Month: December 2019

Daily Inspiration 12-31-19

“Have expectancy–not expectations.” 
— Bashar

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 8-16-19]

Wow. This quote is so powerful to me. Here’s the full quote: “Have expectancy–not expectations. Expectancy is the emotional knowingness that, a) you have changed, and therefore, b) your physical reality will follow suit. Expectations is placing upon the change that your physical reality will go through the method that your ego thinks should be the way it should change, to represent the change you have made within yourself.”

This caused me to think about the difference between intentions and goals. They say that goals are dreams with a deadline and that intentions are impotent goals. I see intentions as having an expectancy, and so often goals are more like expectations. So, the difference in intentions and goals is similar.

I’m not putting down goals. There’s a place for goals, but in my travels in business and sales for so long, the whole idea of goals is very convoluted causing them to be ineffective.

Another way to look at expectancy and intentions is like was described in yesterday’s post about letting go in order to open ourselves up to infinite possibilities. In other words, expectations and goals are likened to the knowledge we already have or have immediate access to; whereas, expectancy and intentions is likened to allowing. Whether we look at that as help from the outside or from the inside is not important, but let’s just say, by allowing, we are laying the door open and we are eager to see what the Universe will provide.

I think that the more we can open ourselves to the higher power that we possess though we may not be aware of, the easier things are, the smoother they come to us and the better our lives get. It’s like the difference between making and allowing, or better yet, taking charge, and allowing. The more we struggle, the more struggle is there. The more we allow, the more ease we experience. Sometimes people think that things are hard when they could just as well be easy.

I Am Eagerly Anticipating As I Allow It To Unfold. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by allowing your joy to flow through you.

Daily Inspiration 12-30-19

“Doubt is a 100% trust
in a belief that you don’t prefer. 
You are never really actually in doubt, 
you are always completely trusting in something. 
The question is what do you trust in?” 
— Bashar 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 8-14-15]

It’s interesting that I have always thought of trust and doubt as polar opposites, that I was either trusting or I was doubting, and if I was doubting, then I wasn’t trusting. Perhaps I wanted very much to trust, but I had lingering doubts, so trust was a slippery thing to try to hold on to.

Mira Kelley, in her book, Beyond Past Lives, awakened in me a way to see this more clearly and expanded my awareness of something I have dealt with poorly most of my life. She begins, “We do not need to learn to trust; we need to learn not to doubt.” As Bashar says, doubt is trusting 100% in a belief that is not in alignment with our true self. For example, if you are out of work and doubt that you’ll ever find a well-paying job, you’re putting all your trust into the belief in scarcity–the belief that you’re not enough.

Learning about this perspective on trust gave me a sense of relief. I did not need to learn to trust. There was no hurdle to overcome. I already knew how to trust; in fact, I was trusting in every moment. What I needed to understand was why I would trust in thoughts of scarcity–specifically, the belief that I would not be financially supported for work that fully reflected my passion. And the answer was clear: The evil I knew was less scary than the evil I imagined.”

She mentions her previous career and how demanding it was and how many hours she worked and that it became the evil that she knew. She knew how to deal with it–even comfortably, but the thought of the new venture was far more frightening and it was the evil that she imagined. “Once I saw this, the question became, how would I allow myself to trust what I want to trust? I realized it was simply a matter of refocusing.”

“We hypnotize ourselves into believing certain things. We pick out a point of view–or a point of view is supplied to us–and we take it for granted without questioning it. Meantime, we exclude all opposing points of view. This is so automatic that we don’t stop and ponder the different steps. I decided that I already knew how to hypnotize myself to believe in one assumption to the exclusion of all other possibilities. It worked so perfectly that I simply had to go through the same steps consciously, but this time instead focus my concentration on the things I preferred to believe in. The difference was subtle–I was simply aware and awake. But the results were profound.

I now wanted to change the definition of who I was. I trusted that in its unconditional love and adoration of me, All That Is would support that creation, too. That is what unconditional love is–love and help without any restrictions or conditions. I chose to redefine what abundance meant for me. I chose to see that I am abundant not only in money but also in opportunities, friends, possibilities, and open hearts and minds.

I chose to trust the expansion of my being. I chose to trust the direction in which I was growing. I chose to trust that I would be supported for who I am. I chose to trust that I am loved for who I am. I chose to trust that the Universe was supporting me with its infinite abundance in every thought, in every idea, in every desire, and in every plan that I had. I decided to trust that this support was and is always appropriate and always right. I created a little mantra for myself: I trust myself. I trust my life. I trust All That Is.”

Our Choosing And Our Choices Are Far More Important And Powerful Than We May Realize. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by just being you. You are joy. You are love. You are appreciation. So all you need to be is yourself.

Daily Inspiration 12-29-19

“Accepting personal responsibility 
is completely foreign to the ego.” 
— Albert K. Strong 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 8-13-15]

Does what we think and say to ourselves and to others matter? Do we have no control over our own lives physically and emotionally? According to the ego, that answer would be no. To the ego, we are always a potential victim of the indiscriminate actions of other people and uncontrollable circumstances. When life is good, the ego wants all the credit, and when life is going downhill, the ego has a long list of external things and people to blame. So, accepting personal responsibility would be completely foreign to the ego. The ego could not even consider such a concept, let alone a reality. 

Here’s the good news. The ego has its place. It is a minor place. It has usefulness at certain times, but by and large, it is mostly talk. And, more important than this is that the real person that we are is far larger and far smarter than the ego ever could be. It’s just that we as the smarter, larger entity need to take personal responsibility in owning up to our power and to keeping that ego in its rightful place. 

We keep the ego in its place by paying attention to what we are saying silently and aloud, and the best way to do that is by simply paying attention to how we feel. If it doesn’t feel good, it isn’t good for us. As we hold on to negative thoughts, self-talk, images, past hurts, we create within our natural well-being a discord or dis-ease. To the degree that we hold those thoughts and feelings, the dis-ease grows.

I have always remembered and loved a quote from Wayne Dyer from his earliest book. He said, “Anxiety doesn’t attack.” Of course, it is the ego who is thinking of having an anxiety attack, and it is totally open to that because it comes from the outside, but Wayne knew differently.

Let me share some very wise and important information from Abraham, Esther Hicks on this subject: 

“The first indication that you are disallowing your physical well-being comes to you in the form of negative emotion. You will not see a breakdown of your physical body at the first sign of negative emotion, but focusing upon subjects that cause a prolonged feeling of negative emotion will eventually cause dis-ease.

If you are unaware that negative emotion indicates the vibrational disharmony that is hindering the level of Well-Being that you are asking for, you may be, like most people, accepting a certain level of negative emotion and feeling no need to do something about it. Most people, even when they feel alarm at the level of negative emotion or stress they are feeling, do not know what to do about it because they believe they are reacting to conditions or circumstances that are outside of their control. And so, since they cannot control those unpleasant conditions, they feel powerless to change the way they feel.

We want you to understand that your emotions come in response to your focus, and under all conditions, you have the power to find thoughts that feel slightly better or slightly worse–and when you consistently choose slightly better, the Law of Attraction will bring steady improvement to your experience. The key to achieving and maintaining a physical state of well-being is to notice the indicators of discord in the early stages. It is much easier to refocus your thoughts in the early, subtle stages than after the Law of Attraction has responded to chronic negative thoughts, bringing bigger negative results. 

If you could make a decision to never allow negative emotion to linger within you–and at the same time acknowledge that it is your work alone to refocus your attention in order to feel better rather than asking someone else to do something different or for some circumstance to change to make you feel better–you will not only be a very healthy person, but you will be a joyful person. Joy, appreciation, love, and health are all synonymous. Resentment, jealousy, depression, anger, and sickness are all synonymous.” 

How Are You Feeling? What Stories Are Going On Inside Of You? 

Spread Some Joy Today–by just mentally letting go of all of your cares and issues. Just let them drift away like putting them in a boat in a fast-moving stream, pushing it into the stream and watching it float quickly away downriver.

Daily Inspiration 12-28-19

“True forgiveness is when you can say:
Thank you for that experience.” 
— Oprah Winfrey 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 8-12-15]

When we carry negative feelings about an event, and especially when it involves another person or persons, it can and often does fester and become more profound in our minds, as well as negatively affecting our bodies. The act of forgiveness, or letting go of the rope as I like to say it, brings us relief, and to the degree that we let go, that relief can change our lives in a very positive way. But, we may become willing to forgive others and then have it not be complete because we fail to forgive ourselves.

I’m reading Mira Kelley’s new book, Beyond Past Lives. I absolutely love it and I am finding some real gems of wisdom and expansion. One subject she addresses is to forgive yourself and others. I’ll quote a few paragraphs that are in the book:

“We all know that it’s important to forgive those who have wronged us. For most of us, it’s a challenge to forgive, but once we do we feel lighter and freer. It gives us peace of mind and the ability to move on in our lives, rather than remain a victim of people and circumstances.

The first reason forgiveness is a challenge for people is because we assume it needs to be difficult. This is a cultural belief: “Everyone knows it is hard to forgive, so why would it be different for me?” We elect to hold on to our hurt egos–to the sad stories we tell–because that’s what everyone else is doing and we think it’s the right thing to do. It does not benefit us in any way, but we continue to do it. The solution is simple: Tell yourself it’s easy to forgive. It’s a good belief to have, so choose to hold it as your truth. You originate from a place of Oneness, a place where you have no reason to hold yourself separate from anyone else. It’s already in your essence to forgive because there is no need to punish any part of yourself.

The second reason we find it hard to forgive is that we only focus on the first step of the process–forgiving the other. We were never told how important it is to also forgive ourselves. Forgiveness is a two-sided coin. No forgiveness is complete when we only focus on forgiving others. 

Forgive not because the other person deserves to be forgiven but because you deserve to be at peace. Forgive because you love yourself more than the need to be ‘right.'”

In every situation, interaction with others, and my interpretation of events, I get to choose love or fear. Which of those perspectives I view these from determines how I will feel. Forgiveness will always and only come from a perspective of love–the love of ourselves and our love for all others, and from that perspective, we become thankful for the experience because it brought us back to love–that which we truly all are.

I Forgive Myself. I Forgive you. I Release You. I Let You Go. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by making some letting go choices.

Daily Inspiration 12-27-19

“Developing rapport is a one-sided affair 
where listening and asking questions 
demonstrates the leader.” 
— Albert K. Strong 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 8-9-15]

There is a habit that probably the majority of us have developed wherein when we are trying to develop a rapport with someone, we hear something similar to what we’ve done in our lives, or having had a similar experience, and then we share it as soon as we can. Having things in common are the places that we tend to focus, and then sharing stories back and forth becomes the desired conversation and friendly outcome.

I have known better for some years now, but the old habit is easily brought back to life, as I was recently reminded of last week with a potential client. The only saving grace for me now is that I have learned to pay attention to the other person–especially when I am talking. If I detect that they are not listening, and this is pretty obvious most of the time, then I often will stop talking, sometimes even mid-sentence, letting go of my attempted control of the conversation. More often than not, they don’t even realize that I didn’t finish, which is the confirmation that they were not really listening. 

Sometimes the habit is strong enough that I may inject two or three anecdotes, but it is rare that I get that far. What I’ve found that works best is to listen closely to them, participate by agreeing, nodding, or speaking really short quips of encouragement or confirmation. Then, I find an interesting question to ask from what I’ve learned, and ask it. This keeps them talking more, and rapport comes much faster, and more smoothly.

Larry King says it nicely: “The first rule of my speaking is: listen! I never learned anything while I was talking.” He adds the secret to gaining more rapport: “You gotta ask ‘why’ questions. ‘Why did you do this?’ A ‘why’ question you can’t answer with one word.” 

Try it yourself. Pay attention to a conversation you are having going back and forth with stories or comments. Does it seem like they are listening or are they thinking about what they’re going to say next? One way to tell is to stop in the middle of your story. If they ask you to continue, great. If they didn’t notice, it’s time to really listen to what they are saying, and start asking good questions.

“I Never Use The Word ‘I’ When I Interview Someone. I Think It’s Irrelevant.” — Larry King 

Spread Some Joy Today–Go have some fun.

Daily Inspiration 12-26-19

“The defining factor is never resources; 
it’s resourcefulness.”
— Tony Robbins 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 8-6-15]

I just watched a TED talk by Tony Robbins from 2006 again. I love this talk and highly recommend taking the 20 minutes it requires to watch it. It is called, Why We Do What We Do and you can see it here. You can also access the transcript if you like.

In the early portion of the talk, he says, “We’ve got to remind ourselves that decision is the ultimate power. When you ask people, have you failed to achieve something significant in your life? [They will say, yes.] But if you ask people, why didn’t you achieve something? Somebody who’s working for you, or a partner, or even yourself. When you fail to achieve, what’s the reason people say? What do they tell you? “Didn’t have the knowledge, didn’t have the money, didn’t have the time, didn’t have the technology. I didn’t have the right manager.”

He continues, “What do all these have in common? They are a claim of missing resources, and they may be accurate. You may not have the money, but that is not the defining factor. The defining factor is never resources; it’s resourcefulness.”

That is such a fascinatingly true line. It is never the fault of not having the resources, it is the lack of resourcefulness.

This caused me to think of my father-in-law who just passed in the last few months at 90 or 91, I can’t remember. I heard all sorts of stories about him growing up during the depression in the ’30s and how they lived and how he was able to do so many things because of his resourcefulness. All his life, from that early time of needing to be creative, he found ways to get what he wanted and needed for himself and his large extended family. He found a way. He never sat around complaining about resources. Instead, he created the resources out of his head.

I know in my business, Upward Trend, it is not the resources that have helped us make it this far, it is our resourcefulness. The resources we needed were created out of thin air much of the time. There are tens of thousands of businesses that are only here for the same reason.

The idea of having all you need to get a job done exactly the way you want it done is a fantasy. I certainly agree that it would be nice; however, I know from personal experience that this may not be the best thing for the growth of the business anyway.

In the talk, Tony talks about what he calls, six human needs. The first he says is certainty. We all need certainty. We know what causes what, we know what to do, we know what to expect. Certainty is something we need in our lives. Then, he says that the second need is uncertainty. Yes, we need pluses and minuses both. We need to count on things and we also need to experience the unknown. It is the uncertainty that causes us to know what we want.

It is never the resources; it is resourcefulness. It is nice to have certainty and we need it, but we equally need uncertainty. Interesting points of view, don’t you think?

Watch the talk and let him fill in all the spaces, but even without that, these thoughts might get the juices flowing.

There’s Always A Way For Those Who Know Lots Of Ways. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by simply enjoying yourself. Practice it often.

Daily Inspiration 12-25-19

“Being compassionate 
means being able to see 
beauty, greatness, and potential 
where everyone else sees 
lack and limitations.” 
— Mira Kelley 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 8-11-15]

A week or so ago, I gave what I thought was a better definition of compassion. Then, I began reading a new book by Mira Kelley and she offered something that jumped off the page at me.

Here’s a better part of her quote on compassion: “We need not look to save anyone, or to feel responsible. Nor do we need to feel guilty that we’re better attuned to abundance and support. Instead, we can find the possibility of being truly compassionate. Being compassionate means being able to see beauty, greatness, and potential where everyone else sees lack and limitations. We can see behind the masks of failure, sickness, and not-enough-ness to the true strength underneath.” 

What A Perfect Vision Of Compassion. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by demonstrating your compassion for others.

Daily Inspiration 12-24-19

The Path To Compassion: 

“People are doing the best that they can 
from their own level of consciousness.” 
— Deepak Chopra 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 8-5-15]

I was briefly thinking about compassion, and at the same time, I saw this quote from Deepak Chopra above, and I thought, how perfect this quote is to help understand compassion better.

I think compassion is one of those things that seems to get confused with sympathy, empathy, a desire to help; to be of service; to appreciate. When I hear people talking on compassion, I see this confusion, and I thought how nice it would be to clarify it more.

Everyone is on their own path, at their own level of consciousness as Deepak describes, and basically, as we appreciate their position, we can understand them just a little better and offer our love as a fellow traveler. Though we may be on two diverse wavelengths or vibrational points of view, we are different and yet we are one.

It’s not about agreeing with their position, but it is about appreciating where they happen to be and blessing them where they stand. It’s not about being above or below them on the road to more enlightenment, it is simply appreciating where they are right this moment, appreciating them for who they are, sharing our love with them in this respect.

It means that I am where I am and you are where you are and I appreciate where you are and respect where you are and love you where you are, and at the same time if I can be of any service that is meaningful to you, this I am prepared to do as I am able. It’s not about saving them from anything. They probably don’t need to be saved. And, that is a judgment call anyway. It is the awareness of them, the respect with their current place and loving them where they are right now.

Compassion is expressing dignity. I like how Rick Bragg said, “Every life deserves a certain amount of dignity, no matter how poor or damaged the shell that carries it.” It’s really easy to be compassionate when people are in need, and a bit more of a challenge to be compassionate about people who we are in disagreement with, or even complete disagreement with. It’s harder to be compassionate about someone who is acting like an enemy.

It’s not about help, although help might be desired, and if we are able, then helping is how we can be of great value. It is so much more about respect, acknowledgment of another as part of the whole. Dignity is a great way to honor it in another. Equality in life, though not necessarily circumstances, yet the circumstances may not be in pursuit of change. And finally, and overshadowing all is is simply and delightfully love. And in the case of those disagreeable ones especially, it is a matter of unconditional love. That would also be compassion.

Having Compassion For All Others Knowing We Are All One. 

Spread Some Joy Today–Delight in your appreciation of all that is around you.

Daily Inspiration 12-23-19

“Me is not in control of I. 
I am in control of me. 
But, is control the right word?” 
— Albert K. Strong 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 8-4-15]

What a silly quote this is from Albert Strong, yet it does put it in a perspective that can be more easily seen. Who is in control? Who is in charge?

Some people say, “why do these things keep happening to me?” That would be the “me”. Yes, the “me” is in control of the “I”. Deepak Chopra says it nicely: “Owning your own feelings, rather than blaming them on someone else, is the mark of a person who has moved from contracted to expanded awareness.” And, that would be “I”. Yes, I am in control of me.

But is control the right word? Abraham, Esther Hicks shares this beautiful and enlightening sentence: “Without making the correlation between your thoughts and feelings and the manifestations that are occurring, you have no conscious control of what happens in your experience.” Awareness might be a better word. Or knowledge. Rather than control. It’s less about control and more about becoming aware of how the Universe works and how to enjoy more of this wonderful life we get to experience. Of course, that certainly does give us more control, so control might be a good word after all.

At the very top of everything that I have learned in my entire life, making the correlation between my thoughts and feelings and the manifestations that are occurring, is without a shade of doubt the most powerfully enlightening and empowering knowledge I could have found. I see it in operation every day in others, and I see it in operation every day in myself.

Here’s a bit more insight from Abraham, Esther Hicks: “The only thing that makes the difference in the way you feel right now is the thought that you are thinking right now.” It’s interesting to hear others who may be having a hard time at something argue that it has nothing to do with thought and that it is just the way it is, that they didn’t bring this on themselves, but it was thrust upon them and they don’t understand why, and more. It’s interesting because I can see the correlation now. I know that it is strictly their thoughts. It is clear as a bell.

Of course, it is all thoughts. Many people claim to not be in control of this that truly no other person can ever have control of. It is the “me” in control of the “I”. When “me” is in control of “I”, it feels crappy. That concept covers a lot of territory including, being depressed, grieving, feeling powerless, jealousy, insecurity, guilt, fear, despair, revenge, anger, and more. Thinking that these feelings are happening to us rather than us creating them from our thoughts leads to more of the same. Sometimes, it is trained from what are called accepted norms, traditions, beliefs. In other words, I should feel this way, so I will, and when I do, others encourage me with sympathy, concern, and attention.

Yet, all of this is thought. Depression is simply depressed thinking or negative thinking about ourselves. Revenge is negative thinking about someone else. Grief is thinking thoughts of loss–our own loss. It is depressed thinking too, but it is all, in fact, 100% of it is a thought with other like thoughts added. It is the Law of Attraction at work. As we think a thought, the Law of Attraction helps with like-minded thoughts and it stays on that path until the “I” gets back in control of “me”.

Once I is back in control, or even in control for the first time, we understand the correlation between our thoughts and our feelings and the manifestations that are occurring, giving us conscious control of what happens in our experience. The “I” exercises choice to purposely choose better feeling thoughts, while the “me” blames the resultant feelings from the thoughts on others, on tradition, or other accepted norms.

I Celebrate The Knowledge That “Me” Is Not In Control Of “I” Unless I Am Not In Control Of Me! 

Spread Some Joy Today–by electing to choose joy. Only you can choose it.

Daily Inspiration 12-22-19

“Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. 
They’re in each other all along.” 
— Rumi 

New: Audio version

[Classic post from 8-3-15]

Interesting. In each other all along. . . and that explains perfectly why when you look in their eyes, there is a connection that moves your heart and clears your mind. Of course, that is true as long as we are paying attention.

So often, we may be off on our own thought journey, or past thought journey and we aren’t really in the present and able to notice. That’s why the best way to find a mate is letting go. It’s not the desire, the wanting, the needing. It’s the sheer confidence that it already is, and in that release, we draw it and him or her.

We Simply Allow It To Be. Because It Already Is. 

Spread Some Joy Today–Yes, mindless, thoughtless joy. Like a child.

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