Month: June 2014

Daily Inspiration 6-30-14

Daily Inspiration 6-30-14

“Any change, 
even a change for the better, 
is always accompanied by 
drawbacks and discomforts.” 

— Arnold Bennett 

Yesterday I talked about not feeling up to par and working through that to get back on track, and today, I had some of the same things, only not to the degree of yesterday. Then, finally, this evening, it hit me what it was. I have been needing to change a thing or two and have been reluctant to do so. That’s where the resistance was coming from.

When you have something that you know is in your best interests, though it sounds so easy, often it isn’t so easy to make that change. It’s only going to stick when it becomes something I want to do versus something I need to do. The spiritual work is to come into alignment to the point that I want to do this thing. That might take years. I know that so well, then one day, it just washes over you to let go and allow the change. I remember always that the resistance is like me playing tug-o-war with myself which I only win by letting go of the rope. Today, I realized that I was there after a weekend of tug-o-war.

It’s not about letting go of something you no longer want, but more a wanting of something new or better. It’s not about what is wrong, but more a matter of what the benefits are to my internal well being, or rather my joy.

Ever since I decided on my rest-of-my-life single goal to enjoy myself, I’ve noticed things that I do that I used to enjoy, or at least I thought I did, and I noticed things that I do out of habit that is connected to some mysterious place, that I really don’t like much anymore if I were telling the truth about it. Isn’t it funny how we lie to ourselves about stuff like that? It’s one of those things on the list of ‘that doesn’t make sense.’

Forty-four days ago, I gave up the wheat with no fake replacements. It was just an experiment to see if I could since wheat is so pervasive in our culture. I thought it would be hard, but it wasn’t. I have seen many benefits and I think my success with this helped me with the other things I want to change.

Now, I want to change, and after my experiment, I know for sure that I can and I also know that it will be easy. I just had to come to a conclusion, let go of that stupid rope I’ve been holding on to for no really good reason, and move on. I’m there.

What A Relief To Know What The Resistance Was. 

Spread Some Joy Today–You’re in total control of your joy since it comes from within, never from without.

Daily Inspiration 6-29-14

Daily Inspiration 6-29-14

“Awareness is the greatest 
agent for change.” 

— Eckhart Tolle 

People say I’m the most positive person they know and I’m happy that they think that because that is exactly what I want to be, and often am. However, there are days when I’m just not feeling as good as I would like and today was one of those days.

I was working on the Internet for some clients and got some things done, had to get up and went to walk the dog and enjoy the warm sunshine and get us both out of the office. I wasn’t unhappy exactly today, but not as happy as I often am. I think the main thing that causes this for me is that I get lost in the past a bit. 

Memories are interesting sometimes and I have millions of them, and I was noticing that pretty much everything on my walls and around me is something from the past, whether photos, plaques, memorabilia. Each of these I see causes a memory of some kind from them, and often I will not spend any time on that, but today, I think I sort of got lost in some of it.

The other thing I do that causes physical discomfort is that when I am thinking about the past, I have a tendency to eat too much. Seems like that just goes along for the ride.

In years gone by, I did this a lot and for long periods, but now my saving grace is awareness of what I am doing. I am paying attention to how I feel and as I realize that I am feeling poorly, I want to feel better and can do something right away about it, or at least sometime during the day.

What I was going through mentally was resistance. I can feel it in my gut and also my shallow breathing. So, I felt the resistance, realized my breathing and I started breathing more deeply. After a few minutes of that, I was already much better. Then, I started finding things to be grateful for and to appreciate, and pretty soon I was back with the living and in the present instead of the past.

I like how Eckhart Tolle says this in more detail: “Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life–and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.” I had to highlight the one very short sentence in there that says to ‘surrender to what is.’ What a powerful reminder to learn to allow rather than resist.

“If You Get The Inside Right, The Outside Will Fall Into Place. Primary Reality Is Within; Secondary Reality Without.” — Eckhart Tolle 

Spread Some Joy Today–Lighten up on yourself. Find 25 things to praise yourself about.

Daily Inspiration 6-28-14

Daily Inspiration 6-28-14

“Knowledge is said to be power, 
but habit is what rules.” 

— Albert K Strong 

Today in a class I was sharing some thoughts I had on the way to the dealership for training. I have studied for a lot of years–earnestly for over 40 years–and much of what I learned in the first few years was sufficient to do very well, yet I have found that knowledge is powerful and helpful, but habit is what rules.

I might have the knowledge. I may have even studied it with vim and vigor, but the only way it ever becomes effective in my life and activated within me is when it becomes a habit. The great Og Mandino, who should know, said that “only a habit can subdue another habit.” So, if I want to change my habitual patterns, I need to actively overwrite those other habits with the ones I prefer, otherwise, all the knowledge in the world will just be a library in my head.

The audiobook and matching book, The Secret, changed my life. It was exactly what I needed when I needed it. I had been attracting it for some time, and when I first heard it, I knew that I did not want to know it from a knowledge point of view, or even know it enough to teach it. No, I wanted it to become me. I wanted to live the rest of my life that way. So to help create the new habits, I listened so many times that it became me, and now I live that way every day. And, by the way, not in the perfection of it, but in the practice of it. It requires practice to become a habit and a belief because a belief is just a thought that we keep thinking.

So, whatever it is, whether it is wanting to be a really good sales prospector, engineer, business person, whatever, we need to desire it and practice it, live it, feel it in our lives and it will in short time become us. Success is just a practiced art, and habit rules that domain.

“We Must First Make Our Habits, Then Our Habits Make Us.” — John Dryden 

Spread Some Joy Today–Call a friend. Share your joy with them.

Daily Inspiration 6-27-14

Daily Inspiration 6-27-14

“We often exaggerate 
our own importance 
relative to those beneath us.” 

— Albert K Strong 

The ego is an amazing device that can, on occasion, protect us, but more often is liar of our own importance relative to the world and to each other. It’s amazing how important we can make ourselves, and under other circumstances we may not know our bottom from a hole in the ground.

I figured out early on in the business world that moving upward is harder only for one reason: there are fewer positions as we move upward. There is only one CEO, but there might be thousands of drivers, line workers, office personnel and more. So, when moving up, there are two challenges. One is having the space to move into. The other is having the space you move out of covered.

We can’t be having the place disrupted by not getting the work done. As a result of this outlook, I’ve never, ever feared anyone who wanted my job. Instead, I often encouraged others to want it and learn enough to be able to do it when the time came. It’s good to have the bases covered when the guy or gal above me leaves, gets fired, or gets sick.

Because I prepared and learned all I could about the position above me, I was able to take advantage of those situations and also be able to operate to a certain degree from the start.

In my own company, I want people to be able to take over whatever little amount I might do and not lose any momentum. I want the business to grow and become long after I’m out of it, or on to other things. There’s no good reason to build a business and then watch it dissolve.

What that means to me is to learn to delegate as much as possible. My ego might want me to hold on to it, but I know better. I have also learned another valuable lesson. There are people who can do it so much better than I can. That’s a revelation, but a good one to get in touch with. There is nothing more inspiring and productive than to surround yourself with people who excel and for me to be a part of it, or have a hand in it.

Raising children is a constant process of allowing and letting go. A business is like raising a family in that sense. 

Who’s Coming Up? 

Spread Some Joy Today–Help someone along their way. It will do you better good than them, I’m sure.

Daily Inspiration 6-26-14

Daily Inspiration 6-26-14

“When you try to do things, 
and they will not go the way you want, 
leave them alone.” 

— White Eagle 

I found the above quote so true and perfectly stated. It is also an idea that is promoted much by Esther Hicks and the teachings of Abraham, and I have added it to my life with excellent results.

It doesn’t matter how committed you are to something or how important it is to you, there are just sometimes when nothing is going well, going right, or there is some kind of blockage. Who knows what it is, and the reason there is a blockage doesn’t really matter either. What is happening is that the energy is just not flowing. After five years of daily messages, I’m committed to the CTS Daily Inspirations, and I typically do them before I go to bed at night. Once in a while, no matter how much I want the idea to come, or no matter how many quotes I might look at, I am blank on something I want to share.

I have learned that the best thing to do in this case is to go to bed and let it all go. The next morning, or sometimes in the middle of the night, I am awake with a message in my head after several hours of leaving it alone. It is amazing how that happens, and now I use it in everything I do. If it isn’t coming, and I’ve given it my best shot, I let it go and come back to it later with a fresh perspective. Often I come back with a better solution than I might have come up with before.

There Is Something So Powerful In Letting Go For A While. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by allowing yourself to be yourself. Sometimes we are so hung up on being what others want or expect. There is a letting go in this that is equally powerful.

Daily Inspiration 6-25-14

Daily Inspiration 6-25-14

“Send them love. 
Wish them peace. 
See them happy. 
Everyone, always, forever. 
And prepare to be astounded.” 

— The Universe, aka Mike Dooley 

Accepting and living the message above is tantamount to the biggest challenge of my life. I have accepted the challenge. I desire to live this kind of life. I want this for myself. I’m better at it all the time, and as long as I am willing to practice it, catch myself as soon as I am off track and realize it and then get back on track, it is so awesome and powerful.

As I do this, I find that I attract less of the people who might be ones that I have a hard time feeling this way about. So, that is a good thing. Still, from time to time, I feel the challenge of not feeling good and yet wanting to, but I would surely like to find a day when it is automatic for me, where I don’t get off track.

The bigger part is that in practicing doing this with others, I also need to remember to pay myself the same love and respect, peace and wellness that I send to others. It used to be thought of as good to be selfless, but I have found that I need to be self-full in order to be better at giving this unconditional love to others. In fact, I think it is easier to give to others but without it coming from a whole person, it is not nearly what it could be.

Consider accepting the same challenge if you haven’t already. It is a work (more like play) that is worthy.

“Whoever Believes In The Good In People, Draws Forth The Good In People.” — Jean Paul 

Spread Some Joy Today–Help someone in some way that makes a difference to both of you.

Daily Inspiration 6-24-14

Daily Inspiration 6-24-14

“Success is easy.” 

— Jim Rohn 

Early yesterday morning three of us were having a conversation. One was talking about the price needed to pay to do well. That phrase hit me because I’ve heard that so many times from so many people as if it isn’t easy and the price means that it is costly, or another way it is often said is that you have to put your nose to the grindstone and work hard, some even add other hardships like you have to work hard into the night, or pay a higher price than anyone else and other such statements. I used to believe that and may have even promoted that idea myself, but no more. My clearest statement about success now is that if it isn’t easy, it won’t get done.

So much of the sales and management training, personal development and so on that I’ve been through talked about the 3% factor. They say that 97% fail, only 3% “succeed” by earning plus or minus 10% of what they spend. And, then they talk about the 1% that is financially independent. Who wants to join a club where only 1 or 3% succeed? The truth is everyone succeeds. Everyone acts based on their internal highest values.

Jim Rohn was one of my earliest mentors about business after hearing him on a cassette tape back in 1980 for the first time. He is one of those that promoted the hard work of it all, but he did it with humility and style. Here is an excerpt that speaks volumes about success and how it is easy and needs to be easy, and it was matching his desires with his highest values that caused this to be true in his life:

“People often ask me how I became successful in that six-year period of time while many of the people I knew did not. The answer is simple: The things I found to be easy to do, they found to be easy not to do. I found it easy to set the goals that could change my life. They found it easy not to. I found it easy to read the books that could affect my thinking and ideas. They found that easy not to. I found it easy to attend the classes and the seminars, and to get around other successful people. They said it probably really wouldn’t matter. If I had to sum it up, I would say what I found to be easy to do, they found to be easy not to do.”

I have learned that if it is going to get done, it needs to be easy, otherwise we will have to rely on external motivation all the time. Sales prospecting has to be fun and easy or it won’t get done consistently. I love my work, and that makes it not work, but fun and so it gets done. It must speak to our highest values to get done, and the good news is that if we want to, we can link the things that don’t seem like fun to our highest values, thereby making them fun. Then, they will get done. As Jim says, success is easy. Or not. Guess which one works consistently?

Life Is Only Hard If You Think It Is. If You Think It Is, Maybe It’s Time To Think Again. . . 

Spread Some Joy Today–by letting go of all the struggles in your life. Just for today. Pretend you’re wealthy and don’t have to do anything. Now go do what you enjoy. It is even possible that is what you do for a living!

Daily Inspiration 6-23-14

Daily Inspiration 6-23-14

“Don’t let your special character 
and values, the secret that you know 
and no one else does, the truth– 
don’t let that get swallowed up 
by the great chewing complacency.” 

— Aesop, 620 BC – 564 BC 

As I was looking at notes from The Values Factor book, I ran across the quote above and I just had to share it. First of all, it is a very powerful message, and secondly, it was stated a very long time ago. There was plenty of knowledge in the past, it is just that they had a terrible distribution system, unlike the Internet of today. What a challenge it must have been to disseminate information back then.

What I get out of this quote and why it jumped off the page for me is that I think he is saying that we need to love and respect ourselves and that each of us is important. Indeed, more than just important, each of us has a special and unique character and values, just as Dr. John Demartini has been teaching me through this book.

The quote also says to not hide your specialness, but to find a way to express it. There is a great benefit in that for ourselves and for others too. It also says that this special character and unique values are our truth. Each of us has our own truth by that statement and that there is no such thing as THE truth.

And, last, he cautions us to not to just give in by fitting in. Our truth, our real self, our inner self, our uniqueness needs to be expressed and be alive in us. When we give in to the crowd, the pack, the group, we must let go of that in order to fit into other peoples values. Dilution is not a good solution and full strength is the best strategy.

In short, we need to be ourselves, to love ourselves for who and what we are in our travels to wherever we are going. If we can find a way to express ourselves along the way, to respect ourselves and each other for all our uniqueness, I cannot think of a better formula for success.

What Are Your Highest And Unique Values That Beg For Expression? 

Spread Some Joy Today–by letting go of any stress like dropping the tug-o-war rope, and turning to see those issues from the point of view of joy. Just because something looks like a problem, doesn’t mean that it really is. What you perceive, you receive.

Daily Inspiration 6-22-14

Daily Inspiration 6-22-14

“Maximum growth and development 
occur at the border of support and challenge, 
ease and difficulty, order and disorder.” 

— Dr. John F Demartini 

I have no idea where I got the idea that by finding the right partner, the right job, the right place to live, and other such concepts, would lead me to have ease without difficulty, support without challenge, and order without disorder, yet I seem to have had that thought or thoughts and that often led to frustration. It’s not just that the grass might be greener on the other side of the fence, but thinking that it will never get weeds and never needs mowing generally doesn’t enter our minds as we see all that green beyond the fence.

Dr. Demartini says, “many people live in a fantasy that they can have ease without difficulty and support without challenge. Then, when they encounter difficulties and challenges, they feel frustrated, almost insulted, that life isn’t working out the way they’d fantasized. He adds, “the amount of challenge that you think belongs in your life is not necessarily the amount of challenge that life is going to throw at you. It is all about your perceptions.” He advises that “when we live according to our highest values and embrace both support and challenge equally, we grow and develop most efficiently and fulfill our most inspired missions.”

We might often see these challenges as obstacles that are in the way of what we want. And, here Dr. Demartini says something that really helped me change my perception. He said, “Obstacles are not in your way, but simply on your way.”

To see challenge and support equally is to realize that our perceived problems or challenges are not in our way, but simply on our way is to lead an inspired life. There is nothing in nature, he says, that has support without challenge, or only challenge without support. There is no such thing, and even if there were, there would be no life for it is in the challenges, and especially at the border of challenge and support that we grow and are alive.

It Is Amazing How One Sentence Can Change Perceptions. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by focusing on loving yourself today–the whole of you, not just parts.

Daily Inspiration 6-21-14

Daily Inspiration 6-21-14

“What we value most 
shapes how we process information, 
what we remember, and how we act, 
so that our minds, emotions, and intentions 
all work together to fulfill 
those most meaningful values.” 

— Dr. John F. Demartini 

Last year, Dr. John F. Demartini published yet another great book titled, The Values Factor: The Secret to Creating an Inspired and Fulfilling Life. Now, I’m tired of seeing the phrase, “the secret” in the title of books because in my lengthy study, there are so many who claim THE secret, when there aren’t really any secrets, just points of view. Now, I also admit that I have found so many of these points of view to be not only interesting, and informative, yet, sometimes transforming. This book is in the upper echelons of that mix.

I highly recommend the audio version of this book which is 12+ hours long and took me from just below Yakima, Washington all the way to Vacaville CA to read. It would have been much more of a project to complete reading with my eyes, and in this particular case, I think the audio is helpful and user friendly. Audible.com and my iPhone app took care of all I needed.

I am reeling from the experience of listening to this. I am now amazed at how often I have beat myself up again and again for not doing something that I think I need to do, should do, and so on, and this book tells you why that happens and how to change it from torture to joy. I also have to warn you that this is a practical book with a proven message and is not for the faint of heart, yet it is for everyone who wants to know why we beat ourselves up so often and why we don’t achieve that which we say we want and so much more.

It all comes down to our highest values. The interesting thing to me about this book is how Dr. Demartini sees everyone on the planet as powerful, yet often people don’t realize it, or they accept other peoples values instead of their own. He talks (or, rather the narrator) of case studies that are fascinating and might even remarkably come close to our own situations.

For example, this passage is telling: “Anytime you find yourself saying, “I should. . .,” “I need to. . .,” or “I really must. . .,” you can be pretty certain that you are talking about social idealisms or the values of some external authority instead of expressing your own true highest values. When you hear yourself saying, “I desire to. . ..,” “I choose to. . .,” or “I love to. . .,” then you know that you are talking about a goal that is truly valuable to you. Those goals you will inevitably achieve because they align with your highest values.”

I saw so much on this trip and have yet to even process it all; however, this I know for sure: I learned a lot just by plugging in my headphones while I was enjoying the view. One thousand, nine hundred and thirty two miles of it. When we finally got home at 1:15am this morning, Charlie was dancing around the living room with joy! He loves to travel, but he was as glad as me to be home–maybe more so.

Old Dogs Can Learn New Tricks. 

Spread Some Joy Today–by hugging someone you love.

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