Month: August 2010

Daily Inspiration 8-31-10

Daily Inspiration 8-31-10

“Judgment traps you within the limitations
of your comparisons. It inhibits freedom.”
— Willie Stargell
“Life has no limitations, except the ones you make.”
— Les Brown
I have learned from a great deal of study and research that judgment is much of the time something to avoid and yet something that is unavoidable. I know that sounds like a contradiction, but to me it is not unless I think of the word judgment the way I used to, where I would always say this way is right and that was is wrong and the judgment is the conviction of the wrong and justification or support of the right. I mean, that’s what I was taught at a young age and all through most of my life in listening, paying attention and observation.
Yet, I’ve let go of that kind of judgment. Now it is more a matter of preference. It has nothing to do with right or wrong. That doesn’t even enter into the idea anymore. It is now just a choice–I’m making a judgment, or a judgment call.
The first way is as Willie Stargell says, “. . . traps you within the limitations of your comparisons. It inhibits freedom.” It sure does. Then, who is right today? We can rest assured that may not be the same tomorrow. Who’s on first? What’s on second! If I say or believe it is wrong, though it may be the opposite, I am very much limited by my judgment.
The second way is matter-of-fact benign. We have no limitations other than what we choose to make. By only judging the choice from a preference perspective, I may limit myself or not by that choice in what I choose to do with the information. Perhaps I will choose to limit my activities because I’m kicking back for a while. But, there is no judgment from my old perspective of that’s good or that is bad. It just is.
I prefer the word choice. It speaks to a better way.
It Is Always My Choice Even When It May Seem Otherwise.
Spread Some Joy Today–Change your view–just for today–to choice instead of judgment. See if you don’t feel so much better in the process.
Daily Inspiration 8-30-10

Daily Inspiration 8-30-10

“No rules exist, and examples are simply life-savers answering the
appeals of rules making vain attempts to exist.”
— Andre Breton
“We started off trying to set up a small anarchist community,
but people wouldn’t obey the rules.”
— Alan Bennett
“No tendency is quite so strong in human nature
as the desire to lay down rules of conduct for other people.”
— William Howard Taft
There are rules and then there are rules . . . Think about it. Add up the number of rules that you have in your life right now. How about all the rules at work, the rules of etiquette, rules of taste and rules of conduct. Then there’s the rules of law and the rules of the road and rules of right and wrong (conscience). OMG they go on forever, don’t they?
How many do you break? How often? Who cares?
Breaking a rule and not getting caught is that like the sound of the tree in the forest when no one is there to hear it? Heck, I break the speed limit rules virtually every day of my life to one degree or five or six. You know, the safe zone. I’ve broken so many rules throughout my entire life that it would be scary to list them all.
Who cares? I know I don’t care much. I suppose if I did, I would be more careful to not break them. Who made the rules, anyway? What is the meaning of all that?
The rules I break more often than any other rules is the most predominate rules on the planet: those made for my conduct by other people. I mean, really! What’s with that!? Heck, I usually break those on purpose! It’s like they deserve to be broken. Know what I mean? Where do they get off directing my conduct or thought?
So, my philosophy is that rules is a fluid concept. Maybe, maybe not. It depends.
Most Rules Are Meant To Be Flogged And Abused.
Spread Some Joy Today–Do you have any rules holding you back. How about any rules of your conduct written by others for your benefit? Laughable, right? Make your own rules. Heck, don’t have any rules.

Daily Inspiration 8-29-10

“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin–real life. 
But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be
gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served,
a debt to be paid. Then life would begin.
At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”
— Father Alfred D’Souza
We can focus on the obstacles and the fear surrounding them and what may or may not be behinds the scenes just waiting to jump out and attack us, harass us, mingle unnecessarily with us, block us or delay us. There certainly is plenty of this to look at, if we were of a mind to look at them in that way.
Then again, we could see the journey before us as an adventure with all good things coming to us, with the forest to keep the sun off of us yet let the light come through. We could see so many interesting places to stop along the way and take in the view. We could see the light ahead giving us guidance and also a path. That path is not too worn, though we can see others have travelled through as well, giving us confidence of others successful journey and indeed, there will be stories to tell, for not so many have gone this way making it a guaranteed adventure.
It is the focus on the journey that is the deciding factor, isn’t it? Focus on the obstacles and they will rule you. Focus on the reward, the journey, the adventure and they will delight you.
There Will Always Be Obstacles. . . Or Delight. . .
Which Will It Be For You?
Spread Some Joy Today–Today I am expanding my appreciation even more. I am sick and tired of living a life in fear and focus on obstacles and problems. Today, I am seeing something better and I will practice this and enjoy this change from this day forward. This is my new way.
Daily Inspiration 8-28-10

Daily Inspiration 8-28-10

“Love is the force that ignites the spirit and binds teams together.”
— Phil Jackson
This quote jumped off the page at me and it has proven so very true in my life and in all my business affairs. I look back at all the teams and how much I loved and still love all those people. A few of them I have bumped into in later situations–even working at the same facility; albeit, in a different capacity than before. I think that there just isn’t anything better than working with people you love and loving the people you work with.
There are so many of these people that given the situation, I would not hesitate to hire them or work with them again. How satisfying is that? I think it is just awesome.
I wrote a book in 1990 on sales and sales management and stated in that book my theory of management by love. I tested it, proved it, used it and still stand by it as such a powerful and fulfilling method of managing people.
I hope that you currently work with people you love and if not, that you find that situation quickly. Life is too short to live without it.
Loving The Ones You Work With Makes Each Day A Joy–And Much More Effective Too.
Spread Some Joy Today–Let down the barriers and let the love flow. Everyone wants to feel good, don’t they?!
Daily Inspiration 8-27-10

Daily Inspiration 8-27-10

“When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.”
— Lao Tzu
Today was a perfect day. Walked several miles and the weather was so perfect, about 80 degrees with a breeze, beautiful scenery and throughout the walk, I’m giving praise for this day and all the beauty and how perfect the weather is and a long list of grateful thoughts.
Today, our design partner and I had a meeting with a client and then we had lunch and I thought how cool this is and how lucky I am to have people around me that are so talented. We discussed a new person who just came on board and was looking at his first project and I was blown away by it. Yet another very talented and skilled person on our team. And then, we have a new person handling another aspect of our business who brings so much value to our team.
So, today during the walk this evening, I’m giving thanks for these special people, and it kind of hit me that I didn’t have much to do with finding them. They sort of came to me through my partner and through our main graphic designer. I thought: how interesting! You could say the law of attraction was in full function and I wouldn’t disagree with that, yet I thought that it was so cool that they came to us and how was interesting too. I can’t wait to see more of this unfold!
Then, sitting down to write this Daily Inspiration, I see this quote by Lao Tzu, and I think, how true. It applies to me personally, but also professionally. When I am willing to not have to be in charge, and allow others to bring their skills, connections, talents to the mix, wonderful things happen. And, you know what? I’m at least as joyous, maybe even more so that these discoveries came from others. It’s perfect.
It reminds me of this quote from The Boss, Harry Truman:
“It is amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit.”
It’s very similar to getting out of the way.
Expect Good Things To Happen And Allow Others To Help Bring Them To You!
Spread Some Joy Today–Let go and let others serve you from time to time. Many of us are relunctant to let go and let them, but it is so cool to do so. Try it.
Daily Inspiration 8-26-10

Daily Inspiration 8-26-10

“Appraisals are where you get together with your team leader and agree what an outstanding member of the team you are, how much your contribution has been valued, what massive potential you have and, in recognition of all this, would you mind having your salary halved.”
— Theodore Roosevelt
Trust me. I’ll keep this positive and upbeat, and at the same time have to laugh a bit at this quote by Teddy Roosevelt which hit home with me. Having worked for over 40 years for others in various positions, I’ve always heard about the “annual review.” What’s funny to me is that I’ve been required to give them at several places where I was a manager, but in all of my time working, I received only one official review that I can recall (thank goodness!), which was extremely flattering–and even more interesting than that, within 35 days of the review, my salary was cut by one third to help the company through a rough spot.
When I’m on a team, I am a team player, and I accepted this with grace and as much positive spin as I could muster. That was a huge difference and it was instituted immediately. Here’s the other side of that deal: four years later, it didn’t come back. Sometimes the team is entirely subjective and selective.
The good news for me is that I look back on this event as the beginning of a change in thinking that has led me where I am today: self-employed. Now, I’m not necessarily recommending this as an option. It is not for the faint of heart, but it was an option that became very attractive to me and I look back in thankfulness of this event and other events that gave me encouragement.
I was also appreciative of the positive words. I always like to hear people say kind things. Who doesn’t? One of the most important things I learned from those positive words is that they don’t much matter in the scheme of things. Now, don’t misunderstand. I’m not saying they are lies or anything like that. It’s just that they are so very temporary and subject to review and change. What I am most appreciative of is how all of that helped me to say good things to myself about myself and to believe more in me as a valuable member and to believe in MY potential.
So one big difference now is this: if I must take a cut for a short period to help out the cause, when the cause is fulfilled, I will not be waiting and hoping or asking it to be well again. No. I will be rewarding myself for my team spirit and my commitment and my value.
I thank God for those events and those learning experiences. They have changed my life for the better so much and I am eternally grateful.
It’s a wonderful thing!
I’m Totally In Charge Of My Own Daily Review. I Don’t Allow Others That Authority.
Spread Some Joy Today–Okay. Give yourself an annual review today. Write it out and tell the truth. Say it like it is. Be sure and point out your value, your contribution, your potential. Give yourself a raise while you’re at it. Go on. You can do it. Feels good!
Daily Inspiration 8-25-10

Daily Inspiration 8-25-10

“The only man I know who behaves sensibly is my tailor;
he takes my measurements anew each time he sees me.
The rest go on with their old measurements and expect me to fit them.”
— George Bernard Shaw
“Things do not change; we change.”
— Henry David Thoreau
One of the most wonderful things about human beings to me is that we can change almost anything we want whenever we decide we can and thereby will do so.
We used to know somebody–maybe even intimately–then, we see them 10 years later and we don’t know them at all. They’ve changed a great deal and if we wanted to know them now rather than that memory, we would have to start all over again. Sure, some mannerisms would be the same or similar, and maybe even several other things, but you can rest assured that they have changed. Why? Because we have. We change every day and many of those changes are very small if looked at as one item, but they add up to dramatic changes over time.
I’m not a fan of high school reunions, but I went to the 20th just for kicks. It was very interesting how people had changed from what they were then. Most of the changes were very dramatic. Many didn’t even look the same. There were a few who were voted least likely to succeed and they found a way to live up to it, but most went on and created something special. In reality, even the least likely changed. They just changed for the worse is all, but everyone changed–including me. I was quite different and now so much more different than then.
In this world, nothing rests. Fearing change is a hopeless endeavor since it is absolutely not possible, so it makes sense then to accept and acknowledge the changes and go with changes by conscious choice rather than circumstances. Since we’re going to change, we might as well take the wheel and go for a ride!
It’s Impossible To Not Change.
Spread Some Joy Today–Whatever is in your life right now that is not to your liking can be changed any time you decide that you can: 1. Change it. and 2. Change it.

Daily Inspiration 8-24-10

“Ever since I was a child, I have had this instinctive urge for
expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality
human being is the sincere and honest development of one’s potential.”
— Bruce Lee
“I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I–
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.”
Robert Frost

 

We learn by doing, grow by doing, expand by doing, and are fulfilled by doing when we are brave enough to do. There is just something about seeing what one can do with what we have to work with in the place we find ourselves in. It gets the juices flowing and the imagination imagining and the heartbeat beating. It’s the thrill of the chase; the adventure of the journey; the method to our madness. It’s risk and reward in action–and it is always a risk of one kind or another–in that we can be certain.
Robert Frost’s most famous lines has us thinking about results from a decision long ago, yet every decision we make can and often does make all the difference. It can be the daily little decisions we make like what habits we might pick up, what we choose to drink and how often, people we choose to hang out with and whether that is benefiting each party, and those little daily decisions can mount up and become those that made all the difference. And, of course, it can be exactly the opposite in making great and beneficial choices that lead to this that has made all the difference.
May your travels and choices be making a very positive difference in your life.
It’s All About The Choices. . .
Spread Some Joy Today–Pretend today that all the common choices you make are really important and life changing. How will your life change?
Daily Inspiration 8-23-10

Daily Inspiration 8-23-10

“If you always live with those who are lame,
you will yourself learn to limp.”
— Latin Proverb
“You must constantly ask yourself these questions:
Who am I around? What are they doing to me?
What have they got me reading?
What have they got me saying?
Where do they have me going?
What do they have me thinking?
And most important,
What do they have me becoming?
Then ask yourself the big question:
Is that okay?
— Jim Rohn
Who we hang with is extremely important in who we are, or who we become. It is natural and so easy to pick up habits of speech, posture, styles, mannerisms when we are around other people regularly. Many times the changes in us are subtle, but they are unmistakable.
Here’s the truth: Since it is natural to have others influence us, our choices of who they are is extremely important. At the same time, it is natural for us to influence others, and our choices as to how we do that are extremely important.
Are they a positive or negative influence on us? Are we a positive or negative influence on them? Are we growing as a result of the relationship, or are we standing still? The choice is 100% our own and the results of it are also 100% our own.
I Am Under The Influence. . . Of What? By Whom?
Spread Some Joy Today–Seek people that are uplifting, encouraging and caring. Anything else is like draining the oil out of the engine and then taking a long trip.
Daily Inspiration 8-22-10

Daily Inspiration 8-22-10

“In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God
in Christ Jesus concerning you..”
— 1 Thessalonians 5:18, The Bible
“I thank Thee first because I was never robbed before;
second, because although they took my purse, they did not take my life;
third, because although they took my all, it was not much;
and fourth because it was I who was robbed, and not I who robbed.”
— Matthew Henry
It is among the easiest things in the world to complain of things that occur that we are not pleased with. We find it so easy to tell anyone who will listen of wrongdoings, misfortune, or make excuses for shortcomings, tardiness, and the list is endless. We find more than sufficient justification in the daily news, the broadcasted statistics, the general malaise of others which allows us to feel a part in an attempt to feel whole. We really do it to feel good, or feel better, but it is a hollow and unrewarding endeavor.
I have found the key to changing this and practiced for now many years and I practice it yet today and plan to do so every day from here on. This key will turn all of that last paragraph around. It is as the quotes above state: to be thankful in all things.
Now, I know that this is really easy to say and not so easy to do, yet I know that if I can do it, anyone can.
And, here’s the key: be thankful in ALL things–even, and especially when they are not as you would have wanted them to be. The quote by Matthew Henry is a perfect example of an unhappy situation that he has not only come to terms with and resolved within himself, but is grateful for the experience and lists the reasons and what has been learned or received in value from the event. This is so powerful a thing to practice: to find ways to feel better through gratitude. There is nothing more releasing than being thankful.
One more key: practice! This is not something that happens overnight. It is something that will come clearer and easier, step by step, until it becomes you–the better you, the kinder, gentler you; the joyous you! Once I was aware, I would catch myself thinking or saying something that I would have in the past. It is then that I stop mid-thought, mid-sentence and put my practice to work seeking to be thankful, to find what’s right about this situation, to find what is good, to drain away the events power. And, it works, as well, the more I practice it, the more and faster it works.
Once you get here, there isn’t a power on earth that can hold you down again. We have so much more power than we think and we have so much more to be thankful for than we think. Even when I might find it difficult to be thankful for what is not going well, I can find plenty of things to be thankful for outside of that and this helps me stay on track.
Try it. With a bit of effort, it will be a guaranteed success!
If I Truly Believe In God, I Must Be Thankful. Think About It.
Spread Some Joy Today–Practice being thankful. It will bring joy to you and rub off on everyone you are near.
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