Month: May 2010

Daily Inspiration 5-31-10

Daily Inspiration 5-31-10

“If you would convince a man that he does wrong, do right.
Men will believe what they see.”
— Henry David Thoreau
I remember when I was a child, my mother being upset and yelling, “don’t do as I do, do as I say!” Of course there were instances to back that up, such as telling me not to smoke cigarettes as they both had cigarettes burning in the ashtray. I didn’t listen to them, but followed their example. This, of course, was true for many things that I ended up doing that I “shouldn’t.”
Then, later in life as a manager, I would sometimes find myself saying one thing and doing another. It is a serious challenge to lead by example, but it is the thing that leads the best.
One last thing about this: be easy on yourself. I keep trying to do my best to lead by example and celebrate the successes. Enjoying the journey is far more important.
What I Do Speaks Louder Than What I Say.
Spread Some Joy Today–If your goal is always joy, leading by example is easy.
Daily Inspiration 5-30-10

Daily Inspiration 5-30-10

“Friends. . . they cherish one another’s hopes.
They are kind to one another’s dreams.”
— Henry David Thoreau
Friends. We say we have many, but in reality, it may only be a few. One of the tests of a real friend I think is what Henry Thoreau says: they support and encourage rather than discourage or cajole. I think that if a friend is raining on your parade, that is a very clear indication they are not really a friend. Of course, that gate swings both ways.
Real Friends Just Love You The Way You Are.
Spread Some Joy Today–To have more real friends is easy: be one.
Daily Inspiration 5-29-10

Daily Inspiration 5-29-10

“We sing because we’re happy and happy because we sing.”
— Denis Waitley
Today was a spectacular day!
Everything about it was superb and a joy to experience it. I know, I used to hate people that talked that way (although, now that I think about it, I didn’t really know any, just heard about them or saw them in a movie or something. . .). Yesterday I couldn’t spell it and today I are one. Oh well, deal with it!
The day started off by my partner forgetting our appointment with a prospect, so I went myself and ended up making a sale early in the morning. It was a very quick presentation and sale. I was in and out in twenty five minutes with a check in hand. But that wasn’t it. Then, I went to another meeting and I was 40 minutes early so I sipped a latte, ate a blueberry oat bar and looked at stuff in my computer at Starbuck’s (such a luxury. . . I love it). Then the meeting with an associate I haven’t seen in a while. I really like him and we just had a great time telling each other what we’re doing now and getting excited about what we’re doing, how we are helping clients in many ways and it was a great deal of fun. But that wasn’t it.
Mid-day I packaged and shipped some products, caught up on email and saw my business partner. But that wasn’t it. Then I had another meeting this afternoon and that went very well and was a great idea to have that meeting and make that commitment, but that wasn’t it. Then I went to a client’s wine tasting event and met a vineyard owner who really needs a good website and I delighted in meeting and talking with him and enjoying his unique wines and I felt strongly about wanting to help them with their marketing since they are trying to do it all themselves. I enjoyed interacting with all the people at the event too. And that wasn’t it, either.
So I came home and watched a movie (It’s Complicated with Meryl Streep) with my family and parts of it were so funny, I couldn’t catch my breath, but that wasn’t it. Now, I sit and write about this awesome day and that isn’t even it.
No, these wonderful events weren’t what made me so happy and joyous today, they were the benefits of my happiness and joy which started when I got up this morning. And, the very satisfying and interesting thing about that is that my day got more and more joyous as the day went on until coming home after the wine tasting event, I felt overwhelmed almost with joy driving home–the kind of joy where you just want to shout it from the mountain top so everyone can hear it. And, the smile is on my face yet at the end of this glorious day.
Do we sing because we are happy? Or, are we happy because we sing?
You know. . . I think it works both ways. One of the very few things that does.
“Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson
Spread Some Joy Today–Have a good time whatever you are doing. We all make big hairy deals about way too many things. Don’t worry. Be happy. There’s only one person who can give me happiness. Me.
Daily Inspiration 5-28-10

Daily Inspiration 5-28-10

“Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission.”
— Eleanor Roosevelt
Eleanor didn’t pull punches, she said it like she saw it and with flair and gusto! I love this quote because it is so true and for many of us, one of the harder things to learn. I would even take it a few steps further and say that, nobody can make you feel anything without your permission. Our thoughts and feelings are just a result of what we choose to think about a stimulus. If we feel hurt, rejected, angry, sad, happy, whatever, it is because of how we think about whatever stimulus is upon us, whether it is a person, circumstance, or event.
I walk outside in the morning an look at the sky and what I think about the weather today causes some sort of feeling depending on how I think about the weather I see today. It’s the weather and line ten people up and ten people will have a slightly different thought about that event. Some people see clouds and potential rain and they are immediately bummed out and prepare to have a lousy day. Others are excited about the change and love the feel of the cooler humidified air with all the negative ions giving them pleasure. Others go back inside and get their umbrella with very little reaction. To each person, there would be a unique reaction to the event based on how they’ve responded in the past, their training, their friends and other influences..
Someone says something to me that I take offense to and others would take no offense and maybe laugh at it. Someone could put me down and I might feel small and rejected, but in reality, they did nothing except create an event–a stimulus–and I am the one who gave that a certain meaning and resultant feeling. It’s my choice, and though I may have trained myself to respond a certain way automatically without conscious thought, it is a choice of thought about the stimulus at any rate.
Knowing this provides infinite freedom because it gives us the power to choose–on purpose and with purpose. That is very empowering. It reinforces the great news that we all get to choose how we feel at any time, regardless of circumstances or events.
I Give Permission To Myself Alone On How I Feel.
Spread Some Joy Today–You’ve reacted to things automatically for a long time. Now, today is a good day to try a new approach. Choose your reaction or response deliberately today. You may still feel some of that old stuff because you’ve been doing it for so long. You’ll see how fast all that turns around, and you will be feeling pretty darn good about most things. Who needs to feel bad? Not you!
Daily Inspiration 5-27-10

Daily Inspiration 5-27-10

“The greatest good you can do for another is not just
to share your riches, but to reveal to him his own.”
— Benjamin Disraeli
In all of my life, there is nothing that is so sweet, that requires no recognition from others, is so energizing, uplifting and satisfying, and the potential longevity of forever, as helping someone else see more in themselves than they now see. In other words, uplifting people. The benefit to them is so obvious when I see it; however, most of my influence would most likely not be seen by me. Here’s how Mother Teresa said that: “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.”
The ripple effect. I was watching a light rain shower the other day as the drops were hitting the water in our swimming pool. Each drop immediately caused a number of circular waves to expand outward from the drop. What was really interesting to watch was how the ripples touched each other and the other and the other and the other. It was a symphony of ripples that were all having a ripple effect on each other. I could see the movie of it and the music playing as the ripples moved about nonstop, yet it was a light enough shower with no wind, so I could see every ripple clearly. It was a common event that I saw in a totally different way. It was sort of magical.
This is essentially how we can affect each other–even those whom we have never met, or may never meet directly. Or you might meet someone at a place far from home to find you’ve had an influence. A few months ago, I was in Dallas, Texas at a GM meeting and there were people from all over the country. I live in California. I sat down at a table to eat and introduced myself and stated my company Commercial Truck Success and someone I didn’t know and have never met, said how much they enjoyed our bi-monthly IdeaLetter and they appreciated receiving it. I thought, wow, isn’t that interesting. You just never know how what you do can have an affect on others.
The main way you have an effect is by being the person that you are. As you put more love in your heart, more gratitude and more joy, that has a great effect on those with whom you come in contact. The other way is in how you reach out to others and uplift them. This can be done in a thousand ways, from just being kind and saying hello to having the Nobel foundation.
Consider the ripple effect that you have on the pool. It is guaranteed that you have an effect. The question is what kind of effect? Just in case it is not the effect you would like, it is easy enough to change. Be a positive effect! Uplift others.
I’ll Have A Ripple, Please–Effect, That Is. . .
Spread Some Joy Today–When you have a joyful thought, all you have to do is enjoy it and others will feel it from many miles away. Appreciation is the kindest ripple of all.
Daily Inspiration 5-26-10

Daily Inspiration 5-26-10

“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come
as a result of getting something we don’t have,
but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.”
— Frederick Koeing
“Happiness is a function of accepting what is.”
— Werner Erhard
“Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling.”
— Margaret Lee Runbeck
“If you want to be happy, be.”
— Leo Tolstoy
I can find thousands of quotes about happiness and they vary widely. I picked these four as following my experience–especially the last one by Leo Tolstoy. It has been my experience in many, many years of the pursuit of happiness, that I found it when I just decided to be happy. Seriously.
Part of that decision relates to Margaret’s quote and it is the journey, not the destination, and Werner’s accepting what is like the serenity prayer. But, Mr. Koeing’s quote is particularly appropriate because most I know as I did myself will have a strong tendency to look outside of themselves to circumstances, events and other people to bring happiness. My experience is that if that could cause happiness, it would have to be short lived.
Permanent happiness is a daily decision.
The other thing–and this is the most important thing–about Mr. Koeing’s quote is this: ‘recognizing and appreciating what we do have.’ Appreciation is key. Appreciate everything and recognize that it is all good. In the past, you may have interpreted that differently, but now you see a much larger picture of how one thing can affect another and so on. Some of the biggest so-called problems have become the greatest of successes.
The challenge lies only with our decision of how we want to feel and how we choose to look at things.
It’s All Good!
Spread Some Joy Today–There is nothing so easy to affect others than a happy person. Be that today and watch the world change around you!
Daily Inspiration 5-25-10

Daily Inspiration 5-25-10

“Age is something that doesn’t matter unless you are cheese.”
— Billie Burke
“And the day came when the risk it took
to remain tight inside the bud
was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
— Anais Nin
Age is just one of those excuses that we think is perfectly acceptable as a legitimate excuse accepted widely as valid and understandable. There are so many references to age as a factor.
It used to be stated that a woman was over the hill when she turned 30, no more the young chicken and now the old bird. Hogwash. For men, it was the big 40–or heaven forbid, the big 50. Most courts say 14 is the ‘age of reason,’ whatever that means, and other decisions can only be made when one is at least 18 or 21 or 25. Then, there’s the retirement thing: 62 for the early escapers, 65 for the masses, and 70 for those laggers that want the big bucks from Social Security. It’s all made up anyway.
Age is a state of mind. You get to choose your state of mind.
As excuses go, that someday may come where ‘the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud, was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.’ That day is celebrated throughout the heavens as a new birth!
We are what we decide to allow ourselves to be, do and have.
I Choose To Blossom Over And Over Again.
Spread Some Joy Today–Release yourself from any chains that hold you where you are. Blossom! The joy that you receive will be so great that the excess joy will just fall off and land on everyone you come in contact with.
Daily Inspiration 5-24-10

Daily Inspiration 5-24-10

“There’s no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love.
There is only a scarcity of resolve to make it happen.”
— Wayne Dyer
Of the things that I hear people talk about often, it is that they do not like their job, or they wish they had enough money so they could quit, or they long for a job that they would love, but _______. There is almost always something after the but. And, of course, their but is their problem. It’s like saying, ‘I love you, but _________. That doesn’t work for either party, does it? How about, ‘you look nice, but _______.’ Or, I would love my job, but _________. These are all immediate contradictions, aren’t they?
They are also all deciding to not decide and therein by default, the decision is made to maintain the status quo.
What is interesting to me is that this thing about doing what you love (or anything else for that matter) is as easy as deciding that you want it and that you will have it. The part that you must let go of is how that will happen. ‘What is my job, how is God’s job,’ or so the sign on my wall reads. It is so, so true. Why?
Think about what you control and what you don’t control. When you try to control things that you don’t control, frustration is the result. Yet, if you focus on what you can control and let go of the rest of it and trust that it will all work out, it will happen.
I had always wanted to work from home and create my own schedule. That was never going to happen in the job I was in, and I know I wanted it, but I was clueless about how it could happen, so it was just a dream. Then an opportunity happened abruptly. I got fired and it was the happiest day of my life because it was such a relief after months of frustration at work. So, I decided to decide this time. Instead of just going right out and getting another job, I took some time off and let go of all the how, when, where, and who. It wasn’t long, then the job came to me that would allow me to work out of my home and create my own schedule making more than I was making before–and best of all–loving it.
For me, it was the abrupt end of something I had done for 25 years, that shook me with an opportunity to change. It need not be abrupt like that because all it really takes is deciding to decide on what you want, then focusing on the what and the why and forgetting the how, when, where and who. My sign reminds me of who’s job is who’s: ‘What is MY job. How is God’s job.’
It’s always easier than we think, isn’t it?
God Gave Me The Power Of What and Why, And If I Really Want To, He Will Let Me Mess With How, When, Where And Who All I Want Until I Realize That I’m Trying So Hard To Do His Job. Whew! What A Relief That Realization Is!
Spread Some Joy Today–Let go and let God. He’s in your corner.
Daily Inspiration 5-23-10

Daily Inspiration 5-23-10

“We are told that talent creates its own opportunities.
But it sometimes seems that intense desire creates
not only its own opportunities, but its own talents.”
— Eric Hoffer
When I saw this quote, I laughed because it made me think of a scenario that matched this perfectly. I was in a worship band at church and I play rhythm guitar. We had a person playing bass on a keyboard and it was so, so not happening. Frankly, it sucked. There was no flavor, no oomph, it was drab and worse than that, many times the notes she played clashed with everyone else. Not good.
Well, I had a bass guitar at home and I had this inspiration as if God was saying to me, ‘why don’t you play the bass?’ I thought He must be kidding. I owned one, and played around with it a bit, but I was not a bass player. Now, whenever I got that kind of inspiration, I had no choice but to act on it regardless of what I thought myself, so I made the suggestion to the team and brought the bass to a practice. It was pathetic. I never bothered to learn the notes on the fretboard since I played chords mostly, so now I had no choice but to learn it or I wouldn’t be able to play.
But, playing bass is not just playing notes and matching tones, to me it was a mystery, but yet, I loved listening to a great bass player–even more so than a great guitar player. I didn’t understand it, but I kept working at it. Each time got just a bit better. Then I bought a much better bass guitar and almost instantly, my playing skyrocketed. I started making up my own unique bass lines and getting so excited about playing. I couldn’t wait to get to practice and try out some new stuff. It was awesome.
Now this is a perfect instance where my intense desire (or what became an intense desire through a bit of prodding), created its own talent. I had played guitar since I was sixteen and had a certain talent there, but prior to this experience, the bass just eluded me. As it turned out, it brought me a great wealth of knowledge, skill and passion. I think it is amazing to look back on it.
And it is still happening today in other ways. Desire is the engine that drives everything. Feed that desire some high octane fuel and you have a race car!
Talent Is Not Something I Am Born With. It Is Something That Is Created From My Desire.
Spread Some Joy Today–Tear down the walls that you’ve built about the things you think you aren’t talented at. By developing a strong desire, the walls will evaporate before your eyes. You are smart enough, cool enough and wise enough. It’s not about money, time, circumstance, or heredity. It’s about your decision and your desire.
Daily Inspiration 5-22-10

Daily Inspiration 5-22-10

“Ignore people who tell you ‘you can’t’ or try to discourage you.”
— Jeffrey Gitomer
“Keep away from small people who try to belittle your ambitions.
Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel
that you, too, can become great.”
— Mark Twain
I totally agree with these two quotes. Some people just like raining on other people’s parade. But, you know what? I’ll take it several levels higher: you’re perfect just the way you are. You don’t need to be something you aren’t. You’re wonderful the way you are. You are deserving and worthy and you deserve the best.
This is all true and it is also true that this is hard for many to accept because they have bought someone else’s idea of how they should be, what they should have, where they should be and when. But that need be no more. You are in charge of you and there is not one person on this entire planet that is qualified to be in charge of you except you.
If anyone tries to inject doubt or discourage you in any way, it is just the unknowledgeable speaking. For it is impossible that anyone else could have the answer for you because there is not one soul on the planet that is qualified. So, it must be an error. They are obviously mistaken. They apparently don’t know who you are!
I recommend that it is far better to just let it fall away from you. Don’t bother to point out their error. Let them have their fantasy if it helps them feel better about themselves. It is of no consequence because you rock!
I Am Uniquely Qualified To Guide My Own Life.
Spread Some Joy Today–How about if you do something today to really enjoy yourself. If you must combine work, find a way to make it seem like play–like making sales calls from a hot tub! That’s pretty interesting. . . Be creative!
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