something because. . . well. . . it doesn’t matter why does it? It was not my finest hour and as I thought about it afterward, I saw the error of my mouth.

Of course, to me, some of those beliefs are just plain silly and really easy for me to make fun of; however, who the hell am I to stand in judgment of what someone else believes?

Since I’m a practicing proponent of unconditional love, I need to get more practice in, don’t I? Every single one of us has beliefs that others around us do not have. This is also true of nations of people and throughout the wide variety of cultures around the world.

The only way I can see the world really working is each of us allowing the other to have their beliefs, while they also, allow us to have our own.

Debating a belief is fine when both parties want to explore the other’s beliefs, but when someone wants to cling to theirs, I need to support their right to hold whatever belief they choose. Hopefully, that is returned, and we are at peace.

It is the perception of I’m okay and you’re okay that works the best.

I Knew That. I’ll Practice The Art Of Allowing More.

Spread Some Joy Today–Do something good, and unusual for someone.

The Bad News And The Good News

“The bad news is that we have fallen into an ego belief system that other people’s shit causes all our unhappiness, stress, and lack of peace.

The good news is that we can discover that it’s not other people’s shit causing the turmoil in the world, it’s our own shit that’s the culprit.

Another way of looking at it is to notice that other people’s shit smells so awful that it makes us want to puke, yet the smell of our own shit doesn’t seem to bother us. Dear reader, consider the possibility that if we all took responsibility for smelling our own shit and got rid of it, we could bring peace and harmony into a world that is filled with darkness and conflict.


We take a giant step in our journey when we become aware that it’s only our own thoughts that hurt us.”

Gerald G. Jampolsky
The “Oh Shit” Factor
Waste Management For Our Minds

Willingness To Let Go

“To forgive is to feel
the compassion, gentleness,
tenderness, and caring
that is always within our hearts,
no matter how the world may seem
at the moment.

Forgiveness is the way to a place
of inner peace and happiness,
the way to our soul.

That place of peace
is always available to us,
always ready to welcome us in.

Through forgiveness,
we receive all that our hearts
could ever want.
We are released from
our fear, anger, and pain
to experience oneness
with each other
and our spiritual Source.

— Gerald G. Jampolsky
Forgiveness:
The Greatest Healer Of All

The Enlightened Life

The real value of reading many authors who may even be writing on similar subject matters is that each of them has an individually unique understanding and thereby an individually unique way of explaining what they have learned. As I was reading a different book from one of my favorite authors, Gerald G. Jampolsky, in Forgiveness: The Greatest Healer Of All, I found this golden nugget of wisdom expressed in a way that I had not before experienced. I hope you injoy his perspective. The first line was enough to inspire me!

“It can be helpful to think of the ego as having a belief system of its own. If we want, we can accept its beliefs or seek other ways of looking at the world. Of course, we have to remember that our egos are part of who we are. The greater our ability to recognize our fearful ego, the freer we are to choose a more loving and peaceful life.”

He goes on to say that the ego’s thought system foundation is fear, guilt, and blame. All of that is fear in different forms. And, if we followed the ego’s thought system as our guiding principles, we would always be in a state of conflict. I might also add another “c” word, contempt. It is easy enough to find these guiding principles at work all around us, and it is a good clue as to what portion of us is in charge.

Dr. Jampolsky also indicates that the ego, based on the information just presented, creates the belief within the ego that nobody deserves forgiveness, including ourselves. He states that our egos are very clever, and based on these beliefs, create all manner of havoc in our lives.

Yet, the good news is in the quote above. “The greater our ability to recognize our fearful ego, the freer we are to choose a more loving and peaceful life.”

We are always in charge. We can allow our ego to rule or be the manager of it instead. Either way, we are in charge and in our choosing.

I choose a more loving and peaceful life by spreading the joy that comes from awareness and the power of choice.

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