Month: January 2020

Daily Inspiration 1-31-20

“Enjoying life is far superior 
to being graded on 
your performance in life.” 
— Wayne Dyer 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 9-16-15]

As I read this quote above, I was pondering the idea of quitting. We start things and then at some point we quit them, or a softer way to say it–stop doing that thing. It seems like a natural progression much like being born and then dying. And sometimes, people make a big deal about stopping something, and may even experience a whole bunch of stress or anxiety over it.

I think the answer is in the quote above. I have come to a place in my life as I have mentioned many times where my only goal is simply and exquisitely to enjoy myself. As we are focusing on enjoying ourselves, enjoying our lives, that is what we seek and often, ceasing something would enhance that feeling.

We’ve been graded, judged, encouraged, caged by the idea of performance as a measure of well-being since we were born. Right, wrong, good, bad, A or F and pluses and minuses, just a very few grades and judgments we’ve been dealt with. We may have even accepted all of that because when we did good, got A’s, we were probably rewarded in some way to encourage us to continue on that path.

Then, maybe we’ve lived a bit of life, a family of our own, careers, 401k’s, planning for retirement, and much more, and all of those things come with grades and judgment too. Maybe we accepted all of that too using Ward and June Cleaver as a shining example of success.

Then, there may have been things that you started. A business, a club, a career, and it is full of problems and it wears on you. You wish it would be better, but it is showing no signs. You’re tired. You want out. But it was all your idea. There are other people involved. The list goes on. You feel bad that it is not going well, you feel bad that you have not found a way to make it work better, you feel bad because other people may suffer in some way, you feel bad because your legacy would be tarnished. You just feel bad everywhere you look.

So, you quit. There is a bit of relief, but you feel guilty and sad and down. You wish it went faster and you can’t wait until you get to the place where you can feel good again. You’ve found some really good reasons to quit and it seems that everyone understands. It’s life, you know. Stuff happens. We have to deal with it, and life isn’t always a bed of roses.

I know how this feels because I’ve experienced it much this way. I’ve started things and quit things. I’ve started businesses and quit them. I started a marriage and quit it. I’ve started hundreds of little things and quit them. I’m familiar with quitting and the associated negative emotions that seemed to come along with that.

That has changed. If we are to truly enjoy our lives, we need to understand that choice is our real power in life. If our focus is on feeling good, enjoying ourselves and enjoying our lives, then whatever we choose simply needs to be in alignment with our joy. Following your bliss is perfectly stated. When the bliss has turned into pain, it is time for a change. We need to love ourselves enough to make whatever changes will cause us to enjoy our lives more. If quitting will do that, then quitting is in order. No need for a long list of reasons. One reason is sufficient. We want to follow our bliss and our bliss has moved on. Thank you for the opportunity, I am moving on.

Enjoy Your Travels. Follow Your Own Bliss. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by following your joy.

Daily Inspiration 1-30-20

“Change the way you look at things 
and the things you look at change.” 
— Wayne Dyer 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 9-15-15]

We’re learning every day of our lives, and I have found an interesting tidbit about that. Sometimes when I am talking with someone about a situation, out of my mouth comes something that I didn’t know I knew–or at least didn’t know I knew so clearly.

Then I stand amazed at what just came out of my mouth. Where did that come from? It sounded like the perfect thing at the perfect time. And here’s another tidbit that is interesting: It might be the perfect thing at the perfect time for me to see it more than for the other to hear it. As the other may argue for their previous position, and I may be clarifying further my thoughts on it, they may continue to stay where they are, but I have moved. It’s sort of like being the teacher and the student at exactly the same time.

There is something special about verbal expression and that may even be enhanced by argument, disagreement, or resistance. One thing that I have clearly learned about disagreement and resistance is that I don’t face it for very long. I call it ‘swimming upstream.’ In younger days, I might swim for a long time to my peril, but I have learned from past experience that a few strokes is fine, but there is no need or benefit in creating negative emotion within myself.

So the other day I had a conversation. A scenario was described and I answered it in a couple different ways. The first was to explain what I knew from my own experience about improvements within that entity. That was brief. The second was to explain how to change it. As I was stating that, this is where I found that I understood what I knew more than I might have imagined. It’s like taking it from theory to actual practice. That message expressed very simplistically was that when we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.

Now you might be thinking that this is a well-worded phrase and it sounds good and all that, but I live in the real world and I see what I see and it is real. The problem is real. It is happening to me. I can’t change it. They have to change it. I wish someone would get them to change it. I feel powerless to change it. And so on. Well, you’re right. It is that way. However, it is as much the other way of seeing it differently and having it change as it is to see it the same and have it not change. We have so much more power than we think we do inside of us.

It comes down to another simplified way of looking at things: we can’t get a positive result from thinking negatively. We cannot be complaining about something and have it become as we would like it to be. Complaining will bring more of what we are complaining about. If we are talking about how someone failed us, there will be more failures to talk about on the horizon. The Law of Attraction is always in operation and it doesn’t care what we are thinking. It simply and perfectly finds other similar or like thoughts and situations and brings them to our experience. Fighting that powerful force is not an option.

How does it change? It changes for the better when we do. It changes for the better when we see it for the better. I think that the best that we can do, whether it is a situation, a company, a child, a friend, an associate, is to see it or them the way that we want them to be–to see them as their best selves. If we had a child that has gone down a dark path of drugs and poor choices, the more we focus on that or on fighting that, the more of that comes. When we focus on seeing them as whole, well, inspired, enthusiastic, living the life they deserve, that is how we can be of service. The same holds true with the world, our government, our politicians, and virtually everything in life. We, at the same time, must live in the same way. All change begins with us.

One last note. Some might think that by doing this I am denying reality, or that I am in denial, so to speak. I have learned that facing reality is not really the virtue that so many think it is. If all we look at is what is, all we will have is more of the same. For the world, companies we deal with, people we have relationships with, to change, we must change. And, when we change, they all change. When we see something not to our liking, as we choose to look at it differently, that thing changes. I see it all the time now and I’m accepting responsibility to have the world I would love to have.

We Become What We Think About. How We See The World Is The Way It Is. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by choosing to see joy wherever you go today.

Daily Inspiration 1-29-20

“Love is my gift to the world. 
I fill myself with love, 
and I sent that love 
out into the world.” 
— Wayne Dyer 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 9-14-15]

Just two weeks ago, as I’m sure you know, Dr. Wayne W. Dyer passed from this physical life at the age of 75. To say that he had lived a full life is a severe understatement. To say that he has touched and shared his love with millions around the globe is his ongoing legacy.

Wayne was my mentor. He was a mentor to millions. I never had the pleasure of meeting him or seeing him in person, but I have seen a lot of video from his PBS Specials, his movie, The Shift, and many others. I began reading Wayne’s books from the very first mass publication of Your Erroneous Zones and followed him through much of his career. In the last couple of years, I have read several of his books, and especially delighted in his autobiographical recent book, I Can See Clearly Now. In that book, I learned so much more about his life and it is a fascinating read, and I listened to the unabridged audio with him telling his own story. Fantastic.

I think what I liked best about Wayne was his willingness to be himself, including his human issues much of which we all have dealt with over time. To me he was real, and the real deal. He taught me so much, was passionate about other authors and helping them too, many that I read as a result of his encouragement and belief in them. He has helped mold much of my thinking, and in so many ways has improved my life by helping me be more of who I really am.

What more could you ask of a mentor? He will continue to be a mentor to me for as long as I am here. And, his messages will live a long life on their own for millions more to learn and grow from. I am a better person as a result of his desire to share his thoughts and his knowledge and his humanity.

I Am So Grateful To All My Mentors. The List Is Long. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by letting your gratitude flow for your teachers.

Daily Inspiration 1-28-20

“The difference between trying and doing 
is measured by the word ‘effort.’ 
But the measurement scale is backward.” 
— Albert K. Strong 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 9-13-15]

It seems that the harder we try, the more effort we expend, and so also then, the more effort we expend, the harder we are trying. However, doing is without great effort. Bruce Lee put it this way: “The less effort, the faster and more powerful you will be.”

What’s that old saying by William Edward Hickson? (Who?) “‘Tis a lesson you should heed: try, try again. If at first, you don’t succeed, try, try again.” This might be the same as saying, “more effort, more effort, more effort.” After all, isn’t expending effort what trying is? I’m going to make an effort. I’m going to try. It seems to me they are saying the same thing.

I like how Ralph Waldo Emerson changed effort into ease: “Enthusiasm is the mother of effort, and without it, nothing great was ever achieved.” Of course, I think a better way to say that is that ‘Enthusiasm is the mother of ease. . . because it makes doing a breeze!’

Next time you’re thinking about something to do, skip trying, skip the effort, just go straight to doing it. You’ll see what I mean. Want to do it faster and even easier? Allow enthusiasm to en-light-en your path.

Doing Is Effort-Less. 

Spread Some Joy Today–because it is your natural state. It requires zero effort.

Daily Inspiration 1-27-20

“What happens to you 
happens from you.” 
— Alan Cohen 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 9-12-15]

If we have come to believe that we create our own reality, at least in part, then what happens to us happens from us. Yet, initially, this is hard to swallow. It took me a while and I’ve been studying it like a scholar. It flies in the face of the way the world seems to be, especially in the news of negative events around the world. It is hard to believe when we’re feeling victimized and that things just happen to us seemingly at random and without regard for our goodness. So, naturally, from our learning, we would reject the statement that what happens to us happens from us out of disbelief.

Yet, once this idea is allowed to mingle in my mind, and I play around with it, considering, testing it and allowing it to grow in influence, I see the perfection of it. As a result of my desire to know it and to allow it in, I now know without a doubt that every single thing that has occurred in my life has been of my own creation.

I also know that most of my life I was creating my own reality by default, or maybe a better way to say that is creating unconsciously. It’s like the Law of Attraction. Some people believe in it and some don’t, but it doesn’t matter because belief or disbelief doesn’t change the law or its function. It is. It is always on.

We can’t stop it if we wanted to. It just is. We can either pay attention and help it to bring us what we want or take it as it comes. Either way, it comes. I think creating our own reality is exactly the same, and the Law of Attraction is doing it for us anyway, so I would rather create the reality I would prefer. Or, at the very least, accept responsibility for the reality that I have created that is not to my liking.

What changes when this concept is allowed and accepted? Everything. There is no such thing as an innocent victim. There is no such thing as an evil perpetrator. There is no such thing as random things happening to me. What I see in my life is what I have created and allowed. I am responsible. No one else is responsible. We can choose to co-create with others and share in creation. I am no longer the pinball, but the player. I control the game.

That’s a big responsibility. It is also complete freedom, joy, and love. It frees me to affect whatever change I want or to accept wherever I am as my own doing. I can no longer look at the news and see what they are trying to tell me as true. I don’t see heroes or villains or saviors. I see other people choosing how to live their lives. I love them as they are where they are. They don’t affect me unless I allow them into my life.

It reminds me of how Abraham, Esther Hicks used to describe the contrast by giving the picture of us being in a glorious kitchen: “Imagine yourself as a chef in an extremely well-stocked kitchen that contains every imaginable ingredient. Let us say that you have a clear idea of the culinary creation you desire, and you understand how to combine these easily accessible ingredients in order to fulfill your desire. And as you proceed, there are many ingredients that are not appropriate for your creation, so you do not utilize them, but you also feel no discomfort about their existence. You simply utilize the ingredients that will enhance your creation–and you leave the ingredients that are not appropriate for your creation out of your pie. 

Some of the ingredients in the well-stocked kitchen are harmonious with your creation, and some of them are not. But even though adding some of these ingredients to your creation would absolutely ruin your pie, you do not feel the need to push against those ingredients, or to ban them from the kitchen, because you understand that there is no reason for them to end up in your pie unless you put them in it. And since you are clear about which ones enhance your creation and which ones do not enhance it, you feel no concern about the great variety of ingredients that exist.” 

I love that analogy because I have come to believe that I create my own reality and through an understanding of that, I accept responsibility for my thoughts and my resultant emotions and my actions or lack of action too. What I think, say, feel and do is of my own design. And, even though sometimes I have been designing with my eyes closed, I now fully realize what joy and delight come when I design with my eyes open.

It is pretty much impossible to change when we are victims of life. After all, the whole idea of a victim is that we have no control or very limited control. However, once I have grasped the concept and accepted the responsibility for my own creations, change is a given. I can change at will and enjoy the change. I can change on purpose and with purpose rather than adapt to the circumstance. I am in charge of what I think and no one else could ever be. I am in charge of what I do and say. No one else ever could. There is no one to blame because I choose. There is nothing to complain about because I created it and I allowed it in. This is the most powerful place that we can be in our lives. It is living fully and delightfully on purpose with eyes wide open.

What Happens To Me Happens From Me. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by enjoying your personal freedom.

Daily Inspiration 1-26-20

“I am prepared for the worst, 
but hope for the best.” 
— Benjamin Disraeli 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 9-11-15]

It is a common phrase that I used to hear a lot when I was young: Prepare for the worst and hope for the best, or hope for the best, but prepare for the worst, or trust in God, but tie up your camels, or Lord, I believe, but help my unbelief and many more.

What a great way to build a house, right? Prepare for it to collapse, but hope for it to keep standing. I assume from a positive point of view that we would not only make sure we do our work properly, but that we are paying attention to the whole work, including design, stresses, and so on, while at the same time thinking what a grand home this will be for some family soon.

Here’s an interesting statement from Abraham, Esther Hicks on this subject:

“”I must be aware of bad things, and guarded about bad things, and I must watch out for bad things by trying to guide myself toward good things.” You can’t do both at the same time. You can’t watch out for bad things, and allow good things at the same time. It is vibrationally not possible.” 

Another way to see this is as being in a race on the track and you’re focused on not tripping and falling, not losing, not running out of breath or energy, not getting a cramp, and then at the same time trying to focus on winning the race.

Which Do You Suppose Prevails? 

Spread Some Joy Today–by letting go of your need to be right.

Daily Inspiration 1-25-20

“Meditation is a state of allowing.” 
— Abraham, Esther Hicks 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 9-10-15]

I’m a relative beginner to the whole idea of meditating, but I am really starting to get into it. I used to think it was weird, strange, that I had to have this “Ohmmm” thing going on, sitting in that guru meditation position that my body refuses to allow, and much more. In other words, I didn’t know much of anything about it, yet I had all kinds of preconceived notions from all sorts of movies, religious teachings and more. I guess a better way to say it is that I was confused. I didn’t know what to do and every other source had a different way to do it. No wonder it was hard.

Abraham, Esther Hicks made it easy. Here are some of their thoughts on meditation and the value of it:

“For 10 or 15 minutes every day, we would quiet our mind in meditation; we would close our eyes; we would be aware of breathing air into our lungs, and our intention would be nothing more than being in this moment and being consciously aware of our breathing. . . nothing to do other than breathe–not fixing breakfast, not combing hair, not wondering how someone is doing, not thinking about yesterday, not worrying about tomorrow, not focusing on anything in this moment except air in and air out. 

Meditation is a state of allowing where, for just a few moments, you stop trying to make anything happen. It is a time when you are saying to your Source Energy, to your Inner Being, to your God (or whatever you want to call it): Here I am, in a state of allowing Source Energy to flow purely through me. Fifteen minutes of effort will change your life. It will allow the Energy that is natural to you to flow; you will feel better in the moment, and you will feel more energized when you come out of it. 

A big benefit from meditation that you will notice right away is that things you have been wanting will begin showing up. Now, why is this? Why does 15-minutes of just being, set those kinds of things in motion? Because you have already been asking, and now, during your time of meditation, you have stopped the resistance that has been holding it at bay. Because of your practiced meditation, you are now allowing your desires to flow into your experience.” 

It’s not about making things happen. It’s about allowing. It’s about letting go of all thoughts and their corresponding emotions. It’s about the release. It’s about letting go of the rope. It’s about surrender to the higher power within us. And, it is also a way to better things, better health, and a better life.

It Is Amazing The Power In Letting Go Of The Power. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by simply being willing to chill. Take a break. Relax.

Daily Inspiration 1-24-20

“Don’t judge each day 
by the harvest you reap 
but by the seeds that you plant.” 
— Robert Louis Stevenson 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 9-9-15]

It’s been a long time since I’ve seen this wonderful quote, and in our physical life, we are so action-oriented that it is so easy to interpret this quote as being about what you do, or how you do it. I used to think it was all about action–making things happen.

In Napoleon Hill’s international classic from 1937, the first words in the first chapter are, as I was reminded by Jeffrey Gitomer in his newsletter today: “Truly, “thoughts are things,” and powerful things at that.” Then, when I saw this quote by Robert Louis Stevenson, I had an “ah-ha” moment: Seeds of thought.

So often, we might be thinking, what do I need to do, or what did I do today toward my objectives? When, it would be more fruitful to ask, what do I need to think or what have been my thoughts today? Or, even better to indicate my thinking, how have I been feeling today? How am I feeling when I think about these things?

Action is a derivative of thought. It reminds me of my favorite pastime–movies. There is no action until there is a thought. There is no action until there is a story. There is no action without a script. There is no action without the writer.

The glamorous movie star is a beggar without a writer writing the story, creating the images of activity and the dialogue that the actors will imitate and speak. It very well may be the actors who bring the story to life on the screen, but it is the writer who brings to life the story so that actors can apply their skills and take the credit for the success or failure of the film.

Whatever we want, how are we starting out? It is the thought that attracts more of the same, expanding and growing into more. The only question–and the real question is–what are those thoughts? How do they feel? Are we feeling good? The good will come. Are we not feeling good? Then no good can come. We can’t plant corn and get potatoes, just like we can’t plant negative thoughts and get a positive outcome.

What Seeds Of Thought Are We Sowing? 

Spread Some Joy Today–It’s easy. Just be you. Smile. And just be you.

Daily Inspiration 1-23-20

“You can perfect stuff 
and it destroys all the interesting 
bumps and imperfections.” 
— Chris Clark, 
from the I Dream of Wires documentary

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 9-8-15]

I watched an interesting (well, at least to me. . .) documentary the other day called, I Dream of Wires. It is a 90-minute history of the music synthesizer. I knew just a tidbit of the history of electronic music but learned so much more watching this great movie. As a musician, I used to own two synthesizers, but they were two of the very common, yet not “real” synthesizers. The original real ones would take up a wall in a good-sized room. 

Regardless of whether the documentary or synthesized music means anything to you, I thought you could relate to one of the quotes I gleaned from it. The idea of the synthesizer was to not only create strangely different music but more perfectly controlled sounds. I thought about how that relates to people and our lives, careers and our personal goals and such. Indeed, even–or maybe even especially–about our children or young people in general.

When we are striving for and expecting perfection, we leave behind imperfection which is exactly where our character, our uniqueness, our individual spirit resides. Part of culture and character both is celebrating the differences. What blandness would prevail in a perfect world? In fact, I could make a case that there would be no point whatsoever to the achievement of that. It would be endedness. 

Several days ago I shared a phrase that came into my head unexpectedly. It was three words: Preference vs. Prejudice. When we are seeking or thinking perfection, anything that doesn’t fit in that space is prejudged as inferior. It is prejudicial to our goal. We think it is a preference, but it is not because preference honors all other forms not chosen.

I could write about a hundred and one examples. When I was in high school, I loved baseball and was actually fairly good at it, yet I was almost always chosen last by the team captains. This was purely prejudiced without any sort of real appreciation of the differences that come to make a real team function well. It was all silly stuff, but a good example of common prejudice.

We see magazines, billboards, and other media showing off very thin women with so-called perfect clothing, makeup, hair, and nails. These are shown as the goal of perfection or what every man and woman wants. This is total prejudice. It is not preference either because it is not honoring the things or people or images of other shapes and sizes and dress of other women. It might be something some men want, and some women want, but a smaller group than we might think.

It is our imperfections that entice. It is that crooked smile of Holly Hunter in the movie, The Firm, along with the so un-Tom Cruise-like character played by David Strathairn who so loved that crooked smile. And, as she said, “Well, It’s not my best feature!” David’s character was amazed. “Well. . . what is, sweetheart? (I love the movie, but that is my favorite scene in the whole movie)

The kid getting straight A’s in school was the holy grail. I did it one quarter in one school year in third grade. Never to be repeated again. My uniqueness remained intact! I made it through with all my imperfections. And, I think we all are far better off with our idiosyncrasies and imperfections. Screw the perfect world. Oops. That was prejudicial, wasn’t it!?

I Exercise My Preference And Gladly Choose The Imperfect And Delightfully Flawed. 

Spread Some Joy Today–Why the heck not? Got something better to do?

Daily Inspiration 1-22-20

“Worry is not a form of love.” 
— Alan Cohen 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 9-7-15]

I want to share some words of wisdom I gleaned from an Abraham, Esther Hicks DVD that I wrote down some time back because it seemed like it reached out and grabbed me and said, “Hey, Terry. You might want to write this down! Just saying.” So, how could I refuse such a request, and I wrote it down. It was called Tools for Teaching:

“Do not allow yourself to be a sounding board for discontent. Don’t let people practice a vibration that doesn’t serve them with you.” 

I thought that part was very telling. How many times in my past had I listened to friends, relatives, lovers, complaining about whatever, with me listening and even adding fuel here and there knowing full well that it wasn’t serving either of us in the continued attention? I love that line: Do not allow yourself to be a sounding board for discontent. I don’t anymore, mostly because I no longer attract it. 

“Don’t try to convince people that they are wrong in their discord.” 

As I was learning a better way for me, I thought that everyone should know it too, and I would try to ‘turn people around’ so to speak in their unhappiness. I wanted to see them happy, of course, but I finally learned to let people have their unhappiness or discord. I cannot change them, but I can love them where they are and allow them to be where they are. If they want to change it, they will attract that change. They have the power within. The best I can do is simply be an example of well-being.

“It’s right when you feel bad that you are not getting what you want.” 

It sounds strange to say that it is right when you feel bad, but it is true. Our emotions are our internal guidance system. When we are feeling bad, our internal guidance system is telling us that our current thoughts are in discord with our inner being, our God within, our soul, or whatever terms you might rather use. An easy way to say it is that we are out of alignment with our greater knowing. Indeed, then when we are feeling good, we are in alignment. So it is right when we are feeling bad. It is also right when we are feeling good. It is right to pay attention to how we are feeling for it is our own internal guidance system functioning perfectly.

“I just want you to know that you can never get what you want when you’re feeling bad.” 

Feeling bad is a clear indication of being out of alignment, of rowing upstream against the current of well-being. Feeling bad is being focused on what we do not want. Worry is focusing on what we do not want. As we are in this place, we cannot focus on what we do want. However, as we become aware of our internal guidance system and we recognize that we are feeling bad, knowing that we are now out of alignment, we can then be able to step aside enough to say, “I see because of this negative emotion what I do not want, so what is it that I do want?” The negative emotion is the contrast for us to know what we don’t want and can at the same time help us to know what we do want and then we can choose to focus there, changing the emotion along the way.

I think these teaching thoughts for teachers is just as perfect for all students.

To Be A Good Teacher, One Naturally Becomes A Better Student. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by allowing your joy to flow freely.

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