The real value of reading many authors who may even be writing on similar subject matters is that each of them has an individually unique understanding and thereby an individually unique way of explaining what they have learned. As I was reading a different book from one of my favorite authors, Gerald G. Jampolsky, in Forgiveness: The Greatest Healer Of All, I found this golden nugget of wisdom expressed in a way that I had not before experienced. I hope you injoy his perspective. The first line was enough to inspire me!
“It can be helpful to think of the ego as having a belief system of its own. If we want, we can accept its beliefs or seek other ways of looking at the world. Of course, we have to remember that our egos are part of who we are. The greater our ability to recognize our fearful ego, the freer we are to choose a more loving and peaceful life.”
He goes on to say that the ego’s thought system foundation is fear, guilt, and blame. All of that is fear in different forms. And, if we followed the ego’s thought system as our guiding principles, we would always be in a state of conflict. I might also add another “c” word, contempt. It is easy enough to find these guiding principles at work all around us, and it is a good clue as to what portion of us is in charge.
Dr. Jampolsky also indicates that the ego, based on the information just presented, creates the belief within the ego that nobody deserves forgiveness, including ourselves. He states that our egos are very clever, and based on these beliefs, create all manner of havoc in our lives.
Yet, the good news is in the quote above. “The greater our ability to recognize our fearful ego, the freer we are to choose a more loving and peaceful life.”
We are always in charge. We can allow our ego to rule or be the manager of it instead. Either way, we are in charge and in our choosing.
I choose a more loving and peaceful life by spreading the joy that comes from awareness and the power of choice.