Month: April 2020

Good and Gooder

“Thou hast given so much to me,
give one thing more, –a grateful heart,
not thankful when it pleaseth me
as if Thy blessings had spare days,
but such a heart whose pulse may be Thy praise.”

— George Herbert

“He who thanks but with the lips,
thanks but in part;
the full, the true Thanksgiving,
comes from the heart.”

— J. A. Shedd

“As we express our gratitude,
we must never forget
that the highest appreciation
is not to utter words, but to live by them.”

— John Fitzgerald Kennedy

Becoming a grateful person requires practice, and it also requires letting go of anger, disappointment, complaining, and the like; however, I need not make a complete and immediate turnaround, as it is just fine with the little-at-a-time method of accomplishment.

As I’ve found in my life, the more that I am grateful, the less I find to be unhappy about. It is an accumulating process that overshadows, or rather, weeds out the need or desire to complain or be angry or unhappy. Even as some of those seemingly negative things pop up from time to time, they are so easily dealt with by finding what in them there is to learn from them and to be grateful for.

At first, it may seem strange that something that is making me angry or upset could have something in it that there is to be thankful for, but I have learned that it is in there somewhere.

As I widen my field to see a bigger picture of something I’ve tuned into that is upsetting to me on the surface, I cannot help but find something or even many things to be thankful for. The cause for anger or concern then becomes a source of celebration instead of a pity party. I really think that this was what Paul in the Bible was referring to when he said to be thankful for all things.

All experiences can be experienced as for the good of us or another if we only look at them with new eyes and learn to respond instead of reacting. It is the small picture; that is, focusing on the thing that is distressing to me, that keeps me upset. Heck, I may even find that by widening my field of vision that we can see myself in a previous time causing the same stress on someone else. A little patience goes a long way here.

My mother told us when we were very young to count to ten before responding when something makes you mad. Not bad advice, really, but even better, is to look for the benefit in all events, and then it becomes much easier to be thankful for all things. Once I start looking at every situation as a way to learn and grow regardless of how it causes me to feel at the moment, progress is imminent. I now absolutely believe there is a reward for me in every event or situation. As I change my judgments from seeing good and bad to seeing good and gooder, I find the joy that I really wanted all along.

I Am At Peace

I am at peace with disappointment. I am at peace with other people’s anger. I am at peace with problems. I am at peace with what I do and how I do it. I am at peace with all I do not know. I am at peace with my skills, my uniqueness, my work, my values. I am at peace with what I do and I am at peace with who I am. I am peace. I am love. I am joy.

The Real Reality

“[Those who] believe differently
have a different reality.”

— Paul Selig

This statement popped up at me when I read through page 79 of Paul Selig’s book, I Am The Word. It seems to me that it shouldn’t have stood out, but it stood out enough for me to write it down in the margin on that page. We may often think that it would be ideal if we all agreed in our beliefs and thereby shared the same exact reality, but what I think we more commonly consider when we look at differing beliefs is that there is still only one reality and that those who see things differently are not agreeable to the real reality. In other words, we see them as wrong and we as right and we may even often try to show them the error of their ways by pointing to ‘the reality’ as an example. You know, the Earth is round and spins on its axis and in turn circles the Sun and that is just the way it is. Everyone knows it. It is a reality, after all.

What I think the message of this page is is that we may have different beliefs and that causes our different realities or ways of seeing through our beliefs, but that doesn’t mean that we don’t share a commonality at the same time. And, that it isn’t even right versus wrong or left versus right or other duality points, but that these different beliefs and different realities may not only coexist, they can also be in harmony. In other words, they don’t push against or pull against others or need to in order to be “the” reality because no matter the number of realities, we need not compete for there is more than enough room for all. Indeed, there would be sufficient room for all even if they did disagree to the point of pushing and pulling and jockeying for position. After all, that is the reality we see here and now, is it not? The only difference is that we disagree that there is an actual different reality with each different belief. Yet, as each different belief exists, there must be a matching reality for it could be none other than this.

If we may ever get to the point of world harmony, it would be that we accept not only the different beliefs as being valid but that we accept that each of those matching realities is also acknowledged. In other words, we honor the other to choose and we honor ourselves to choose and in those perhaps divergent choices and consequential realities we stand in honor of that higher truth, and that higher truth is that no matter the volume of beliefs and realities involved, we coexist in a completely harmonious manner.

In fact, I think more of the world currently lives in harmonious divergent realities than we might imagine based on the media reports.

I Celebrate Your Own Harmonious Adventure!

Reaction vs Response

There is a vast difference between being aware of negative emotion and reacting to it. Awareness allows enough space to recognize the value of the guidance that emotion is showing us and then allows us sufficient time and thoughtfulness to choose a response. The length of that space is not important. It is enough. When we react, we are thoughtlessly allowing the emotion to rule our actions. In reaction, there is always some sort of mess to clean up when the reaction is done.

Building A Life

“Character isn’t something you were born with
and can’t change, like your fingerprints.
It’s something you weren’t born with
and must take responsibility for forming.”

— Jim Rohn

I have two favorite stories that I learned from an early mentor, Jim Rohn. They both have to do with buildings.

One. There are two ways to have the tallest building. One is to build the tallest building and the other is to tear the other tall buildings down. One is to become known as a builder and the other to be known as a destroyer.

Two. Someone decides they are going to build a tall building and they get the permits and do the excavation and then begin bringing building materials to the site. They keep bringing materials as if they are getting ready, but they never build anything. Activity is not a success in itself. Preparation is not a success in itself. Even preparation meeting opportunity is not a success in itself. When preparation meets opportunity there needs to be a commitment to build and to keep building until it is built.

Overflowing Potential

“We Have No Idea What Tomorrow Will Bring, 
But Today Is Overflowing With Potential.” 

— Allan Lokos 

We have a tendency to look forward to something, many things, things being better, an event that is coming, loved ones arriving, things being done as we would like, and at the specified time. That’s all good. We need things to draw us, and our anticipation is often exciting.

Yet, as we do that, it is all too easy to think of today as simply a stepping stone on the path to tomorrow, or to that time we are looking forward to. This would be a good definition of wasting time.

As we become more aware of our life as a journey and that the real value is in fully living the moments as they come, regardless of what they contain, that awareness leads us to a joyful life, by in-joying ourselves and all that is going on in and around us.

That’s the life I am coming so much closer to living. Eyes wide open, seeing what I want to see, feel what I want to feel, enjoying anticipation but not being carried off with it.

Joy Is A State Of Being

Joy is not the same thing as happiness.
Happiness is a state of mind.
Joy is a state of being.

Joy is the same thing as love.
Love is the same thing as joy.

All of these have one thing in common.
They are all choices in thought and vibration.

And, here’s a very simple affirmation to help:

I Choose Joy!
I Choose Love!
As I Choose Love,

I Cannot Avoid Spreading Joy. 

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